Comedy and Tragedy
Posted by Allison Mack | Filed under Thoughts
by Carol Burnett
I think that I found this quote so incredibly profound because I have developed this habit of over dramatizing things that I’m going through. In reality, when we step back and look at what we are doing in our lives, it’s all just an experience to enhance our own existence. No one is making us do the things that we are doing; we choose to do them. And then, at least in my case, I choose to stress out and be miserable while I am doing the things that I say I WANT to do in the first place.
Am I making any sense? Sometimes I feel like I am talking in circles.
THERE I GO AGAIN… over dramatizing and over-complicating things so that I am confused, stressed out and overwhelmed. I even do it with this blog. I spin around in circles trying to say things that are interesting and profound, when really the whole point of this thing is just to express my ideas and hear what you all think as well. Maybe some of you are laughing at the silliness of my pontification right now!
I’ll laugh with you. HA HA HA
Ok… So, I need to remind myself that everything is a comedy and, if I want, I can cut out the time I spend freaking out and make all “tragedy” comedy now. I just need to pull my head out of my bum and stop bringing the drama home from work.
Tom Welling said something beautifully enlightening to me the other day at work. He said, “In the end, Allison, it is everything and it is nothing. It is all just for the experience,” and at that moment, on the Kent Farm, with a man dressed in a silver body-suit flying behind us, I really understood what he was saying to me. And… started laughing! Every moment is about *that* moment, not about the next one I am going to live and not about the ones I just finished living. So I just need to enjoy the ride!
Like they always say “life is a journey”, I want my to be a fuckin’ fun one!
Ciao for this week and thanks for you patience!
Allison
Tags: Carol Burnett, Tom Welling
165 Responses to “Comedy and Tragedy”
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John Leeser Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 12:25 pmI have often heard it said that worry never adds a day to your life, worry doesn’t change anything, and worry probably doesn’t help a person come up with new ideas. It’s easier said, and often hard to put into practice, but when we keep things simple and laugh a lot, the day goes more smoothly.
I don’t think of life as a comedy (although I love to laugh and have fun) or a tragedy (sometimes life does hurt though).
Life for me is trying to live each day being the best person I can be. I try to incorporate Godly values: honesty, industriousness, compassion, love, etc. It’s important for me to treat life seriously because many people depend on me: my wife, children, mom, brothers, and friends. I try to have fun doing whatever I do to lighten the load. Having a job one enjoys certainly makes it easier. I was fortunate in that respect.
Anyway, keep life simple, love God and your neighbor, work hard and laugh.
God’s blessings to you, Allison.
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Amy Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 12:33 pmhey Allison,
I know what its like to stress out and make it more of an issue than it actually is, I know from my recent events thats sped my life in a spiralling pit of hell, you just got to look at the hummor and enjoy the good things in life, and balance the hummor with the tragedy, and what Tom said, is true you have to live in the moment, not what is already been lived..its true that you have to expierence your journey to its fullest potential.. and with half the stuff you have expirenced I can say youve lived … and it can only get better! so Im assuming your life journey will rock..AmzxXx
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James Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 12:34 pmHi Alison
I think your great in Smallville and hope to see you in more TV and movies soon. you always make me smile. My girlfriend however, falls overherself for Tom Welling, cant think why and im starting to get a complex! all the best
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David Marriott Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 12:40 pmMel Brooks once said, “Tragedy is when I stub my toe. Comedy is when you fall into an open manhole and die.” It’s all a matter of perspective. Once you put some distance between yourself and events, you find that you can laugh at almost anything that happens to you.
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Aysha Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 12:45 pmOh Dear Allison,
You are not the only one who tends to over-dramatize things. Call us masochists if you will, but I always blow things out of proportion as they are happening to me. I wallow in my misery and feel sorry for myself. I know exactly where you are coming from. I guess having an over-analytical mind can be a blessing and a curse!
Anything in excess is a bad thing, so I guess what I am trying to say is that we should find a nice balance and pick and choose what we should and should not over-analyze in our lives.
Easier said than done, but it takes a lot of hard work and patience to find that healthy medium between the two extremes of not caring at all and caring too much.
Sometimes focusing on the little things that really count in the end can be a healthy distraction for the mind so that it doesn’t go into overdrive. As you beautifully stated in your last entry, we always need to remind ourselves of the beauty around us.
Don’t be too hard on yourself. You have a beautiful soul, Allison. Never lose it!
I mean, there has to be a reason that I regularly check your entries and feel inspired by them
Take care of yourself, Allison
- Aysha
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Jimmy Valentime Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 1:12 pmI enjoy you writing because you have a flair for the dramatic,
we are the stars of our own stories and if we dont worry about how it is going…. who will. ?but it good to take things in stride
I am exicted for the season to start…
An I hope smallvile doesnt stick you in the back ground this season.
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Denise from MA Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 1:42 pmHi Allison,
I was so excited to turn on my computer and see you BRANDY NEW post. I am so impressed with your honesty and candidness. It took me to well into my 30′s to get what both you and Tom “get” already.
I too have in the past been stuck in the overdramatization of the small stuff, but the funny thing is when the big stuff happened, I was able to remain calm, do what had to be done, and take care of others while taking care of myself as well. I have to try really hard to keep things in perspective when I go all overdramatic.
I have to remind myself of that daily. . .It is everything, and it is nothing. I teach High School in an economicaly depressed, high crime small city in the Northeast, and I have to remind myself of the focus and what REALLY matters daily. It’s not difficult to bring that stuff home DAILY. I have to remind myself of what is mine and what is not. I had supervisors who were straight up lieing about me. I worried so much that I made myself sick. Literally.
I have also had the absolute opposite problem too. I have had to learn in the last 5 or 6 years how not to downplay serious situations, especially with my health. I made a big deal out of not-so-serious health problem, and when I had an ulcer hemorrhage, and actually passed on to the next life briefly, I downplayed to until my physican yelled at me. That was a life changing moment for me, and I realized that when you have your health, you’re doing ok.
I too have decided to LIVE my life, to surround myself with people who I love and respect, and who love and respect me. I travel, I read, I don’t take myself too seriously, and I work. I work a lot, but I only work at jobs that I feel are worthwile. I will not spend one more day of my life doing meaningless work, or work that I can’t be proud of AND HAVE FUN DOING IT!!! You do good work Allison, cause YOU make me laugh and smile every thurday night for an hour. I just love to watch you bring Chloe to life! (now who’s talking in circles. . .)
Enjoy the ride girl, and SHINE ON!!!
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Sally Holland Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 1:43 pmWow, Allison. So when Tom said that did he say it in a straight face? that really does sound funny. I have to say that the things you talk about on this blog are profound and it’s good nalayzing your thoughts and what you do. I love the quote, I have no idea what I would do with out a sense of humor. I’m always saying if I don’t laugh then I’ll cry. sometimes I even find myself laughing when things aren’t really that funnybut it ellivates any awkward or stressful situation.
I have to say though, you and Tom do comedy so well. Your fantastic in those dramatic situations but I love it when you put comedy to the awkward situations that otherwise could be stress ful and heart breaking even. I know that’s probaly the writers doing too, but you pull it off wonderfully.
In the third season speacil features it really looked like you had this great sense of humor too. So keep it up.
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sarah Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 1:47 pmyouR welcome!!!!
aww!! that`s so sweet!! about Tom, in this 2 last upload that you made, i`m noting that Tom is the one who gives you little but biggest evaise you know what i mean??
and about the tragedy….i mean that is what is under a laguh!!
you can`t be happy without been sad first!that is what life is great..to find the ups and downs.
“stick with the fans that the fans will stick with you!!!!”…this is a quote that lucy lawless always say!!(and it`s very true hehehe)
besos y abrazos!!!
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kraze Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 1:47 pm“no day but today” – RENT
Words to live by for sure! I think we all get overwhelmed and stressed out and over analyze everything. Great advice – step back and just enjoy the ride – because it is all too short.
Thanks for the reminder – here’s to the journey!
Cheers from Ohio,
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Jay Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 2:23 pmYou would probably like Buddhism if you liked that quote.
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Brian Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 2:30 pmAllison, I know exactly what you mean when you say ‘talking in circles’ My blogs usually end up saying the exact same point, 3 or 4times all worded slightly different than the last. I try to look at life the best I can and not stress over anything. When you sit back and think about things, what is the point of stressing over anything. If you’re worried about something that might happen or is later down the road, fact remains it will still come regardless of how much you stress over it. So at the end of the day, all you manage to do is give yourself a head ache. And anything that happened in the past, absolutely no reason to worry about. Life is too short to live with regrets. Everything that has happened, is behind us and if it was something that we did not like or did not agree with, the only thing that we can do is make sure it doesn’t repeat itself. And I love the concept of taking everything into comedy. If you spend all your time stressing over the negatives, you’ll never truely enjoy the positives and live life for all that it has to offer.
With all that said, I just want to add that I am a HUGE fan and can’t wait for Season 7 in a few weeks
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Lauralea Sharra Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 2:31 pmOh My. I totally understand you.. I over dramatize everything.. lol.. but most of the time i am being sarcastic..
This is really ironic though.. because in my Honors English Class we are talking about the meaning of the Songs “Mad World” by Gary Jules and “Bittersweet Symphony” by The Verve. & we were talking about how they both have a meaning of people going in endless circles.. like in “Mad World” Mick Jagger says (he wrote the lyrics) “Bright and early for the Daily races, going no where, going no where.” and really.. he saying.. that people just are stuck in this endless circle and can never break free… just thought i would enlighten you! 
.. but any who.. glad Tom was there for you.. he seems like a great friend to you.
HAVE A GREAT LIFE JOURNEY!! BUCKLE UP!!
OMG.. i just read the poll.. haha makes me laugh!!
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Henry Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 2:46 pmThe quote really is quite insiteful. There are many situations in my life that seemed quite tragic at the time and have, only with time, become amusing or humorous.
I have to say that I’ve been enjoying your posts over the last month or so since I found it. I am really looking forward to the start of the season next week.
Take care and God bless.
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chris Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 2:54 pmi don’t remember the exact quote but there were several in “van wilder” that i try to remember.
“never take life too seriously. you’ll never get out alive.”
and
“worrying is a lot like sitting in a rocking chair. it gives you something to do but it doesn’t get you anywhere.”
i over think and over think and stress and then think about the what if?s and when it comes down to it, what’s happened has happened. if you use it as an opportunity to learn either good lessons or hard lessons then it was worth it. any time you can pull a positive out of a bad situation is a win even if it feels like a loss at the time.
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luigi Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 2:57 pmHola allison, esta vez te voy a escribir en español.
maybe the next, I write in english.
Veo que tu estas muy impaciente y ansiosa por comunicarte con todos los que leen tu blog.
No solamente eres impaciente para esto, por lo que estoy viendo
en tus habituales mensajes para todos nosotros (tus seguidores, fans,personas que te aprecian por tu trabajo en “Smallville”, etc)
vives tu vida de manera muy plena pero tambien apresurada.
Vive plenamente, apresurate cuando sea necesario, pero lo mas importante es que hagas lo que dice tu corazon, aunque te equivoques.
Si te equivocas, comienza de nuevo y toma conciencia de tus errores, para enriquecer tu experiencia de vida.Es verdad, todo es nada y nada es todo!!!!
Siempre sera todo o sera nada, segun estes viviendo tu momemto.Recuerda: todo pasa y todo queda , pero lo nuestro es pasar,
pasar haciendo camino , haciendo camino al andar, golpe a golpe, verso a verso (joan manuel serrat, autor y cantante español).
Caminante no hay camino, se hace camino al andar!!
Caminante no hay camino, solo estelas en la mar.No te preocupes, tu vida va a transitar por donde debe transitar.
Actuando en television, cantando, escribiendo, haciendo lo que al fin tengas que hacer, pero una cosa es segura : tu siempre seras
Allison Mack, tal cual eres.
Espero que nunca pierdas tu fresca sonrisa, tu picara manera de mirar, tu alegria, tu preocupacion por los niños desamparados,
tu creatividad.
Lo unico que pido que hagas alguna vez, es que nos puedas dar un poco de tu tiempo a los que siempre estamos leyendo y escribiendo comentarios en todos tus blogs, enviandonos algun mensaje personal, de tu puño y letra, creo que esto seria algo muy bueno para nosotros y tambien para ti.
Profundizarias un poco mas tu relacion con otras personas a las que no conoces personalmente.Todo tiene tiempo y lugar aqui en el Mundo en que vivimos, no seas Impaciente, tranquila, vas por buen camino.
Deseo que la energia de Dios te llegue y te lleve por el mejor camino, igual que al resto de las personas.Creo que nadie se rie de ti, por todas tus cosas.
Tu eres una persona a la que le gusta exponer sus pensamientos y forma de vida.
Te felicito por no tener temor a exponerte a todas las demas personas, y de manera tan abierta.
No cualquier persona lo hace, y mucho menos quines estan trabajando en Television o en el Cine.Sigue adelante como siempre, deja que la energia fluya naturalmente dentro de ti.
Espero que alguna vez me digas algo con respecto a mi creacion musical para que tu cantes.
Un bacio per te
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Whitney Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 2:58 pmI understand what you’re saying. I, unfortunately, am the kind of person that thinks of all the things I could be doing, but doesn’t act on them. All these thoughts of things I want to do or should do, and for some reason I’m not ready in my heart. For instance, losing weight has always been a battle for me. Eating right and everything that goes with it. I want to lose the weight, I want to look good in certain clothes and just feel better about myself. But until I’m ready in my mind and my heart, I just don’t seem to follow through. I know one of these days I will be ready. I just need to have that drive, motivation and determination to do it. Somedays you do just need to take a step back and think of where you are and how far you’ve come. I think of all the other people out there who have less than I do (and I’m not wealthy by any means) and I have to appreciate what I have now. I’m not where I want to be in life. I haven’t accomplished certain things a nearly 26 year old should. But I have to know that things will work out in whatever way and for whatever reason. I’ve realized that you can’t stress over stuff b/c you’ll never be happy. There are things I need to worry about at times, but I’m not going to let it consume me. I’m not going to walk around miserable b/c of certain things I cannot control. I try to smile at the little things and be as content as possible. Plus stress gives you wrinkles.
