Success
Posted by Allison Mack | Filed under Blog
- Arash Says:
July 21st, 2008 at 7:42 pm Hi again Allison,
There is something I would like to ask every body.
I don’t think they would respond to me but if you find it appropriate or interesting may be you can ask your fans, and here it is;
How do you define success in your life?
Amazing question, and one that I constantly look at! I think this is a lovely focus for today’s blog!
Thank you kindly, Arash!
Success? How DO I define it? I used to feel like success was how many people knew and liked me. Then I graduated to success having to do with the amount of money one made for their chosen profession. After that, I morphed into success being recognition for what you have chosen to love and do with you life. And right now, I am somewhere in between the last choice and me just feeling good in my own body.
I mean, if I am gonna be all “heady and enlightened” about it, I would say that success is something that starts within. It is truly loving and embracing yourself. But, if you are looking for my honest answer, I would say that success is living the life I imagined, materialistic goals as well as spiritual and etherial goals.
I have a very specific goal that I am super attached to. Now it feels like if I attain that goal, I will be successful. But within that statement is the inherent assumption that I need something to happen other than what is currently happening to be ok, which ultimately takes me further away from “the moment” and finding peace and solace inside; this is the antithesis of the definition I am striving and struggling to force myself to believe up top!
So there is my belief, honest and hopeful.
What do ya say, Arash?
60 Responses to “Success”
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taylor nikole Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 12:18 amhmm wow thats true…
finding something you love and are content with…
it seems now in highschool we are ‘programed’ to
want to go to college and make lots of money
no one ever says “do what you want… and you’ll succeed”
unless ofcourse you want to be a doctor or something…
Although i’ve found myself thinking about it….
what will make me happy.. and successful at the same time?
happiness = success?
I find more of my success, now… in my goals…
in my agenda… keeping on my agenda and rewarding myself
with the success… if that makes sense?
But feeling good in your own body i think is complete success…
not too many people feel good in their own body…
i know who i am… but sometimes i don’t think im happy or content in my own body :-/
eghh
but what 15 yr old girl feels comfortable in her own skin?
well literally unless that was an analogy?
anyways good blog…
i love when you focus in on our responses
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James K Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 12:26 amSuccess…
I think you were spot on when you said “just me feeling good in my own body.” Happiness is success to me. to be truly happy is one of the most difficult things a person can achieve. Yet at the same time, it’s so easy. There is a quote that I live by:
“Change your thoughts and you change your world.” -Norman Vincent Peale
This simple statement says so much to me. If I am unhappy with the way I look, don’t be. If I am unhappy with my job, or my love life…don’t be. It sounds so easy but it most certainly is not. Everyone is unprepared, there is no way around it. It’s how you react to those unpredictable situations, and how you choose to feel about yourself that in the end defines your happiness. If you love yourself, then showing love to so much easier, and so much more fulfilling to those you love. Success to me making others happy, and helping them to feel good in their own body. If I accomplish that, then I am successful. It’s something no one can ever take from you.
Great blog.
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Rachel531 Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 12:54 amInteresting topic… I too defined “success” differently through the different stages of my life… in high school, it was about being at the top of my class. I worked hard to achieve that goal, and when I got into college, it was about nailing that first job interview after graduating and landing a prestigious job at a Big 5 Accounting firm. Once I landed that, I saw others who let their career drive how they defined themselves, but that didn’t motivate me…I wanted the work/life balance of being able to have a career and having a family. I didn’t need to keep up with my peers and climb that corporate ladder and I was lucky to have found someone who wanted to share his life with me (yay!). Now as I grow into this role of “Parent”, my definition of “Success” has shifted away from being all about me and has now morphed into how to live my life the way I want my girls to live theirs.. with love and respect for the world and people around them and the self-confidence to be themselves and to grow up doing something that they love doing and never look at it as just a job or just work. If I can accomplish that, then that is my definition of “success”… Thanks Arash and Allison for a great topic !
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Tabby Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 1:38 amHey Alison.
I guess I share the same kind of meaning of success with you right now, in the sense of fame and stuff like that. Well, I will soon be in the show business (just like you) *hopefully* but in the sense of directing or producing…somewhere there. That would be my long term goal of success and maybe, if my dreams ever come true, I would consider myself successful when i become an auteur and make lotsa famous films or legendary ones that people would still watch even after my death.
For short term view now, success would be a feature film which wins a film festival and to grad uni.