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I would love to be on a set getting to work with great people. Waking up and knowing that everyday is going to be a challenge and different. Coming in and getting to be someone else for a day would be awesome. I know it’s long hours, but I have to believe that I wouldn’t mind and could do it. I guess I just want to say how cool of a job you have. I hope things are going well so far. If things get stressful, then think back to your happy thoughts. Go around set and find the little things that make you smile. Enjoy those moments, like the one with Tom. Keep up the good work!
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Tanner Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 3:00 pmAllison,
I think its great to hear you have such an optimistic alternative to stressful situations. Being as I make things out to be more stressful than they should be, it’s nice to know someone has an idea of how to pull their head out.
A good friend once told me to follow my heart, not always my mind. Though the mind may be weighed down with stress and rapid thoughts of all the things you have to do, look deep inside yourself and into your heart and ask yourself “Am I happy?” Of course, if the answer is yes, the stress will alway be worth it
I think you’ve got a great head on your shoulders and a heart of gold, and I hope everything continues to smooth out and everything works for you in the end.
Maybe someday you can sit down and think back on everything and see the comedy in the tragedy
Much love to you,
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luigi Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 3:02 pmaahh, Allison ,
please hugs for Tom Welling, from me.He is great friend
stay cool
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Rebekah Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 3:06 pmHey Allison,
It’s true that sometimes little things that stress you out or upset you or seem like a really big deal will at some point just be something to look back on and laugh at.
I, too, tend to over-dramatize. Things could always be worse! I’m currently a master’s student at the U of Oklahoma (meteorology). I came from the state of Washington and used to dream of getting out of there and going to Oklahoma or somewhere with more exciting weather. After living here for over a year, I can’t wait to get back to my home territory, for various reasons. Anyway, I always find myself comparing everything to “back in Washington”, and don’t always take the time to enjoy myself where I am and to enjoy what I’m doing.
Thanks for your post. As has been said in many ways by many people, sometimes it helps to remember that life is more about the journey than the destination.
Keep up all the great work on Smallville; it’s my favorite TV show, and the only one to have kept my interest over so many seasons! I love Chloe’s character and how you portray her. I can’t wait to see what season 7 is going to bring!
Rebekah
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Lance Horn Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 3:08 pmLive life for the moment.. I can get on board with that. Too many people continue to wait for life to come to them and are disappointed because of it. They miss so many good things that are happening right now, while waiting for something they think will be spectacular or special. If you wait to live your life, you might just miss it. Stress is something we bring on ourselves by sometimes placing too much importance on the wrong thing. Enjoy everyday, because there is nothing wrong with living life to your own high expecations..
Allison, I truly enjoy your blogs.. Your passion is evident in your words and I believe that you are a special individual. Take care and enjoy all the wonderful aspects of your life.
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Orlando Mascorro Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 3:11 pmI know that this is totally off the subject but I just graduated from the University of Texas Pan-American and have a Bachlor of Arts in Communications Theatre/TV/Film. I have been researching for a way to try and get a job on the Smallville set. I have my full resume and feel that working on that set would be something that I have been dreaming of. Is there anybody that you know that could help me apply for a job on the Smallville set. Your help would be greatly appreciated.
-Orlando Mascorro
PS You are great on Smallville. Can’t wait to see you on the 27th. Keep up the good work!
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Kyle Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 3:21 pmIt’s best to strike a balance in looking at the experiences in life. Like you said in your blog its not good to over dramatize things; but at the same time you need to give serious things their due attention. Personally, I also have to metaphorically step outside myself and analyze the situation beyond my own two eyes.
Personally, I’m not too crazy about the “living in the moment” idea because realistically you can prevent more drama and problems in your life if you fix things now (of course there are other variables affecting the future). But, as I said before it’s about balance.
Absorb and enjoy the good parts of the experiences in life but at the same time learn and forget (don’t dwell) on the negative things. I’m sure you’ll be fine.
Thanks; and I’m looking forward to the season premiere
-da!
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Paul Yan Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 3:22 pmLOVE the quote… mostly I find comedians to be people with the best views on life. A number of deep, intelligent, and greate quotes, sayings, and pontifications come from people in the comedy industry.
Some say comedians are simply philosophers who find ways of taking lifes mysteries and making them tolerable for the masses to accept.
Hope to hear and read more of your thoughts and ideas Allison. Also, please tell me that you will continue working and giving all of us the great performances that is your norm.
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kate Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 3:29 pmHi Allison!
The key to life is never taking anything for granted! When we take things for granted we lose perspective on the things in life that really matter. No one is guaranteed tomorrow…we could be living our last moment RIGHT NOW! If we spend every day thinking about how mundane our life is or how nothing matters we forget the little things that truly make life amazing. So whenever you feel down just take an honest look at some of the things around you.
Bad hair day? Be glad you’re not going through chemo. Bad drivers annoying you? Be glad you have your eyesight or the ability to drive a car, OR the ability to have a job and own a car…every time we forget how amazing our lives our (no matter how crappy they seem) we lose perspective…we lose our ability to be grateful and truly appreciate life!!
Always remember to take a look at the big picture…you’re still alive and you have the ability to make a difference in this world!! So the next time you forget how incredibly amazing your life can be go visit the local hospital’s children’s ward, go volunteer at a soup kitchen, go pass out blankets to the homeless, and if you REALLY forget how amazing your life is go spend a day at a war camp in Cambodia (they’d trade for your life in a heartbeat).
I challenge anyone reading this to make a difference today, do something totally out of the blue that you wouldn’t normally do, volunteer, make that phone call you’ve been putting off, just do something different!…anything from your normal day…and just be thankful for being alive.
Always be grateful and always be appreciative of your life, the people in it, the things you’ve done, even the mistakes (you learned a lesson, right?)
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Nathali Gil Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 3:31 pmI love you! Ok I just had to say that. By the way, I think everyone stresses out over stupid things, and then when you look back on it its like “what the fuck was I thinking?” IDK…Im a little brain dead from school…so…yeah…LOVE
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aqgalaxy Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 3:32 pmAllison,
Darling, sweetheart, bella, you are human. Believe me.. many people goes through the same experience as you did. Honestly it makes sense… you are a beautiful 25 year old woman, who has made a name for herself and should be proud of their success. I am sorry for not commenting on your previous blogs, but I still read them. Bella, you IMO are going through a quarter-life self evaluation. It mimics Mid Life crisis but not as intense. You, according to what you are telling us bella, you are near the end of your Smallville experience, so you know the changes of Life are on the horizon. You are scared, yet excited at the same time. You did something for about 7 years now… and that constant is changing… no wonder you zoned out. LOL.
Sweetheart, like you said, Life is a journey and you want to make it a fun one. You are doing what you want… and I think the reason why you are down is that you know what you are doing, (Chloe) won’t be there and it scary. It’s like Senior Year of High School. You are happy to be there yet sad to know a major change in the horizon.
So what you are dramatizing… everyone does it. But there is a point when you over dramatize, and that’s when you should laugh it off.
Honestly Life isn’t a Comedy nor is it a Tragedy because it’s a combination of that and more… Life is also a Drama and a Thriller. Life isn’t a journey for Journeys can never end, and to be bluntly honest, there is an end point darling. Life is however is a Gamble. One day it’s a Comedy, next you experience a Tragedy, other days it feels like a Drama and some days it’s pure Romance… Thing is, life is all these things, it is the matter of which way the dice roll. My father always said:
“Life is a Gamble, but Death is a Guarantee”
There is an endpoint… but it’s up to you how it will not only end but what will you feel. There will be days where you feel low… like life dealt you a rough hand, other days it’s a full house and you taking home the jackpot. The key is… it’s easy to remember rough hands then the good ones, but in reality, you are always dealt the good hand more… You have family who loves you, friends who loves you, lovers who loves you (I hope or… wow you wild girl
lol) you have all Fans who love you! Girl you are loaded with love! And yet you depressed? NOW THAT’S HILLARIOUS! Hehe Look, darling, sweetheart, bella, gorgeous… life is a gamble… focus on your winnings then your losses, cause more then likely, your winning out number your losses immensely. Also know… losses helps you learn to throw the dice a certain way so you can keep WINNING!!! Hehe. Why can’t this work in a casino damn! LolCiao bella,
The Italian from Reggio Calabria,
Gabriela Amber Angelini-Mathews
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shell47 Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 3:40 pmyeh haha i stress myself out over stupid things. i think its a human nature thing. everyone does. some more than others. but yeh. i feel crazy replying here, but i dont care.
YAY for you cos your cool.
love love love
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Melissa Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 3:43 pmHi Allison, well I was so afraid because I thought I was the only spanish girl in this blog,but now I reat the comments and I found another person who speaks spanish(Luigi) jajaja.Anyway Allison don`t worry about anything,just say what I say every morning when I wake up:”Vive la vida loca”.Well not exactly going cazy in your life,just have fun in all the things you do,ok?
Well Alli,I hope you follow my little advide,and as you see my english isn`t as good as all the people who writes her,jajaja,but I`ll try to practice and study more english,please forgive my errores jaja I`m just a peruvian girl from Peru jejeje.Take care,bye………Cuidate mucho,chau.Melissa. -
Deb Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 3:49 pmWhen you see someone on television everyday you almost forget they are in fact human like the rest of us. These insecurities are only part of the thrill of being alive. If it wasn’t easy, it wouldn’t be worth it.
Then again, I deal with it by reminding myself that the best way to handle drama, is to avoid drama. Life is as easy as you make it.
You are doing a great job, and from a bystanders view – I see you handling yourself very well. Keep your head up sweetie, its bound too get better.
Best wishes, luck and love
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Massena Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 4:06 pmYour entries made me think about the quote “It’s too early to tell” and how sometimes you can’t see clearly until time has lapsed.
Like the story of the “3 Questions” by Tolstoy. I found a link to it (it’s a very short parable) on a page with the story of a Taoist Farmer.
http://www.noogenesis.com/pineapple/Taoist_Farmer.html
These thought provoking parables seem like something you might enjoy.
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Joel K Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 4:48 pmAh, stress and worry.
Those little moments that creep into your life when emotions collided with reason and spontinaity. Should you…or shouldn’t you? Go left or right. Hitch-hike, bike or Yellow cab it?
Tom is absolutely correct. It’s all about the experience. Live, breathe, partake in the revealry that is life and ALL the adventures that come before you.
Two quotes, if I may. I once commented that Stephen Grellet was correct when he said, “I expect to pass through this world but once. Any good things, therefore, that I can do, any kindness that I can show a fellow being, let me do it now. Let me not defer or neglect it, for I shall not pass this way again.”
It is also said that “All the world’s a stage and we are merely players playing a part upon that stage.”(sic)
I still believe this. But I also believe this can be expanded to the idea of experiencing the moment so that it will benefit others and yourself. Don’t let your craft define you…let yourself define the craft you are in. Drama…is a part of life in many facets. You, Ms. Allison, just have to take and shape those facets into the beautiful diamond which is what you evolving into.
Then, you will truly shine!
Peace and good fortune on the upcoming season and all your endeavors.
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Sarah Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 5:09 pmNot taking thigns for granted…living in the moment, boy have i had to start telling myself that this year…it’s my senior year and already it’s zooming by….
Just keep telling yourself that.!! I want my life to be a fuckin’ fun one too!!!
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Scott123 Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 5:15 pmGreetings,
I have to say, I am impressed with your courage. Yes, that’s right, your courage. You can see the changes coming, and you ask the questions, and then diligently go seeking the answers! That’s very cool, Allison.
Mark Twain once said” If your wagon breaks down, you do three things: first, swear, then curse, then fix the wagon.”
I take a more Jungian approach, I say, “In life, there are two realities: the one inside your head, and the one outside your head.” Be mindful of both.You’re a sweety!
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Brianne Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 5:15 pmHi Allison,
Thanks for sharing your thoughts with your fans- and I am a big fan! It makes me feel better to hear that you have some of the same thoughts and feelings and stresses that “ordinary” people like me do. If you are going through a stressful rough patch, I hope everything works out for you soon.
I really enjoy reading your blog and I can’t wait for the season premiere of Smallville!
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Chris Sewell Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 5:27 pmYou know something Allison, I am in total agreeance with you. Life should be about the “right now” factor. Too many people get caught up with everything and don’t take the time too let the drama go and just be happy with what they do have. And, by the way, i love how you give so much insight on what your thinkin and going through. It’s very refreshing. I’m looking forward to next season. My wife and I are huge fans. Take care of yourself. best wishes,
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Tomnbecky Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 5:29 pmHey Allison,
I know what you mean about overdramatizing things! As I live “in the moment”, it’s hard to stop complaining and actually take a look at the big picture. But recently I have slowed down, taken a breath, and realized that I can enjoy life and my family. This brings me back to my purpose in life, which is to love God, my family, and others. If I do this, I’ll have no reason to selfishly exaggerate MY life!!
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Rachel531 Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 5:35 pmI guess no matter what field of work you’re in (whether it’s acting – like yourself – or business systems consulting – like moi)… it’s hard to NOT bring work home with you and to feel like the world is going to collapse around you because this one thing isn’t going your way…. but we all need a reminder once in awhile that although in that one moment, it may same catastrophic… it really is just one blip in the radar… and that this will pass and life will go on and you can add another notch to your belt of life experiences… I know, I’m starting to sound like a shrink or something… but it’s true. You have you health, freedom, family and loved ones… these are what matter most, and everything else is just part of the journey…
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Mandy Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 6:14 pmAllison,
Who is it that said, “This too shall pass”? This tends to be my philosophy when it comes to situations. I do my best not to overthink things that are going on in my life, but I have been known to dramaticize every now and again. It’s our inborn need for attention, and it’s normal.
It might seem like you keep talking in circles here, but I can tell you that you’re not. I look forward to your blogs because they make me think and open new lines of thought in general. I don’t remember which entry it was, but early on you said something that I found so profound and wise that I printed it out and shared it with some of my students. The looks on their faces were somewhere along the lines of the lightbulb lighting up above their heads. It was a cool moment.
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David Dwight Hayes Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 6:44 pmHi Allison,
I have gotten into the habit of laughing almost immediately when something really bad happens to me. I’ve been laughing a lot because of it … but not nearly enough. It’s helping me survive. I have heard the saying that “we are going to laugh about this eventually, so might as well start now” and took it to heart I’m trying to not overdo it, because if you get too comfortable with it, you start laughing about other people’s misfortunes before THEY are ready to laugh … and that is a highly insensitive thing to do. Example, when I heard that Johnny Hart, writer of the comic strip BC had died, I immediately blurted out, “I wonder if he is writing “AD” now.” Someone immediately told me “TOO SOON!” I guess that means that it will be funny to someone someday. To me, it was a pleasant image of a man sitting at a drafting board continuing the work that he loved in a better place. Still it was a thoughtless remark and I should have mastered the art of keeping my mouth shut long before my 50th tour around the sun.
Carol Burnett. Three degrees of separation. Friend of Tim Conway … born Tim Conway … writer for Ernie Anderson, faking it as a TV director (because the TV station didn’t hire writers) and fired from TV8 station in Cleveland so that he would take a job in Hollywood. The man that covered for Tim and did the actual directing was Big Chuck Schodowski who never got fired so he stayed and starred in local television for 44 years until his retirement this year. David Hayes worked for Chuck Schodowski as artist, prop builder and writer until he had to go out and earn a living as a draftsman/designer/engineer/inventor.
Tom Welling: “… It is all just for the experience.” I hope that he and you realize what a blessing it is that it is JUST for the experience. To me, I could have experiences I chose as long as I could afford to eat a little and afford a hole to crawl into. I would do a portrait, check my bank account, decide how much longer I could have experiences I chose, then create something else. A friend who is an engineer wants one thing most in his life – to be a farmer. He says that if he won millions in the lottery, he would become a fulltime farmer … until he ran out of money and had to return to engineering. Likewise, I could be an artist and writer and philosopher and a dreamer while I had some money in the bank, because no one was interested in paying me to be creative. So, I do what I can get paid to do and try to be creative in what I do … no matter how much I might get punished for it. So, if you can do anything just for the experience, be grateful … be very grateful! Not that you and Tom haven’t earned everything you have. But there are others who could have been brilliant and have made all the right moves but have missed their opportunities through no fault of their own — and I am not speaking of myself. My ideas never had any real merit – like stories of a female Kryptonian that rescues Lex from drowning only to have him become infatuated with her. Then I was silly enough to have her able to fly at an earlier age than Clark because “girls develop faster than boys.” Ludicrous! What was I thinking! We’ll never see anything remotely like that on “Smallville!”
Hmmmm. Where was I? Oh yes, being successful enough to do things for the experience. Getting paid to do what you aspire to do. I have a friend named Jennifer Wilson who is a brilliant opera singer. She didn’t fit the formula and couldn’t get into the programs to groom her for success, but she landed enough grants and taught voice lessons so she could continue in the work that she loves. She stuck to it and kept working and had the opportunity to pinch hit for a couple different divas that were unable to perform and absolutely shocked everyone by how brilliant she was. Everyone asked how such brilliance could have gone un-noticed. But when they looked, they saw that the system made allowance for her particular genius. She was ready when her opportunity came … and some believe that if a person is ready, an opportunity will come or can be found. But I think that, had a couple people sucked on zinc lozenges at the right time, my friend could have been overlooked. [She is also a fan of “Smallville” and has writes wonderful Smallville fan fictions.] Forgive me, Jennifer if I screwed up the details.
What else. Ah yes. Mark Twain: [paraphrased] “Don’t let the truth stand in the way of a good story.” No one wants to hear a story without any drama to it. Even if there is a lesson to be learned, no one will be listening if the delivery is too dry. That is why I can speak freely at this point. Everyone is safely asleep by this point! If a spoonful of sugar helps the medicine go down, maybe a spoonful of drama helps the point come across. Unfortunately, most of us are jaded. I had the privilege of watching one of my favorite actresses, Margaret O’ Brian, crying in the movie “Journey for Margaret.” It went from a whimper to out and out bawling. Not that there wasn’t drama in that movie, but today, just having a child cry isn’t considered enough to get an audience emotionally involved. You may have heard of grade inflation where teachers are expected to give higher grades for more mediocre performance. Likewise, things have to get increasingly gory or shocking or sexual or … dramatic to keep the audience from switching the channel. If someone ‘only’ gets decapitated in a movie these days, we yawn. Yet if we are in a bad mood and step on a straight pin in our stocking feet …! [If we are in a good mood, who cares about the pin!] If it’s your foot and your pain, by God it’s real … and significant … and even if you have to exaggerate the pain a little (or a lot) to get someone to look up from their crossword puzzle it’s justified because that pain is there and very real at the moment and somebody somewhere better notice and at least pretend to care! I applaud anyone that can tell a story and understate the drama and get a modern audience to feel something … because the apathy inflation will eventually grow until we all just can’t feel a thing no matter what the stimulus. So if you want $10.00 an hour, ask for $14.00 an hour and you may get the $10.00. So if you broke up with your boyfriend because his feet stink, tell people he was unfaithful to you to get the sympathy you deserve. That’s the only way to deal with double-digit apathy – enhanced drama.
I have to stop now because my two typing fingers are worn down to bloody nubs now (not even a callus … see how it works? Wink … wink).
Take Care,
David
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jamiecutie23 Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 6:58 pmI am not going to try to make this a gush post, but I adore Smallville and especially the character of Chloe. she has so many dimensions, depth, vim, vigor, especially her lines that really hit home and I can personally relate to in some ways. u bring that character to life. =) for me she is like the lois clark loves when he is young.
okay, enough with that lol but seriously i love what u do and I have to agree with the value of the NOW. that what u are doing is your choice because u always have one. the past is gone in the wind, and the future is far off what we have in our hands is the NOW and that will contribute to an awesome future if we CHOOSE to do so. no matter what is happening u have a supportive fan that thinks u are an amazing actress. enjoy the ‘fucking fun journey” =)
i know u are terribly busy but i would die (in a nice way) if you could send me a myspace comment.
hope you have more posts here.
ps-you have a great singing voice, ever thought of a musical?
pps – i love what tom said, he seems to be so profound. *sigh*
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michle Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 7:26 pmAllison,
I think you are an incredible person with an incredible gift. When reading your blogs, I feel like I can relate to you so much! It just shows how sincere and genuine you are.
ok, enough with the praises. haha
Well, I understand what you are going through, at least in the sense that you describe it. I too have to start making my life journey a fun one. Like you, I tend to over analyze myself and any little thing I do. Latley, I have been thinking about how I treat myself and how I look at the world…its really cool that around the same time I decided to live for the moment, you decided to write a blog about it!! So, thanks. I know you must feel alot of pressure from us fans who admire you so much, but I know you are human…so just remember we all trip and fall sometimes, but its part of the journey!!
I am so excited for the return of Smallville and for my favortite team: Chloe and Clark!!
I have to tell you, I only just got addicted to the show about 3 months ago while in Peru visiting family. In peru, i bought all the seasons thus far. I have to say, the show is great!! Thanks for making a very likeable character!Adios for now!
-Michelle PilarP.S. I just read comment 29 from Melissa.
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Joel McNeilly Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 7:37 pm“Comedy is tragedy plus time”- Carol Burnett
I agree entirely, but in reality it’s not the tragedy itself that becomes comedy, it’s our reactions to the tragedy.
The Three Stooges got into some outrageous situations, but the comedy came not from the situation itself, but from them getting frustrated and turning around and poking someone in the eyes or throwing a cream pie.
So if you get into a stressful situation YELL!!! As loud as you can until everyone around you starts looking at you funny… you still deal with the stress but you move on to the comedy pretty quickly
So next time you get stressed on set, throw a cream pie. You wont remember why you were stressed, you’ll just remember the comedy of a cream pie to the face
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sheryl225 Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 7:41 pmIt truly is this moment! This moment is the only moment we are living. Everything else is either past or future! Balance is good–but humor is essential. Sometimes that humor is black–I work two jobs, and one involves dealing with the IRS–great source of black humor there! The other is the front desk of a motel. Lot’s of opportunities for humor, there, too! Sometimes the smile comes not from what you can do, but what you’d like to do!
Laughing at situations is a great way to deal with the inherent stress in those situations. A good memory of something that USED to be tragic, but is now humorous also helps show a perspective for the current situation. (I find junior high memories are good for that!)
Appreciate the past, savor the present & look forward to the future. And do it all with a laugh, or at least a teary eyed smile.
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nomeysan123 Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 7:50 pmWow you are really lucky to have a great friend like Tom. I have watched interviews with the whole cast and it is like watching one happy family. I have been thru a lot myself and if I didn’t have the right people around me I don’t know how I would have made it.
Just remember that everything happens for a reason. You are a very talented person and you bring joy to many people every week. You may not understand things right now but one day you will look back at you career and be amazed. For now be glad that you work with Tom because just being around him would bring a smile to any girl’s face. -
Wendy Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 8:28 pmWell Allison, it’s nice to know you’re human.
I think it’s easy for any of us to toil in our own personal dramas, big or small. I find if I can step outside myself, it helps me gain perspective.At the end of the day, it’s the end of the day. It starts all over again tomorrow. Try to enjoy the lows as well as the highs and you’ll have a wonderful collection of memories.
Cheers.
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James Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 9:04 pmThat’s right, just have fun!
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M!a Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 9:31 pmallison you are oh so wonderful and you always bring a smile to my face when i read you blogs.
much love
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matthew flores Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 9:54 pmthat quote you put reminds me of that woody allen movie “crimes and misdemeanors” its a good movie…if you havent watched it i recommend it.
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Bridget Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 10:11 pmwow..that Tom Welling,what he said was incredible i think my view on life has just done a 360.Allison,girl don’t worry i am sure everybody feels that way from time to time,just stay positive keep you’re chin up and all will be well.:) love you’re blogs hope to read more soon.
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Darwin Seed Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 11:09 pm“over dramatizing and over-complicating things…”
“…talking in circles…”
This will either afford you an unhappy existance or a career in politics.
“I wouldn’t want to mislead you by doing other than saying however easy it would be for me to answer the question you have asked, it is not fair for me to go further than I have. And I would not read too much into that.”
That is a quote by someone in governement. Can you tell which governement, decade or the politcal stripe of the speaker?
They seem to have all said as much…or as little.
I can safely say…if you find yourself in any measure beginning to
resemble one of these…scream and run away! Change things quickly! Go cold turkey.Bertrand Russell pointed out that “The tragedy of one successful politician after another is the gradual substitution of narcissism for an interest in the community.”
We all can get a little bit too self-involved from time to time.
And I am a BIG proponant of the “Embrace your Inner Goof” philosophy…rarely is there an apsect in life that isn’t in some state of flux…laughing sooner rather than later (as I believe I have mentioned previously) Is an escape…not from truth…but a narrow escape into faith.
Laughter helps “sharpen the saw” as it were…keeps all of our “tools” capable of function.
Then, as much of the quality of life is the positive difference we can make…avoiding the trap of narcissism which replaces our interest in others and the community…
…we are poised to make that difference.
Sharpen our saws…then use our tools…our talents to make that difference.
Lots of things await to throw us off that simple formula…
The key then, is to be aware.
You do pretty good on the whole awareness thing.
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Ghost Says:
September 17th, 2007 at 11:16 pmWell I am glad to see you finally got that power you’ve been wanting. I am sorry I don’t quite follow the show though I do buy the seasons. I believe every good writer needs to dramatize the gravity of the situation in order to grab a reader. If you didn’t do such well you wouldn’t have to bother writing. Anyway your dramazation is a good atribute to your writing. I find that you are a good writer as well as a actress. Keep up the good work. Audition for some films while you are at it. If you keep trying eventually you will get up there. I won’t give up until I have made it. It will be difficult but in the end you will be victorious. You will see. I will be expecting you to think of my suggestion.
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Tucker Says:
September 18th, 2007 at 12:36 amThank you. Simply…… Thank you.
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sanna76 Says:
September 18th, 2007 at 1:38 amHi Allison,
I totally know how you feel because I feel the same way too,quite often. This is my first comment ever and I´m happy to be able to share some thoughts with you and others. I´m struggling each day at work, trying to do my best but expecting the worst. My superior is driving me and others crazy mainly with her narcissism. All she does matters and all she says is so much more than if it was said by someone else. She lives in her own egoistic bubble that´s destroying us bit by bit. Harsch words and accusations but so true, unfortunaltely. I try to cope but it isn´t easy. To able to enjoy your work should be something for everyone but things don´t always go the way you anticipated them to be. But I won´t give up the fihgt. I want to confront her and ask if she would like to be treated the same way.Lots of love from a far!
Sanna
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Lydia Says:
September 18th, 2007 at 2:20 amIt’s good that you have friends you can talk to. Hats off to Tom for his wise words.
I hope you’re feeling much better now and I wish you a good week.
Lydia
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courtney Says:
September 18th, 2007 at 2:52 amhey Allison
i think you are such i nice down to earth person and a great singer u should realise an album you would sell heaps lol
congradulations on getting a teen choice award you deserved it
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David Dwight Hayes Says:
September 18th, 2007 at 3:12 amPS. Last night as I laid in bed wondering what I wrote in your blog, something struck me that I wanted to share. Some people have mentioned going through self-evaluations and doubts when they were in their mid-twenties and related to what you are going through. It dawned on me that you may be experiencing a double whammy. Most people who go to college end up dragging the 4 years into 5 due to course changes and indecision. If they immediately find a job when they graduate, they start their careers at age 23. My step-son is 27, at home after getting his finance degree and, unless washing dishes at a restaurant is to be his life profession, hasn’t even started his career yet. Assuming someone gets a job in their field at 23 and retires at age 66, that’s a 43-year career. At mid-career, they would be about 44 years old and may be questioning if they want to continue doing what they have been doing for another couple decades. Having started acting at age 4, you are 21 years into your profession at the advanced age of … TWENTY-FIVE! Rather than look at you as a 25 year old looking ahead and having concerns about the future, maybe we should look at you as someone halfway through a normal career span and evaluate your issues that way. (Either way, it is it is always a pleasure looking at you.) Sexist comment aside and considering how long you have been doing what you have been doing, I feel that directing that episode early next year will do you a world of good! Enough said? Too much said?
Okay.
Take Care,
David
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Mick Patterson Says:
September 18th, 2007 at 3:42 amAllison,
your latest blog stirred inside me the same thoughts and feelings I’ve had for years. It is fantasic to see others so alike, and therefore so many of us in and around the world are so alike…why then is there so much hatred in the world and WAR. You bring a peacful and calming thoughts to us through you blogs, you are a beautiful person, fantastic actor and ambasador to your family and friends…anyway all the best with future projects and hope to see one day you win awards you so richly deserve…
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Maurice L Says:
September 18th, 2007 at 3:46 amHey Allison,
I just stumbled onto your blog trying to figure out if Chloe lives next (this?) season Anyway your post kinda hit home for me. I’ve personally been under sustained stress for quite some time now, and I know I’ve become less of a human being because I wasn’t really coping with it. I mean, I don’t kill kittens or anything, but I’m a little more withdrawn, and I know I was rude to a few people today and that didn’t need to happen.But you’re right. It’s all self-inflicted. And twenty years from this moment, I’ll be lucky to remember any of it, let alone care. Ok, so I have huge problems at the moment; and yeah, they need to be solved. So I will. But I won’t let myself despair (anymore) about it because I only have a finite amount of emo points in my life, and I’ll be damned if I use them now.
I’ve ranted more than I wanted to, heh. Anyway I hope you get the chance to read this entry so you know that at least one person found some comfort in what you had to say. I don’t have a quote to throw back at you, but will you take warm fuzzies instead? It sounds like you could use some.
Keep being awesome.
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tola tesan Says:
September 18th, 2007 at 3:57 amHey Allison
I completely understand where you are coming from….life is a rollercoaster with a lot of bumps on it way but the destination is always beautiful.
I have noticed over the years (only 20)….bad and depressing stuff that have happened to me always follow with a bliss of happiness, it like I have to go through something to learn and achieve or receive that good that is coming my way…it like a storm…if u find yourself caught in a storm…it is stressful but once it calms down…the silent and sense of peace that comes, you can not experience another peace or joy like this one. It is truly worth waiting for……..when life gets a bit tough, I just look at the sky and think of when I came into this world, the joy my parent felt to have me…..my friends the ones that love me…what tomorrow is going to be like because I know the Lord will provide…and the thing at the present will seems so trivial.
I tend to stress over everything in the wrong way…like anything big…will be ok and I would probably find a way to laugh and distract myself but anything small robs me the wrong way and often takes over my mind for that period of time until I remember like is short and I do not know tomorrow….I need to enjoy as much as I can right now and look forward with the positives.
Thanks you Allison for the opportunity to write this…it has differently opened my eyes to some vital things in life…thanks…and GOD bless
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Knight1 Says:
September 18th, 2007 at 4:42 amNah… I would never laugh at you. Here is a HUG! I feel like you needed one
I guess my words won’t hit home so far down this blog but hell might as well do my jig…lolYou’re very real and have a lot on your plate at this stage in your life. I think you handle it with grace and dignity, not like other celebrities that are out there in the media all the time. Things, situations, jobs in your life will always have an ending; it’s a chance at a new beginning. What a wonderful thing to always start fresh and have a second opportunity to test different waters. You are in a rare and dynamic position. What people wouldn’t give to have a spot like that in life!
I really can’t relate to that quote…I guess because I see comedy as a moment in time to release laugher and add a few moments of joy to life. They say laugher is the best medicine and it increases longevity.
Now tragedy, I‘ve seen enough of that but there are times when I want to be reminded of it because it jogs my memory to what was then and this is now.
Life is good, it may not always go 100 percent your way but hell at least it’s moving along and hopefully you’re healthy at that point.You’re a talented actress and I think you will move along at a steady pace in your career, I believe in ya. Just breathe, soak it in, enjoy the ride until you have to get off and get on the other ride, which I bet will be even more thrilling.
Peace Knight (huggles)
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Denise Says:
September 18th, 2007 at 5:26 amAllison, You put into words exactly how I feel when it comes to stress and worry. We could be sole mates. I wish I could take Tom’s words of wisdom to heart, but life keeps getting in my way.
My friend and I will be visiting Vancouver the last week in September. No husbands, kids or dogs for 4 days, just 2 Virginina girls out to have a good time. (we’re trying to eliminate that stress and worry) I would love to run into you and have a nice talk. I know you’ll be working hard and won’t be out an about, but I can dream. You may see me taking pictures of the studio from outside the fence, if you do give me a big smile!!Keep on Keeping on kid!! Give Tom a hug from me.
Denise B.
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Gustavo Says:
September 18th, 2007 at 5:29 amHi allison I love your words!! i love your thoughts!! i Love your work! I think that you are such amazing person i like your personality Sorry for my english i’m from Venezuela, I’m writing you to know that you have fans on the other side of America From venezuela your fans love you and We wish you the best! For the best person Ever!
We can’t wait For the premiere of the new smallville Season, just for Watching you!!
Ciao Allison Te Queremos Mucho!! Kisses!!
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Puffy Says:
September 18th, 2007 at 5:34 amMy psych 101 skillz says that much of this angst is coming from some warped hyper idealised self that you strive to be and that you keep punishing yourself for not achieving. As such babe, I think you need both a hug and a bit of a slap upside the head. While your tendency towards self deprecation has a sweet charm to it, you really should give yourself a break. For sure, aim to change the patterns that make you unhappy but sweetie, you are human and as such are allowed to have quirks, frustrations and days where you are just downright pissy. People will still love you and value you.
Cos you rock chickie
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Rebecca Says:
September 18th, 2007 at 5:48 amAllison,
Can I tell you just how much I love that description of laughing at work at a realization that finally hits you?
I laugh at myself all the time over stuff like that and it makes me smile to hear you describe something simliar.That is a mighty deep Carol Burnett quote and who would know more about comedy than her?
When I read the quote, I thought about how tragedy can bring us down, but over time, things get better (they always do because really, we have nowhere to go, but up after failure or sadness). We can learn to laugh again, even after something terrible might happen to us and I think that is a greatly inspiring thought.To answer your question:
Yes, you’re making sense and we ALL go through it.Who knew Tom Welling was so poetic? I’m glad his advice made you see things in a different light that lightened the mood. It’s nice to have good friends like that.
Tom is definitely right in the fact that you can’t let things get you down. You just have to keep moving on.Thanks for sharing your thoughts and hope you have a wonderful week!
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Robin Says:
September 18th, 2007 at 6:27 amHi Allison,
Well, what can I say….
I actually treat life too seriously and get so caught up and worry about such mundane problems that I guess it would help to just laugh at them..it remends me of that Eris Idle song “Always look on the bright side of life”..
As for going in circles ..well I am now not rejoining the police service and again am looking for something enjoyable to do for a career..I’m right back where I started in my reply to one of your first blogs…Haha (you gotta laugh at my stupidity)!
Also one of my worst habits is going over past decisions again and again..wondering if I made the right ones..which of course does not help as like you’ve written we live in the moment not past ones, what matters is the here and now!
I’ll end my reply by saying I’m sure you are a serious actress who takes their craft equally serious but remember in whatever you do in life never take yourself too seriously…just have fun…and in turn us fans can continue having fun while we watch each episode..lucky us!
All the best,
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Elizabeth Says:
September 18th, 2007 at 6:42 amHey Allison, Thank you for your blogs. I find them encouraging. We all have that same inner battle trying to figure out the why’s and how’s and everything else. I have come to a place in my life that I have realized a few things…
1. I can not change what has already happened, I can only learn from it and make better choices going forward.
2. I do not know what the future holds, and I am not completly in control of where it goes.
In understanding these 2 points I have decided that all that really matters is what I am doing right now. I try to step back and look at every situation before I react and determine – Does it really matter? Is this worth getting upset over? Or should I just let it go. I try to find the comedy in all situations – I don’t know if this is a defense or what, but it helps me make it through each day with a smile on my face. In every situation there is a positive in it somewhere and I seek to find that rather than dwell on everything that is going wrong. I take what I can and move forward. This has helped me keep my peace!!Keep up the Great work, and thanks for sharing!!
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Matty / inLove_with_Chloe Says:
September 18th, 2007 at 7:12 amHi Allison,
that’s a great quote this week, I completely agree with both you and Ms Burnett. Don’t you ever think we’re laughing at you!!! We never do that……we are very interested in your well-being. I am glad that Tom helped you to see a more happy/relaxed side of things. You guys must be very busy, it’s important not to get too stressed, IMO. He seems like a very nice person. I am glad you guys are getting along so well……now, if only your 2 characters would get along even better……romantically, I mean. Hehe…..I hope you don’t mis-interpret our comments here as criticism, I know we tried to cheer you up a little, however I am not sure how well that worked. Tom seems to be doing a better job at it than me…….oh well, who can blame him? My girlfriend would probably agree with me here. LOL.
Making a ‘tragedy’ of things can be very productive, if one doesn’t obsess about it too much, you know? On a short time scale it can be motivating, cause it proves you’re ambitious and you want more/better things. That’s great. You are obviously not only incredibly talented but also very ambitious. That’s awesome. I believe that’s why you’re admired by so many people….. On a longer time scale, however, it’s important to forget about the tragedy, once in a while, and see the beautiful things in life. last week’s blog was very important in that regard, IMO.
If one focuses to much on the tragedy, one gets melancholic, maybe even depressed. No one has put this into words better than the French contemporary writer Michel Houellebecq, in his bitter novel ‘Les Particules élémentaires’ (‘The elementary particles’), where he writes:
“Notre malheur n’atteint son plus haut point que lorsque a été envisagée, suffisamment proche, la possibilité pratique du bonheur.”
Loosely translated that means: “Our misery only reaches its high point once we have seen, reasonably close, the possibility of happiness”.
Yes, I like being melancholic, sometimes. Hehe…..
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ClarkandChloe06 Says:
September 18th, 2007 at 7:18 amHi Allison,
Yes you make complete sense when you say you feel like your talking in circles. I feel the same way sometimes. I tend to alway’s over dramatize everything. I’m a total Drama Queen. I’m alway’s stressing myself out over even the littlest things in life. I’ve alway’s been told to live life in the moment and yet I don’t listen. It’s one of my flaws. It is true what they say “Life is a journey” and we all need to sit back relax and enjoy the ride.
I bought season 6 of Smallville this morning and can’t wait to go back and watch all the great episodes. I’m getting so excited for season 7 to start I’m counting down the days. lol
Take Care Allison.
~Jennifer~
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Kathy Says:
September 18th, 2007 at 7:27 amSo I just need to enjoy the ride!
Like they always say “life is a journey”, I want my to be a fuckin’ fun one!I hope you don’t mind, but I had to quote this! This is a great philosophy to have, and one that I’m trying to follow as well.
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tasha Says:
September 18th, 2007 at 7:43 amhey allison
u r such a great person but i recommend saying MONKEY when u r feeling upset because it always puts a smile on my face. i know that this is really random but hey i am random. but try it it does work.
tasha
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Elizabeth Moser Says:
September 18th, 2007 at 8:12 ama fitting topic this week for me. I found myself completely stressing over a silly little decision I had to make on Sunday. I even felt guilty when I made it, even though at the end of the day no one was hurt or damaged.
Saying that life is a comedy is so true, though there are times when I don’t quiet get the joke! I think you just always need to remember, its never as bad as you think.
I always have trouble dealing with people who are hurting emotionally, and my coping mechanism is to laugh. Sometimes it seems insensitive but I don’t mean it that way.Anyway I man in silver suit? Yea thats funny. I hope you are enjoying being back at work and are able to enjoy it a bit more. Its always really hard going back after a great holiday.
Take care
Cheerio
Liz x
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Priscilla Says:
September 18th, 2007 at 8:37 amHi sweet…
You’re so cute and lovely!
Luv ya so much!
I don’t know speak english pretty well because
I’m learning (I’m from Brazil)
So I just wanna say that I am a big fan yours!“Never give up”
Kisses baby
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Stephen Says:
September 18th, 2007 at 9:54 amWow Tom dropped a nice little diddy into your hands.
Those are words of wisdom and comedic genius.
I think of all the endless possibilities and sometimes get bogged down by the fact that I can’t do all of the things I’d like to do. S
o at some point I have to tell myself, “We complicate simplicity simply because we can,” just to keep things in focus.
All this thinking about the day before yesterday and the day after tomorrow doesn’t make today come or go any faster, and even if it did, I’d miss out on today.
We’ve got to enjoy the god times as they come.“Everyone has their consuming thoughts consuming time
We’re all somewhere else while we’re supposed to be here
I’ve seen myself in many places with many different faces
We want someone to hold, yet we can’t seem to let go
No, we never learnt how to say no to the things of yesterday
With all the things we’ve ever done
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Denea Says:
September 18th, 2007 at 11:01 amHonestly, I think you just defined every intelligent woman’s burden! Being intelligent often means being analytical, and being analytical often means being dramatic.
I know exactly what you’re talking about. I do precisely the same thing, but I’ve never defined it. I actually share this personality trait with my best friend, and we often find that we are annoying each other with this similarity. Luckly, we both recognize that that is what it is.
Fortunately, I’ve come to recognize when I’m being ridiculously dramatic, and I just have to take a step back and reevaluate… put everything back into perspective. Something that seems so big at the time will eventually seem so small later.
So.. don’t be too hard on yourself. You’re only human. You’ve worked hard, and just because you love your job and have had a lot of success doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be allowed to complain. You’re a woman… it’s our right of passage!! : )Much love,
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David Z. Says:
September 18th, 2007 at 11:27 amI absolutely agree with you Allison, that everything we label as good or bad is simply our interpretation of that situation. I am also one to over dramatize things and I’ve learned to enjoy the moment and make it the best. When we want something to happen we complain that it never happens but when it eventually happens we tend to complain over the workload it brings us. Like you said, life is a journey and we have to choose to enjoy every moment of it. Tom Welling was right in saying, “In the end, Allison, it is everything and it is nothing. It is all just for the experience”. All the things and tasks that are presented to us is a challenge we should overcome wholeheartedly. All these problems when we overcome it becomes a distant milestone in our lives. Sometimes at the moment, the problem or conflict, seems big but after its over it becomes nothing. It’s just something we crossed over to get to a better place. And we never look back on it ever again. Sometimes I complain that I am not at a better place than I am right now but I realize that if I did get to that stage, “Would I be the same person I am right now?”. So I’ve learned to enjoy the work I do in school and the quality time I spend with my family. I don’t want to rush it or dislike any part of my life in any way. Because you do have one life to live and, like you Allison, I want to make it the damn best experience ever!
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Jake Says:
September 18th, 2007 at 11:57 amCertainly, life is all too short and transitory. Therefore, we must try to live it richly and fully, with kindness for ourselves and others. At the same time, we must shoulder our responsibilities, show tolerance under trying circumstances, do thinks that we find unpleasant or unrewarding, and try to devevlop some personal depth and quiet peace
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Mary Says:
September 18th, 2007 at 12:11 pmAllison,
Sounds to me that perhaps you are reaching a crossroads in your life. Things will be changing and while that is exciting it is also unsettling. People that you care about, jobs, relationships will all come and go throughout your life and that is hard. But what is a life well spent without all of these experiences? Stay true to yourself, be good to others and enjoy the ride.
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David Dwight Hayes Says:
September 18th, 2007 at 12:36 pmRef Comment 71: I’m afraid to ask this, but what’s a “diddy” … and is having one dropped into your hand a good thing or a not so good thing. Whatever it is, my company makes Purell and I would suggest you use it on your hands after handling a diddy!
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Joy Says:
September 18th, 2007 at 2:25 pmGood ole’ Tom, I had no idea that he was such a philosopher. :p
I did laugh almost the whole time during this post, but only because its soooo incredibily true that its laughable! Thats crazy! But about the dramatic part, personally, I have it in doses. I hold in everything thats bothering me, or that upsets me, or stresses me in until it tears me open to escape. And then I explode, and its usually when everything is already gone. Silly I know. It shouldd be something I work on.
I loved your interview.
You look so beautiful, and its great that you feel honored to have us fans, but really we are probably just as honored to have you as someone we admire.I wonder if you still read these comments :p You must be busy
I hope you are doing well. Thanks for the great blog. We always enjoy reading it.
JOY
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David Dwight Hayes Says:
September 18th, 2007 at 4:11 pmKeep the drama! Prince William will get around to proposing to you someday, then it’s only a matter of time before you become you will be THE drama Queen!
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Loren Says:
September 18th, 2007 at 4:20 pmHi Allison,
Well, I’m Brazilian and I don’t know English!! Just a little bit!!
HAHAHAHA…But I’m trying!!
Sometimes I feel the world in my back and I’m just 16.
I have so much dreams,but I’m unsafe.I want to realize all this dreams, I want to be a journalist but as you said: “Life is a journey” and I want to follow this journey.So,Allison,you have great friends and this is very good because they are always beside you!!
Well,I have to go now,my brother is coming!!
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ToriAnn Says:
September 18th, 2007 at 4:32 pmAllison, Allison, Allison,
U totally rocked me w/ ur last blog… I thought about it for 24 hours b-4 i thought to comment.
Yeah….Life is a journey- Enjoy the ride -a f***in fun one.
I am going to send u an e-mail in the next few days or so about this on your myspace account. I hope someone gets it to you. I have thought of something to share w/ you about a month or so ago but did not have the guts to do it. But hey all the worst that can happen is that u think it is a nutty idea.
So once I collect my thoughts and gather my info -I’ll send it off.Gurl – u have made my week with that blog…u have no idea.
Bye for now
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Taylor Nikole Says:
September 18th, 2007 at 5:40 pmHaha i was laughing!
Its always great to laugh..
I ‘write in circles’ alot too.. maybe not as much as you..
but im close..
I think this is one of your best blogs..
it made us laugh.. and I personally had a fun time reading it..
people are drawn to writing and stories.. becuause they get to see something going on from someone else’s point of view… and they get to hear someone else’s thoughts..
i think that’s nice..
but i also do write and talk alot..
so i guess i may have no say in this anyways…. live life on the edge (for a little adventure).. in the moment.. and have fun with it..
but be safe..
i always hear that from family Taylor Nikole
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Sue Says:
September 18th, 2007 at 6:34 pmIts your time to wonder, discover, make mistakes, learn from them…thats the whole part of the journey…dont beat yourself up for your mistakes….just recognise your own actions, keep what you like and discard what you dont….its not that hard…people tend to overcomplicate life by judging themselves and those around them…life really isnt that complicated, we make it that way…just enjoy what you do, who you have around you and the rest falls into place. The older you get the more you discover how easy it really is and feel so stupid for making things so hard on yourself to start with lol…its nice to see someone so young develop so early…enjoy the ride. Love starts inside with yourself, and once you truely love the person you are life will be so much more than you ever thought it could be whether you are a big star or a homeless person. Remember laugh often and at yourself
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EVAN Says:
September 18th, 2007 at 7:07 pmHEY ALLISON. IT’S SOUNDS TO ME THAT YOU’RE QUESTIONING WHAT YOU WANT TO DO IN LIFE AND WONDERING JUST HOW IMPORTANT YOUR CHOICES REALLY ARE. I WONDER THAT MYSELF AND THE TRUTH IS I DON’T KNOW. I DON’T THINK ANYONE KNOWS. ALL I CAN TELL YOU IS TO TAKE IT ONE DAY AT A TIME. MAYBE MAKE A LIST OF THINGS TO TRY AND IF YOU FIND SOMETHING YOU LIKE THEN BY ALL MEANS GO FOR IT.MAYBE THE POINT OF LIFE IS JUST THAT,LIVING! AND EXPIRIENCING NEW THINGS. HOPE THIS WAS SOME HELP TO YOU. TALK TO YOU LATER.
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Kris Says:
September 18th, 2007 at 7:20 pmYep. We’ve all worked ourselves into a stress-fest at one point or another. Especially when we have a job that we understand is bigger than ourselves.
In the end, they all are, right? No matter what we do, as parents, teachers, doctors, actors, or any one of a million career options – we can never fully escape the influence we have on others, nor the responsibility we have toward our own happiness.
No worries. As long as you play as hard as you work (or find a way to do both at once!), and accept every challenge as an opportunity, it’ll be a great ride.
Have fun!
Kris
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Rafe Says:
September 18th, 2007 at 9:27 pmYou know, Allison, sometimes I feel so lost and feeling that nothing is gonna work out that everything what remains to me is to laugh, like you said, turning tragedy into comedy, but saying is easy, when we reach “that point”, we stress out, I stress out. It’s a part of life that unfortunately we cannot change. Like you said before, “skimming the surface” is appropriate for these moments.
Just a guess: Don’t you think you may be a little undecided lately?… Needing a little fresh time out to put things on place… Usually, these “over-complications” like you said, come at these times. I say that by my own little experience. Remembering that I only say this trying to get better your well-being, of course!!
Let’s see now from the angle I believe most about you!! :
See… You have your work friends, us, your fans everywhere, you have me, hahahaha, but it’s true, you know that. If someday you talk to me (I don’t believe I have this luck), I will show you how much you have and you probably did not realize that is so much more than you think.
Now, get your life and make “a fuckin’ journey” from it!!! You deserve it!! Because all this is just to make you feel that you are ALIVE!!!
See you soon…
Take care…Ciao for now…
Rafe.
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bourdieu Says:
September 18th, 2007 at 11:19 pmAgain, what’s missing in your comments is politics. Life is what you want it to be if you have the power to make those choices. So you need to think about where power lies – with nationality, gender, race, class, all those categories. Growing up in a favela in Brasilia or a suburb of Los Angeles makes very different choices possible.
As for Tom Welling’s comments, between “every-thing and no-thing” is some-thing. Everything means it is all about me, that I am at the centre; nothing is the other side of that, which is that it is all too big for me to make sense of so I’ll act as if it doesn’t matter. Both positions abandon an acceptance of personal responsibility towards others. Between them is “something”, a recognition that an individual life is part of a social, political and cultural structure. We may not have much power in our lives but step one to empowerment is recognizing the shape of the society in which we live and our place in it.
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Kathryn Says:
September 19th, 2007 at 12:04 amI’m not laughing.
Not at all.Maybe I’m a little scared, though. Not really scared, but still… every time I read your blog, I feel like you’re writing down these thoughts that spin around in my head all the time, the questions you deal with, the reflections about the world and about who we are, the never ending struggle to find out what life`s about.
I really love the Chloe character, but the realistic (and sometimes sarcastic) part of my head tells me every time: “remember, it’s just TV, it’s a role, this has nothing to do with the actors or the people behind, you know nothing about them”. And then I read your blog and I hold my breath and I’m speechless again and again and I wonder “How can she KNOW all that?”So… I really, really want to thank you for making me pause for a moment every time, to allow myself to think about life, about what’s important, for that little escape from the hamster wheel that life can be.
THANK YOU. SO MUCH!
Greetings from Germany,
Kathrin
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Erik Says:
September 19th, 2007 at 1:14 amusually when we get a good idea for an endeavor to take on, it’s more than we think it’s gonna be.
i understand the stressing out. but if anyone’s got determination and drive to spare, it’s you allison!i’ve found that while maybe everything in life isn’t a joke, everything can be treated like a joke (eventually right? at least carol burnett would agree.) so live in the moment, laugh about all of it, and blog whatever you want.
cause we’re just here to enjoy reading your thoughts. they don’t have to be poignant or earth-shattering all the time. you shouldn’t stress about a blog.hope ya get through whatever else may be keeping you from laughing these days!
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Marcel Says:
September 19th, 2007 at 1:52 amHi Allison,
I just got to find out about your website and am astounded that power of love your character seems to transmit in the series is actually part of yourself as well.
It’s as if a warm sun is shining inside of you and beaming it’s love through every pore. Keep up touching other’s peoples life’s, bringing hope and understanding of life and love.On topic:
“And time …” is essential. I think you will find yourself in this internal struggle more then one time. Life itself tends to live up to the quantum theory of Einstein: we are often going in circles in time. I mean it might be possible that you find yourself in ten years time experiencing the same emotions and doubts as you experience now.
You live those emotions, move away from them and sometimes you loop back inside that circle. Everytime a little wiser and stronger.
I see it as a crossing between his theory and a “Zen like” learning tantra where you have to go through the whole circle to come out a little wiser and a little more enlightended.
I hope i am making sense, what i am trying to say is, try to enjoy even those times during the ride that your head is stuck up your bum, because its in those moments you’re charged with energy which you pass on to others. This is most obviously your super power.with affection,
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MortalReckoning Says:
September 19th, 2007 at 3:03 amI haven’t read the other Comments, so I don’t know if someone has already mentioned it, but…Has it ever occurred to you that the reason you ARE such a good actress, is BECAUSE you ‘over-dramatise’ (as you put it)?!? Sure, sometimes we need to take a chill pill…but not always *winks*
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Leo750 Says:
September 19th, 2007 at 4:28 amI think, Allison, you should be happy, but always there’ll be one thing.
I have a question, and I’d like to get an answer.We all think if you could send us a message, you’d be cool.
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Will Says:
September 19th, 2007 at 5:28 amHEY,
I came upon this site just by browsing around. Now, for sum reason, I always come back due to the interesting things you say. Makes sense I must say and helps one think a bit…you know? lol
I’ve got that same problem, over reacting with things that just isn’t worth the time wasted.
And at the end, we learn to push through, giving us the impression that life is a very narrow tunnel which we must climb through to get to the other end. WHY do we do that? lol
Just comes down to what you said, life’s a journey, enjoy it ..and when it comes with its hick ups, laugh in the face of being depressed. It doesn’t help worrying so much but still makes life a lil bit interesting and helps us develop like we should. If everything just came our way everyday…that’ll be boring..haha
Life’s a learning journey, so I’ll say learn, laugh and experience.
Thanks for the reading stuff, makes one think again!!!!
Keep on doing what you do well Allison, you great at it!
Enjoy your week
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Patricia Says:
September 19th, 2007 at 6:08 amHi Allison,
I discovered your blog, and I always read what you write here!
Well, I never wrote in comments, but with your last post, i felt how you are sad.
Sorry for my bad english, I am Brazilian and my english is so basic… so I hope that you understand what I mean to speak to you.
You are a great actress, and with what you write here, we can see that you are a great people. You sing beautifully!
And good peoples don’t deserves feel bad like you are feeling.
I know that, sometimes, is dificult do feel good. But I like to think that I am a good people, I don’t have physical and mental deficiencies, I have one house, I have friend, family, boyfriend, food, confort… I have so many things that other peoples don’t have. So, I need feel me good. I am blessed.
And I think that is like you must feel yourself.
I know that each one has your problems and your parameters, but sometimes this makes me to feel better.
Exists one famous phrase of a Brazilian writer, I hope that helps you to feel better: “Felicidade é a certeza de que a nossa vida não está se passando inutilmente.” Érico Veríssimo – looks for the translation.
I hope that you be happy, ever!
Sorry again, for my english!
See ya!
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Tosha Says:
September 19th, 2007 at 7:59 amAllison,
I don’t think there’s much more that I can add to everyone else’s comments and advice, but I can encourage you. Life is rough. It’s hard whether you’re an actress on a hit primetime action/drama or a 23 year old mother in a small town, but you’ve got to keep your head up. You’re a strong woman with great talent and wonderful friends. Life may be a journey, but each journey begins with a step.
I hope you’re having a great Wednesday!
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MK Says:
September 19th, 2007 at 9:26 amI absolutely agree with you. There is no past, there is no future, there is only the individual moment. The rest only exists in our minds. And in that case, we choose how we react.
I believe we are creatures of light and joy and that we long to return to that natural state. So why do we trap ourselves so often in worry and depression? Because we don’t know ourselves.
But you’re on that journey now. You’re discovering your responses and how you’re sabotaging yourself. And that’s something to be celebrated. It’s incredibly brave of you to share that journey with us. So what if you end up in circles sometimes? It’s ok. Honour where you are and know that you’ll eventually get where you’re going.
At least, that’s what I tell myself when I get in that state.
On a separate note, I’ve also suspected that Tom was a deep soul. Thank you for confirming it.
On a third note, I’ve been blogging myself the last few months, using your blog as one of my models. I know you’re really busy but if you’re curious, you can find it at http://onebigumbrella.blogspot.com/
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Scott Rizzo Says:
September 19th, 2007 at 12:19 pmAll that we see or seem is but a dream within a dream. – Edgar Allen Poe
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Trigo Neo Aji Says:
September 19th, 2007 at 1:22 pmha ha ah hahaha, like a laughing Budha!
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João Rômulo Negri Says:
September 19th, 2007 at 3:31 pmHey dear Allison, como vai?
Well, there´s a while that i don´t come here. I completely forgot that i used to come here and comment about your opinions. I´m sorry but i´m here again.
I think i understood all you have said: We have to enjoy the moment not for the next moment but enjoy because this moment, is the only and will never repeat again. This is what i´m trying to do and i think each day is a new day for me.
I hope everything is ok with you. I miss to see you acting because the Smallville´s episodes are repeating! And i still didn´t saw the last episode, i mean, i saw but i think it has a second part.
I promise that i will come back as soon as i remember
Take care,
Bye
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Pilar Says:
September 19th, 2007 at 3:44 pmHi, Allison… I agree with you and I loved the quote!
I don’t know if you’re going to read this, but I want to thank you for all you’ve written, specially the last posts… You make me think a lot, Allison xD!! I don’t know how I can say right what I’m thinkin’ now… but sometimes we forget that our lifes are to do what we want to do… And we do what the world wants, hoping that in this way we’re going to be loved. But the only thing we get is going stressed and sad… And it seems like a circle… But we are living to learn, to have fun and to be happy. Yesterday I read an article about that… But sometimes (to me) is very difficult to change what I’m doing… Even when I’ve noticed how is being my life… I hope it’ll change… Thanks for all Allison! You’re helping me with this problem…
I hope you’re going to live the life you want to live!!!Kisses from Chile =)
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Fernie Says:
September 19th, 2007 at 4:02 pmJust in case you haven’t gotten around to translating the portuguese quote: “Felicidade é a certeza de que a nossa vida não está se passando inutilmente.” Érico Veríssimo
(rough translation via spanish)
“Happiness is being sure that our life is not being wasted”(More poetic translation)
True joy is in knowing that our lifetime isn’t worthless(the word “inutil” translates as “useless/worthless”, which isn’t usually applied to “life” in the english language)
Anyhow, an awesome quote that I hope you can enjoy as much as I did.
As to your own quote: I prefer to see life as a comedy. Bad things happen, things need to get done, but the longer you brood on those things the less you live life.
-Fernie
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Tramont Says:
September 19th, 2007 at 4:42 pmHi Allison!
It’s great to hear from you again. I totally agree on what you say, and Tom’s advice is great. It’s just a matter of living the present, you don’t have to care about the past or the future, but of course sometimes you have to think how the present will influence on the future….
Be sure that you aren’t the only one who tend to over dramatize everything, nowadays all of us stress out just because of simple things, and that’s what impede us to live “the” moment.
Just relax, try to be surrounded by the people who love you and by all of us!!! Your fans… lol.
I really enjoy listening from you and I love all your topics, writing on this blog is kind of a therapy, lol…. In my case I feel motivated, I just want to share my feelings with you and the rest…
Thank you for that Allison!!!!I’m leaving now. Just remember how many people love you and that will definetly give you strength!!!
Greet the rest of Smallville cast…..See ya!
Enjoy your week….
Bye.P.S: Try to upload more pictures!!!!! lol….
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Tramont Says:
September 19th, 2007 at 6:37 pmI dont know why, but I think my last comment hasn’t been “sent”.
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APRILLL Says:
September 19th, 2007 at 8:05 pmwow that’s incredible i’m just exactly like you!! always stressin’ out about the things i chose to do!!! i need to enjoy the ride!!!
there’s a song called IT’S JUST A RIDE BY JEM if you have the chance you should listen it! it’s really helpful..
you should practice yoga or meditation too it will be good to not feelin so stressed.can’t wait to the season premiere of smallville!!!
take care!! greetings from mexico
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Pilar Says:
September 19th, 2007 at 8:55 pmI agree with Tramont… your topics are like therapy for me xD!
thanks!! seriously =)
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rob turner Says:
September 20th, 2007 at 12:39 amLately I feel the same way. Maybe taking things seriously offers us a glimpse of how far we’ve gone, or want to go. From being an actress, actor, or that other person in a coffee shop, its something to just see an expression and that says more than a few words.
Just by closing your eyes, a few things come to mind, hopefully a moment of clarity, or hope. Whatever it may be, it must be promsiing. Best wishes.
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bourdieu Says:
September 20th, 2007 at 1:44 amOh, and wonderful though Carol Burnett is, a nod to Karl Marx might be in order: “Hegel remarks somewhere that all great, world historical facts and personages occur, as it were, twice. He has forgotten to add: the first time as tragedy, the second as farce.” The Eighteenth Brumiare of Louis Bonaparte (1852), p.7
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eitje Says:
September 20th, 2007 at 5:04 amyou said before that your favorite time of the year is the break, where you get to go off and travel around the world, seeing new things and enjoying new experiences.
maybe you could consider comparing that yearly travel life to your daily work life. if you can find differences, then adjust in whatever way you feel is appropriate and judge what comes next.
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sandra harma Says:
September 20th, 2007 at 5:28 amhey Allison,
I just stumbled across you’re site today, while looking for more info about smallville(have become totally addicted to the show recently,also your ‘s and tom welling’s characters are my favourites). I read through some of your latest blogs and felt compelled to comment.
I believe that by being open to all the amazing possibilities life throws at us we invite laughter and happiness.it’s all to easy to stress and worry about things, over- thinking is a very human trait. Sometimes when I watch my cat play, she’s sooooo totally engrossed in that moment and i think to myself, if only I could stop in time and just be.I read somewhere(i’m sure many have heard the expession) “life is what passes us by, when we’re busy planning ahead”,how true that saying is. Live in the moment…Also a note on loneliness, in one of your previous blogs you mentioned how difficult you find it being alone.We all feel that tug sometimes, i’m currently working as a live-in animal care assitant looking after 20 rescue cats and yes I’m the only one here,i go through some days not talking to anyone and have even taking up singing to the cats(madness slowly taking over), but what this time has taught me is that I’m stronger and more capable of handling stressful and emotional situations, than I ever gave myself credit for. I’m also no longer scared of being alone with my thoughts.I’m sure you are a very capable and strong person,we all have times in our lives when we question ourselves and the paths we’re walking along,but as long as you listen to and follow your inner voice you will find what you’re looking for…And as always music is a great helper.
Anyway, enough rambling, I have to go and feed some kittens and spend time with some of the feral mad ones.
Belive in yourself,anything’s possible,
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misslane Says:
September 20th, 2007 at 7:26 amHey Allison!!!! I don’t know how you do but I laugh a lot with you hehehehe!!!
you are totally funny!!!! hehehe!!! I love reading your words!
and I see how you grow up day by day.I understand when you say that you are talking in circles. I use to do it too!!
I’m afraid is about the miles of thoughts we have at the same time hehehe! You know that women think of everything almost all the day.. well.. all the day heheheSo, I am happy you are better than before and I’m happy you see the life how the life really is: happy, sad, interesting, boring…
Life is how we build it and the direction we take in every decision and thought
however the most important thing is LEARNING in every experience we live, be good, be bad and enjoy every little second we live day by day.I use to live such as if the tomorrow never comes!
Because of it, I use to say “I love you” the people I love and my dog Lois of course!!! hehe she’s the best!!! hehehehey allison, you should write about your pets someday in this blog!!
I know that you love the animals and it could be a pretty blog!!take care allison
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Neil Says:
September 20th, 2007 at 9:58 amHey Allsion!! I would first love to say that I am such a big fan of YOU. Not just your talents, but also the kind of personality you project into your blogs. I’m a big fan of Smallville and hope you get much more screen time as Kristin Kreuk’s character fades into the background.
Don’t stress out too much over events in your life. Being an overly analitical mind myself, I know this can be hard to do when you have down time. But it also keeps the dramatic juices flowing. And that I think is essential to good acting performances. Just find a way to keep it all in perspective. If you need to vent, you have friends that I’m sure would let you. If not, you can always email me. I’ve spent some time in counseling for all the stress in my life as well. My daughters happen to think I’m a great listener and advice giver my ex- used to think so too ..LOL). So if you feel the need … email me!!
Be well … Live Long and Prosper!
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-Kevin- Says:
September 20th, 2007 at 11:21 amWhat Carol Burnett said, and what Tom Welling said, are very true, though it is your humanity that prevents them from being personally relevant all the time. It is your humanity that attaches meaning and significance to particular events, that produces highs and lows, peaks and valleys. Without it, you would never develop any sense of perspective, or any sense for those moments that truly are meaningful.
Thinking, feeling, sensitive people need to be reminded to gather a little perspective from time to time. It’s important to have people in your life that can throw that missing element into the mix. If, on the other hand, you were a perpetual-motion machine, never stopping to think and absorb, to interconnect ideas and form concepts, to recognize trends and predict outcomes, to analyze and synthesize, you wouldn’t be much of person. I don’t think you’d be much of an actor, either.
I prefer to be the thinker-feeler type that has to be provided a frame of reference from time to time, as opposed to the constant-mover that doles out the advice. It’s a continuum, so most people will fall somewhere in the middle, but I prefer people on our end of the spectrum.
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hugesmallvillefan Says:
September 20th, 2007 at 11:55 amHi Allison,
you’re right we should just enjoy the ride. we should have fun and not stress over things. i want to have fun, so i should just have fun.on another topic i can’t wait to see the season premiere. it s only one week away.
hope you have a great time filming smallville
hugesmallvillefan(Craig)
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Michael Says:
September 20th, 2007 at 12:01 pmAllison, Worry is something we all do. We all have this we want to still do, thing we dont want to miss, people who mean the world to us, and dreams we havent chased yet. Do take worrying as a bad thing, when you worry remember that you have family and friends who care and love you, if you make a wrong choise or mess up they will be there to help you back up and when you are your usually amazing self they all will congratulate you. We all worry and all take chances, so having fun and laughing with one’s self will keep worrying at bay, plus writing it here is cool. None of us would be here if we didnt all care and want to know what makes one of this world’s finest who she is inside. Keep believing in yourself and always smiling, Mike
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davidh1113 Says:
September 20th, 2007 at 1:17 pmWhoa! What’s with the f-bomb Allison?? Guess you were a little caught up in the moment. Anyhow, I am very good at making the simplest thing overly complicated!!!
Tom was certainly right on when he told you the other day life is about living “in the moment” for the present is truly all we have, and I am thankful for each one. My brother posed a question to me about something the other day, “aren’t you worried about…?” Anyhow, it dawned on me then how unnecessary worrying is, so I replied to him, “okay, I am worried to death, does that change the situation?” Then a moment later I told him, “okay, now I’m not worried, so explain to me how worrying makes a difference except to put undue stress on me?” The funny part is, my brother did not have an answer!! George Bernard Shaw once said, “My way of joking is to tell the truth, it’s the funniest joke in the world.” Profound words, and once to reflect on as you enjoy all the moments of your life.
Kind regards.
David Harvey
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arcangel bello ordaz Says:
September 20th, 2007 at 3:04 pmhi, Allison, im from mexico, and i not speak english, pero quiero deciros que solo por hacer mis tareas de la universidad me he dado cuenta de que tienes un sitio en la web, por lo general nunca ando fisgando por internet, si no es para mis labores, pero eres un encanto, me gustaria tener contacto contigo, Dios siga bendiciendo tu vida,
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Angy Says:
September 20th, 2007 at 3:45 pmAlly
well it’s great to read u again and for the million time u are absolutly right!!! gosh I mean it’s very ease to loose perspective u are in constant motion so believe me u are not alone in this sometimes I feel desesperate but remember WE ONLY HAVE ONE LIFE TO LIVE!!! so live to the fullest!Just as always hugs for u and Michael!!!
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Vanessa Says:
September 20th, 2007 at 5:27 pmHey Allison,
I Agree with that, I try to make every second of every minute worth it. I’m a very very goofy and funny full of energy type of person. I like to laugh and making people laugh. My friends and I get way uber hyper sometimes so were super crazy and we do really stupid things together (Good times, good times I laugh every time I remember dose things we do) We sometimes make no scenes at all but it’s so funny! we just start to laugh and do a silly dance, singing along to a really weird song. {By now you may be thinking “What a weirdo huh ?” lol haha}but that’s what I love about everyday laughing and smiling at everyone!{Vanessa}
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Matt Says:
September 21st, 2007 at 2:24 amHaha I think I am in love for the simple fact that you said fuck in your last blog and have it on a website.. THAT makes me laugh.
Love Smallville and have totally geeked out for the last month and watched them all. Laughed and cried through the various seasons and think its amazing that you and the other actors of the series can make people feel things like that by playing a part in a story. Stories are very powerful parts of life for some (myself include) and I find myself shaped by them. Dont get me wrong I do get out and live when away from work but the hero idea about superheros is very strong. I work with kids and hope that I help shape their lives and make them into better people.
Keep up the amazing work and pass on congrats to everyone (lol like I know them…
) Looking forward to Season 7.Matty
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Alison Says:
September 21st, 2007 at 3:12 amI was shocked when I stumbled upon this site, I expected just another celebrity site with like random facts about them and some pictures splashed here or there but seeing a blog entry and not just ANY blog entry but one that makes sense and is actually inspiring surprised me to no end. In a good way. I’m glad you have your head on straight. Keep on keeping on basically.
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Mark C. Potts Says:
September 21st, 2007 at 10:00 amAllison, Sometimes I feel like I’m reading about myself when I read your writings. It’s rather spooky. Anyway, one of my favorite sayings that I use in life is: “If at first you don’t succeed, go for the entertainment value”.
I wish more people could be honest with themselves and others as you are. There are so many plastic people out there with no thought processing, it’s like just reading the book cover without reading the book. You are quite a book, plus a beautiful cover.
If you get a chance, check out the biography of Steve McQueen on video. It shows how somebody can be deep and strive for what is actually right. Plus, he loved life and it loved him back. He was quite a guy. James Coburn was another good one. On the female side, it’s hard to beat Kate Hepburn, she was awesome.
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letia84 Says:
September 21st, 2007 at 10:47 amI feel so bad that have been messing out on this blog but I’m here now. I just listen to clip of you singing and I have to say you have a damn good voice. Any interest in musicals? I also want to say that I just saw clips from the CW source. Thanks for the spoilers and it such a joy to see someone so down to earth.
On to the quote for the week. I often find my self laughing at the tragedies in my life. To many times I can see myself over thinking it thus everything about life is shit. But the truth is I think I have pretty darn good. A husband, in grad school, wonderful parents and great friends. I have all these great people in my life and I’m doing what I want to do so often look back on something I was so stressed over and felt like it would be the end of the world and laughed.
No worries about the talking in circles. I think we all fall victim to it from time to time.
I’m not really thrilled about Smallville this season but I wish you all the best and hope you are still having a great time with it.
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joewho Says:
September 21st, 2007 at 1:04 pmcome stai allison?..this joe from montreal…you know when we are on vacation…we have more time..more time means more reflection….my advice….yes laugh..enjoy ..dont stress out to much….however…dont ignore youre feelings…maybe there’s something that`s missing in you life….looking forward to seeing more of your wonderfull performances on tv…ciao:)
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Beautifuldreamer Says:
September 21st, 2007 at 8:46 pmHey Allison,
Very interesting blog this time sure has given me alot to think about. By the way I think you are always you have always been my fav character on smallville. So glad you won the teen choice award again you deserve it!Hugs
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Thiago Denuni Says:
September 21st, 2007 at 9:30 pmHi Allison,
I can understand what you’re saying, like, things we do comes back to haunt us, and how we concern too much about the future. Well, I think this is completely normal, specialy for a extremely busy person like youself.
I’m a brazilian guy, and the verb “to worry”, translating, is “preocupar”. This word, in a formal translation to english, means “to occupy before happen”. See? We should not worry about things that might happen, or things that we can do nothing about. I’m not saying to do not worry with anything. What I’m trying to say is, worry about what really matters, and that’s all.
Best wishes and keep up the excelent work!Thiago Denuni
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Camilacg Says:
September 21st, 2007 at 10:22 pmALLISONNN:
the first thing that came to my mind reading your post was… SCHOOOOOOOOOOL!!!! argh so irritating!!! and the famous word, SO STRESSING!!! i just finished exams (I GOT HIGH SCORES!! YAYYY except for… …) and now all my projects and notebook revisions are due for wednesday argh i hate that, when i was in school in the US the teacher didn’t even look at my notebook but in my country is totally the opposite… notebook presentation has a mark! and we have to decorate and have our notebooks with all the things that the teacher copies in the blackboard every day, everything! it’s obligatory! oh and also i have to talk for half an hour about the indohina war and in the same day to talk 10 minutes about the political situation about my country (which i haven’t even investigated yet)… what else… i’ll make a list!!
I have to…
monday!
-finish my art proyect (paint sakura card captor)
-exhibition about the indhina war
-exhibition about the international petroleum companyTuesday
-present my physics homework
-geometry oral test
- english final exam! hahaha that’s easy!(i speak spanish)Wednesday
-oral exam of spanish TT.TT
-present my sakura drawing
-algebra notebook revision
-economy homeworkthursday
-Biology notebook revision
-Mathematical reasoning notebook revision
-Spanish notebook revision
-present an album about the novel “pride and prejudice” (i feel stupid and desperate because i haven’t read it yet)friday
-show my physics project to the teacher (i dunno what proyect to do… i was thinking about doing a rube goldberg machine, in my country few people know about them)
-aritmetic notebook revision
-trigonometry too
- and my most hated subject CHEMISTRY!!!!!!!!!!!ARGH I HATE IT!!
in my monthly exam i got a 6 (the highest score in Peru is 20, from 1-10 you fail and from 11 to 20 you pass) HOW AM I GOING TO TEL MOM?? TT.TT save me! she’s is going to crucify me! I’m a dead girl… .. ..if my mom finds out, the next day the headlines are going to say:
“Girl dies tragically after telling her mom, she failed chemistry”
this is going to be hard, wish me luck allison!Allison, i realised i feel good writing evrything down… i should create a blog =D but first i have plenty of homework to do!! hehe
as i’m writing this i feel as if you were listening to me.. and i like it… maybe you are never going to read this but… writing this makes me really happy.
Thanks allison!
Ahh i’m tired i think i’ll go to bed, tomorrow is going to be a very long day.Bye take care!!! and try to enjoy a bit more what you do!
besos y abrazos
from your friend-Camila-
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Carlos Eduardo Says:
September 22nd, 2007 at 12:52 amHi Allison!
You understood Tom’s thought while a man with a silver body-suit was flying behind?, seems totally hilarious! jajaja Besides I wasn’t there, I could visualize the whole situation. You’re very funny!
Getting inside what Tom said, it’s a nice point, I’ve already read, received advices and thoughts about that topic. We ought to live the moment and enjoy everyday fully, because each moment is a new chance to change our destiny and be happy. It’s interesting, but the problem I find out is the possibility of losing the perspective of life and the challenges that have been planned for the future. It’s needed to define a kind of limit to don’t forget what we are and what we want to live. Honestly, I had left those ideas pass by, but now you’ve left me thinking about them once again.
Patience? I feel plenty delighted of reading more and more about your thoughts. You’re doing a great job for yourself and for everyone who visit this blog. Each blog’s entry promotes thousands of thoughts, ideas and solutions. You’re extremely intelligent for having created this space.
I like the way you talk about your problems and fears, specially to so many people at the same time. It’s really valuable to see that you don’t care about showing your vulnerable side. In contrast of a huge group of the society who always repress their feelings just to seem strong and perfect. I think the beauty resides in the imperfections.
So extend your ideas, keep laughing about yourself and the situations you live and smile a lot. Sometimes I think what might happen if i get a total balance of my emotions?, now I realize that if it were so life wouldn’t be so interesting as it is! We’re human, we are weak, we need each others and we were born to be more than happy.
Bye Alli
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bourdieu Says:
September 22nd, 2007 at 1:55 am>Comment by MK:
>September 19, 2007 @ 9:26 am
>I absolutely agree with you. There is no past, there is no future,
>there is only the individual moment.I hate to be negative but when I read this sort of thing I realize how happy I am to be an academic and not a thespian. “No past … no future” means there is no history no culture no politics no justice and no possibility of change. “No past … no future” means that, like infants, the only thing “in *that* moment” is wants. I want world peace, I want to nail a scene, I want a journey of self-discovery, I want an iPhone. Moment after moment, want after want, until you don’t know what you want, but you just know you want something. “In *that* moment” we are just consumers, of products, of experiences, and of life itself. We’re customers of our own lives, and we demand satisfaction: “I want m[ine] to be a fuckin’ fun one!”. It is the perfect statement of post-modern capitalism. Life itself is our own product.
Sure, I know this is an actor’s promo website, and these are heavy comments, but that’s the point, really. Allison Mack is very obviously a well-meaning and intelligent person with genuine commitments, so if not here, then where does one stand and say, hey, enough already. We don’t need more people telling us to buy in the moment. We need more people telling us to think about where we have come from and where we are going.
Try Jean Baudrillard’s work from the early 1970s. Amazing stuff on consumer society and the shopping mall as a factory for the production of consumer desire. Written nearly 40 years ago and more relevant than ever.
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joey Says:
September 22nd, 2007 at 11:49 amI know what you mean. sometimes i over dramatize but once i remember who i am i have peace again. yea, don’t forget who you really are and you will feel good.
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Magie Says:
September 22nd, 2007 at 8:56 pmAllison never worry about keeping us entertained, you entertain us with the mere fact you like hearing what we have to say and that you want to talk to us. And the fact that you are comfortable enough with us to share your feelings about your life only hightens our respect of you. It makes you so much more relatable, as a celebrity it might be easy to ignore the fans and forget them, but you don’t allow that to happen. It shows how much character and heart you truely have.
Like I said, sharing your deep feelings helps us to relate to you, I definetly relate to you on many levels. I can make things bigger than they really are, I hate when I realize I have done it because I feel so over dramatic. Then I also try my best to make comedy out of tragedy, I mean there are times when you just can’t. But we learn to move on as best we can and live our lives, we never forget those moments but don’t dwell on them either.
What Tom said is beautiful and very true, it is very close to what my friend Chris used to say “Gotta Live Life To Tha Fullest”, and that he did. He is an inspiration to me, he never seemed to have a bad day or attitude and since his death last summer I have been doing my best to live that way. I know I fail miserably compared to him, but at least I am trying.
I hope you enjoy your ride as much as you should because you deserve a magnificent one!! *Ciao for now*
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Lee Says:
September 22nd, 2007 at 9:00 pmHi Allison,
Not to try and keep you on the path of profound thoughts or anything but, there is always the question of free will if you really deep think it there isn’t any proof that it exists. Or that things arn’t going to happen the way they do whether we think we are making choices or not. Lets face it human thought might only be some chemical transmitters in our brains. With us having really no say in the choices that we think we are making. Of course we are influenced by outside stimulus (which means if you read this I will have changed your thoughts in some way even if you thought what I had to say was crap) from others around us but they are basically in the same situation and would have no freewill themselves. So anyway who cares I guess “Nothing really matters anyone can see nothing really matters to me” “ANY WAY THE WIND BLOWS”.
Sorry if I got to deep,
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Lee Says:
September 22nd, 2007 at 9:03 pmP.S.
To David Dwight Hayes, Keep up the good work.You always have the best blogs!
Lee -
Hamilton Says:
September 22nd, 2007 at 9:30 pmHello Allison,
You are so special sharing your feelings and thoughts, i admire you so much. About the blog, it make us think life is like a theatre and we have to be good actors all the time.See you!
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JUAN Says:
September 22nd, 2007 at 9:57 pmU ARE SO FINE I’M SORRY I JUST HAD TO TELL YOU THAT
U ARE THE ONLY REASON I WATCH SMALLVILLE
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koik boon tatt Says:
September 23rd, 2007 at 12:53 ami am from malaysia..and i love your character in smallville..
as a 19 year-old person , i love your personalities in smallville -brave to love and be love ,dare to do anything deem to be justice and lots more qualities that i hope to do the same as you(in smallville )in reality…but i don’t..making me lost lots of things because lack of gut to do something i am now regret for..including just a simple’i love you’ in front of person i love …but the chance is gone…from now on , i will not miss anything anymore…for i had regret before..thanks for your inspirations and hope we will do better in the future…
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Haylie Says:
September 23rd, 2007 at 4:00 amHey Ally,
It sounds like your a major thinker! Join the club! If you think to much about something you can go to far into it and are in danger of losing yourself. Then suddenly who you are and what you do are insignificant. It’s scary.
But I wouldn’t want to be someone who lives day by day not thinking about there place in the world. Those people miss so much!
It’s hard not to over dramatize your life when your the one living it! The world does revolve around you! No matter who or what you are, the world revolves around you.
I’m a firm believer in thoughts impacting life. In positive energy helping people and negative thoughts hurting them. I also believe that once a thought or idea is out there in the universe its just a matter of tapping into it.
Anyway stay in the shallow end or on the surface coz when you think to far into things its really hard to come back to reality.
Everyone is a drama queen about there own life and problems! It’s hard not to be when there staring you in the face!
Your world does revolve around you!
Love Haylie
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Jennifer Says:
September 23rd, 2007 at 5:05 amAllison,
It seems to me based on your two most recent posts that, other than your love of Rumi, Tom Welling is quite the gifted philosopher. Perhaps he should write a book. I like the way he thinks, and he seems to express a very grounded view of acting and life in general.
Besides Tom, I know someone else who would do well to work on writing a book – YOU. Even though you feel that you “run in circles,” you have a gift for the printed word. Keep it up, Allison! You have a lot of people who love your happy energy, your enthusiastic style, your passion for life, and your terrific work! Never forget the gifts that God has given you.
Here is a beautiful word that the Lord spoke to me in prayer one day. I have to remind myself to say this daily. I think it applies to you as well: “I am the perfect fit for the space where I exist now and am growing into.”
Be blessed, Allison, and keep writing! You are in my prayers as you continue living in every moment!
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Matt Says:
September 23rd, 2007 at 11:02 amhi allison
i love ur show smallville i onli really waych it too see ur beautiful smile lol
well its true
hope too see u more on tv
c ya
The lonewolf
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vanyi Says:
September 23rd, 2007 at 4:13 pmhello!!!!…hey I always come when your blog is 500000years old….ha ha…. well I’ve been having trouble whit my computer lately…
so I don’t know if you read my messages in the first place….
but I have to tell you this: is really scaring the fact that we are so alike… everytime you write something new … I think ” oh my God, this is exactly what I believe or this hapenned to me once”…I understand what is hapnning to you…. I over dramatize things that are not that big…. we are two missunderstud freaks…. don’t get mad…but It’s the truth….
I always remember something I heard: “Caminar por el balcon, ya no es una tentacion. decime la verdad si total no me voy a tirar.”
(walk over the balcony is not a temptacion anymore. tell me the truth I’m not going to throw away anyway)
or something like that in English….
it’s means that you don’t have to over damatize a litlle problem…and if someone, because of the way you are, doesn’t want to tell you the truth… tell him or her that…. you are not going to kill yourself …
well…girl I going now….
I bothered you enough for today….
so Good luck
and Ciao…
Vanyi-k
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Alyssa Says:
September 23rd, 2007 at 5:37 pmOne of the many things I love about you is that so many of your fans can connect wth you on what you feel, what you experience, and it’s such a comforting feeling, it’s truly undescribable.
All my love,
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dundee dave Says:
September 24th, 2007 at 2:07 amhi there good to here that you are still enjoying the role there is alot more to come for your british fans. then….? were we are at
is lois and cloe geting eves droped on by a water /gossip woman
lois saying she will marry lex..”"”… so there is a lot more to uncover in future episodes for us in the u…k… and i look forward to seeing you in the morgue… ha ha ..
i like it the way each segnmant if the series unfolds it self good writers… and that chap “jimmy”…. could not be more suited to the role.. i saw lex …dad. in a eposodie of frasier… shorter hair.
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PMD Says:
September 24th, 2007 at 4:33 amHey Allison:
Another profound thought from a very profound lady. : )
I’ve always thought that life and what happens to you was more fun then the destination you were heading towards. For example, it’s a lot more fun setting up a sale at the church than the aftermath of the sale. Hope that makes some sense—not much sleep last night—very active muse.
I believe also that it’s all experience to enhance our existence but I also believe that what we do, how we handle our experiences—what experiences we go through, also help us help other’s through similar or same ones too.
For example, if you’ve lost a loved one in your life, you can help somebody through a similar situation. Or if you’ve dealt with somebody who’s a little out there and then another friend has the same problem, you can talk them through—you have experience.
Drama does need a little comedy—in real life and reel life. Something to take the edge off. I’ve always admired shows like that (John on The West Wing, always does that for me)—that deal with drama and yet uses comedy to offset it. As to real life—well, a good joke or hug does take the edge off a bad day where you wished you hadn’t gotten out of bed.
As I say, hope that all makes sense up there—my muse does not keep bankers hours and even though she is that way, I love her to pieces—I ain’t complaining, in other words. Humor and drama is she.
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David Dwight Hayes Says:
September 24th, 2007 at 7:52 amRef. 132. Comment by Lee:
September 22, 2007 @ 9:03 pm
“P.S.
To David Dwight Hayes, Keep up the good work.You always have the best blogs!
Lee ”That must be why I always overhear people calling me “bloghead” … at least that’s what I think they’re saying.
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mimi Says:
September 24th, 2007 at 8:22 amI just recently discovered your blog, and was pleased to see that you, like your character Chloe, truly are deep, smart, and cool! Allison, I am quite a bit older than you (40, to be exact — which I know sounded ancient to me when I was in my 20′s), but I completely hear what you are saying, I think. I get caught up in things that I really want to do, but sometimes it’s just too much. You sound like a really good person who has a hard time saying “no.” You are smart to be aware of this dilemma, and the answers don’t come easily. Some people know their own limitations without giving it a second thought; others (like me) take years to figure out that they, sadly, can’t do it all. (I’ve been having this conversation with my therapist for many years!)
Also, I wanted to share one of my favorite quotes that helps me keep things in perspective: “All your tomorrows will take care of themselves if today is well lived.”
Best wishes to you on your journey,
Mimi
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Dave Says:
September 24th, 2007 at 9:05 amAllison,I just have to start off by saying that I am a huge fan the the show…(I have been there from the start) I read your blog today and I just want to say that life is a great gift…It is to be enjoyed even at its hardest times cause you just have to think someone out there has it worst then you…So when you think things are going bad just remeber you have friends to talk to,there are some people that don’t even have that…Well there a lot more I would like to say but I have to go to work.Live happy and free,and my the wind always hit your back and the sun on you face
Your friend & fan,
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mimi Says:
September 24th, 2007 at 1:33 pmPS — I didn’t attribute the above quote because, I’m embarrassed to say, it’s from a fortune cookie!
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Elina Says:
September 26th, 2007 at 10:23 amHi, Allison!
Everyone has his weakness and yours is to over-dramatise things.You sometimes worry too much about whatever you do because you take everything- including your craft- very seriously. You do it from your heart, and it shows. I don´t know of anyone who shares things with others the way you do.
Your impressions on your blog aren´t mere ramblings but show how generous you are when it comes to sharing your experiences with your fans.
As regards Tom´s advice, CARPE DIEM, I´d say it´s the best he could have given you.
Everyone´s really looking forward to seeing you this season. I´m from France and, therefore, I´ll have to wait until the beginning of spring for the premiere; and when the time comes you can be sure I´ll be sitting in front of my TV to tune in SV.
Your work on the show deserves more recognition than what it´s got so far. You´ve certainly grown up as a person and an actress and you never stop surprising us with your talent.
Keep up the good work!
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Medina Says:
September 26th, 2007 at 3:47 pmlive and let die
your fan from amazon
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Melissa Says:
October 1st, 2007 at 7:58 amFirst, I just want to say I love you lots but I do have to say that I hated the curse word you used in this blog. I am not one to not throw a damn or a Sh%# out there but that word I think is so completely unfeminine and unattractive when said by a young lady. Don’t get me wrong I still love ya and think you are an extremely brilliant individual but I was just a little disappointed to hear that word coming from your normally intellegent blog. I relize they might not publish this one but I think if they don’t that is a little hypercritical. Why post only the 100% good ones and not hear some of the advice and normal post that you would see on any persons blog. I just think that you have alot of young fans out there who come to this site. Granted, I know they probably hear it in school but I think you should set the example being that they look up to you as a role model. Don’t be completely furious me Allison, I still love ya but I just wanted to give you some imput into what I thought of the situation….
Anyway, despite the above mention word, I really enjoyed this blog and I agree that we have to live for the moment because life is made of moments and once the moment is gone, you can’t get it back, it’s gone forever. So, we should enjoy the experience of it while it last and take it for all it’s worth. I somtimes find myself worrying about things and than I sometimes look back and think ” I completely missed the joy and fun of the experience because I spent most of the time looking at the negative and now the experience is over and done with “.
I think life is short and we need to live each day to the fullest and enjoy it with our whole being because before we know it our youth will be gone and we want to look back and say ” Yeah I did that and it was amazing !”. We have to have amazing stories to tell the generations that come after us and carry on the pattern of enjoying life to it’s fullest compacity…….
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Derek Medrano Says:
October 1st, 2007 at 10:23 amyour new site looks really good allison. Wish I knew how to change up my site, but I’m not so good on all those codes. Well best of luck to you this year. Your doing a great job. Smallville is my favorite show, and I was honestly going to stop watching at the end of last seasons finale.Lol but yea anyway. =-)
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Nancy Says:
October 1st, 2007 at 5:51 pmHi Allison!
Here my first comment, finally!!
Ok first of all, everytime I read you I can understand all that feelings and what you talkin’ about, because I feel the same thing. But I admire that part of you who lookin’ deep yourself and out of the world, when you find and answer for all that questions, feelings, worries we’ve.
That it’s a gift you’ve. Tom it’s also a very good friend and said you a very good true. I know very well what he talkin’ about…
I’ve to say that when I heard you for the first time in May at asylum conv (in england) when you talked about you’re travels experience and what you feel about that I almost cried, because I felt very indentified with you and that was amazing.
So all my wishes for you, keep going with your great job and all my support too.
Kisses and hugs
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Blame Jim Says:
October 2nd, 2007 at 12:31 pmThe world is like a ride in an amusement park and when you choose to go on it you think it’s real because that’s how powerful our minds are. The ride goes up and down and around and around. It has thrills and chills and it’s very brightly coloured and it’s very loud. And it’s fun – for a while. Some people have been on the ride for a long time, and they begin to question; is this real? Or is this just a ride? And other people have remembered, and they come back to us to tell us, “Hey, don’t worry. Don’t be afraid, ever. Because… this is just a ride.” – Bill Hicks
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Italo Giovani Says:
October 4th, 2007 at 6:38 pmHi Allison, I was reading you posts (again and again).
“No one is making us do the things that we are doing; we choose to do them. And then, at least in my case, I choose to stress out and be miserable while I am doing the things that I say I WANT to do in the first place.”This one reminds me a Dave’s song which says “Don’t loose the dreams inside your head. They’ll only be there until your dead”.
Keeping talking about what to do, or not, and about what the people say to do… etc… Have you ever seen a promo video from DM9, called “The Sunscreen”? It talks a lot about think too much in what to do, or what you should. It is in a really simple way and make us really think about the worth of our actions….. in the end it says, enjoy the moment, enjoy where you are and smile!!!
Tks a lot!!!!
Italo Giovani
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Lasia Says:
October 14th, 2007 at 10:39 amAllison:
I’ve been reading your blogs for a while now, but haven’t taken the time to comment until now. I find all of them highly enlightening and always come out of it with a new way of seeing things.
Anyways, I decided to comment on THIS blog because I find myself feeling this way a lot lately. The main reason is that there’s a guy, and I cna’t seem to express the way I feel to him without it being taken out of context (either one extreme or the other), or when I do feel like I am expressing myself the right way, everything turns out to be a huge jumble of words that don’t make sense.
And over-dramatizing? As a girl in high-school, I understand what that’s like. Everyone’s guilty of it, everyone is hypocritical about it. The fact that you came right out and admitted to being a “drama queen” — for lack of better words — adds another rung to my Ladder of Respect for Allison Mack.
And Tom Welling’s quote is definitely a new outlook on life for me. I know that I spend at least half of my time wishing I could redo moments in my life, or fretting over what I’ll do in ten minutes or so. If I’m going to start enjoying my life and living in the present, rather than the past or future, there’s no better time than now!
Thank you for your insightful words and providing the inspiring quotes that you do.
And congratulations on all the success you’ve recieved in your career and life — here’s to much more!
–Lasia
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Enza Middleton Says:
October 19th, 2007 at 1:42 pmwow your life sounds pretty busy,i dont know what busy means…yet ,im in yr 9 at a convent in england i
watch smallville all the time i would love to met you and the rest of the cast.i think its amazing that you have started a fund for your b-day prezzie there was this (quote) i heard in school when i was out on the playground me and my best bud were talking about smallville(as always) then someone in yr 11 was talking to a yr7 like they were a piece of gum on their shoe an the yr 7 reacted and begain to say only because i might not be your size, your heigt dosn’t mean you can stand their treating me like a piece of gum on your shoe…so look we are all in this world together we are all united as one because i am one of many we will stand up and fight but we need our brothers and siters to fight with us because god didn’t put us on this earth to fight as one so we will make him proud, the bully backed down and hung her head in shame then went on to say “count me in!” sorry if my sentences aren’t that clear or my spellings not correct im only 14 please write back i will be over the moon…thanks for taking time out of your busy plan to read this please show this to people you know it shows that faith and trust are out there you just have to dig deep and find what your looking for thanks love from Enza Middleton 14yrs old xxx -
Thorsten Says:
October 22nd, 2007 at 1:40 pmhi allison,
i just want to say i really like the new episodes of smallville and the development of your character is so cool.
i hope i will see you in some movies soon.
keep up your good work and please dont change yourself, you are amazing
greetings from germany
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enza Says:
October 23rd, 2007 at 8:56 amhi allison, i went on your website last friday and i read that deeply meaning words you got from tom and maybe because im only 14 i didn’t grasp the meaning behind those incouring words untill…i was at the ice rink with my cousin learning how to become a ice hockey player and i was skating along holding on to the sides trying not to fall, i was just about to prepare to give up when i thought of them words and i thought some people around the world will never get to ice skate with their family some don’t even know their loved ones and because i was in such deep thught i zoned out a fell on my right side (now i have a bruise) but it was well worth it to finally think for a change:) ciao for now bibi and asta lavista from england…enza x
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lee Says:
October 28th, 2007 at 7:46 pmI am a Chinese, resembles exchanges with you, but my English is very
bad, hoped you can see my message, I now also in China. I am front
looked you develop “Exceed others in ability Biography” to know you.
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KimberlyClaire Says:
October 31st, 2007 at 6:33 amVery profound, REALLY. I agree with you. I really think that it’s the experience that’s important. Easily typed, not always done. Sometimes it just hard to keep your chin up high when everyone looks down on you, you’re stressed and too much pressure in school and at home…Sometimes I just crack but then I would think, ” At least I learned something from it.” And as long as people like you continue to inspire people like me , my world will continue to revolve. Did *I* make sense? I’m from the Philippines by the way, 15, and I study in a regional science high school (where people don’t have enough time to breathe and take a break) but I still find ways to ALWAYS watch SMALLVILLE coz Allison’s there. haha. Au revoir, mademoiselle Allison!
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joao marcos morais Says:
November 1st, 2007 at 1:24 pmhey allison gosh am so happy to talk whit you cuz am from brazil and am 12 am goin make 13 december 24 wish you could answer me what was the harder scene to make and why? I think you goin to make an awesome ep cuz I know its goin to be fun and you be a lot of action and I hope you stay 4ever in smallville whitout its goin be so bad and i think it sucks that I cant watch already season 7 cuz its goin start in brazil on 6 november hope you can remember me cause I am your biggest fan I hope someday I can be one actor like tom and have a partner like you my msn is podmania@hotmail.com and I wish you a lot of happines for the rest of your life and say eu gosto muito de voce kisses
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you won't read this Says:
November 3rd, 2007 at 5:37 amhaha, i like how you said “pull my head out of my bum” and then at the end you just say “I want my to be a fuckin’ fun one!” which defeats the purpose of saying bum.. or maybe you really don’t like the word “ass…” anyway, i thought that was cute.
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Robert schuh Says:
May 25th, 2008 at 8:19 pmAllison I’m a big fan of yours and Tom Wellings, Erica Durance I was wondering if you could give them my support and know both Erica and Tom are good enough actors including you to get the show Smallville to have a ninth season. I hope allot of other people feel that the show is strong enough to make it to those kind of seasons. You are all blessed with great acting abilities and wonderful personalities have a wonderful career in everything you do. God Bless
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Lady Drama Says:
June 8th, 2008 at 7:50 pmGood night, miss Allison.
This probably will sound really childish but my heart’s pounding like crazy of how happy I am. I recently started looking for information about Smallville and now I found myself in the blog of Allison Mack, the Chloe Sullivan I admire and respect. I’m so glad I’d found this page; I never thought that I would be comunicating with one of my idols but here I am, writing like a crazy little fan whose trying to control herself to not scream of emotion and wake up everyone in the house.
Too childish, isn’t it? Sorry.
Well, I’d read your last post and despite of the fact that I still have to grow up I have to say: “Congradulations, miss Allison. To be an over dramatizing person, you know how to get through that troublesome detail with a big laugh and a smile on the face”. I think everyone at some point of their lives tend to make ‘an ocean in a glass of water’ but what really mathers here is how do you deal with that ocean. Thank God you count with the advices of a wise man like Tom Welling —looks like he just knows what to say in the right moment, doesn’t he?—. You don’t have to worry about the drama, it’s just something that comes and goes; from my point of view, if someone says to you something like: ‘I NEVER forgot that everything is a comedy’…it’s a lie. Everyone has walked for that path, don’t care if they were adults, children or old aged. Well…that’s what I think.
You know how to break that ocean with a big smile on your face and you have a lot of people by your side that will catch you if you ever fall. That’s great, it’s something to be thankful for. So it’s obvious that your jouney will be full of laughs and fun and that you’ll be enjoying it till the end.
Oh, I forgot: English is not my lenguage; I’m sorry if you find some orthography mistakes or if you don’t understand something of what I said. By the way, ‘Lady Drama’ is my “natural name” in the Internet; it’s kind of funny (or ironic) that my first comment is exactly in this post…Maybe it would be better if next time I write to you with my real name.
Anyway, I give my best wishes to you and mister Welling. I can’t wait to see you two in action again in the 8th season! —Clark/Chloe Fan, back to the childish actitude—.
Good luck~
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