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Bruno Eton Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 2:11 amfirst of all I wanna say sorry I’ve been gone for that long , just reaaaallly busy latraly, but here I’m hehehe
oh God the Cokkie Lady was amazingly funny hahahah , love those ramdoms videos you post …
Success can be anywhere if you search for at the bright side of the things in your life , for exemple.in your might not be any exiting right now or nothing going on , but instead of looking what could have worked why don´t we just be thankful for what we finally achieved and and have …. like the most simple things around you , a mother who doesn’t sleep until u get at home safe… a father who looks after you …
all of them and your also your friends wishing you the best to achieve a successful goal in your life , just by having those thing I believe I’m succeed… What do you guys think about that ? arent I right ?
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Tabby Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 2:47 amJust another quick comment….well I just have a question in relation to the topic of success….how do u define best? How do u actually know that that is ur best and u can never be stretch and further?
What does it mean being the best?
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Kris Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 3:35 amTo wake up every day willing to accept what it will be.
To be better than you were yesterday.
To help when you can.
To understand your imperfections.
To refuse to allow them to be your limitations.
To be seek change.
To do what is right even when there’s nothing in it for you.
To be patient.
To face your fears.
To make a difference in someone’s day, week, month, year or life–no matter how great or small.
To have faith and hope towards the future.That is success.
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Pospola Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 4:41 amIt’s really cool, that you answered Arash’s question
I totally agree with Kris above me
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The Friday Philosopher Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 4:49 amIf I might say before I begin.
Arash, you are a very insightful person! I especially liked the poem you posted for “Anything is Possible.†I believe that like your interpretation of life, success is also multi-coloured.
“Light is when one million, mind if one’s life is in danger.â€
“Dark is when one’s mind, takes a million lives!â€
There couldn’t be a truer statement in my opinion. Yet as sad as it is, there are people who judge their own success on the amount of lives they take. Adolf Hitler, Osama Bin-Laden and Saddam Hussein to name & shame a few!
Ultimately I believe that success is in the eye of the individual, one man might judge his success on the good he can do and another might judge it on the bad. Another might judge it on the value of his possessions and one might judge it on the number of friends he has.
I guess unless you’re a tyrant, and or hell bent on total Human annihilation, there really isn’t a wrong definition to success. We are all individual after all, it’s the one thing that we do have in common!
I suppose it really depends on what you want out of life!
Thanks for the blog.
Friday
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Kamil Karaszewski Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 4:59 amYeah I agree with Allison it’s very nice thread for today blog’s convo . First of all I guess if anyone wants to feel fulfilled ( don’t know if that’s correct written
) you need to accept yourself in every life’s realms . I mean you need to accept way you look like , way your mentality works etc . Even if you feel that there is something wrong about those realms firstly you need to accept current state of it and realize what is happening to fix it up . When this statment is already done your dreams and desires comes to the top . People keeps trying to do almost everything to feel fullfilled but I guess that’s in out nature that our desires quite often changes sometimes with no reasons . According to Allison’s daily post I think she has experienced it like many of us . Firstly she desired many poeple to like her and that made she feel fulfilled next she was wondering to have a lot of money and that’s normal becouse money is important thing that gives poeple thing that makes them happy , at the moment she’s beetwen last choice and feeling well in her own body ( Yes Allison you can feel well in you body , you are lovely and very very sweet :D:D I mean that hehe So scoring my point I think you can’t say ,,how do you define success in your life” becouse you would have to moderate you answers from time to time cos our dreams and desires keeps changing and I don’t think they will stop Greeting Allison and I’d like to say I love this pleasantness that makes me smarter after thinking about other’s responses and ofcourse your daily post hehe thanks keep it !
xoxo
Kamil
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Edgar Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 5:26 am“The value of things is not the time when they last,
but the intensity with which they occur.
So there are unforgettable moments,
unexplained things and people unmatched. ”For you Allison!!!
Edy – Brazil
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Edgar Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 5:26 am“The value of things is not the time when they last,
but the intensity with which they occur.
So there are unforgettable moments,
unexplained things and people unmatched. ”For you Allison!!!
Edy – Brazil
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Billy George Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 5:32 amHi AllMack!
Well, I would define success in my life when I reach a goal, because it’s a step that I made toward a great career: be somebody in life. Although in my country it’s very hard to get that success, there are a lot of people, a lot, that try every day to grow up as a better persons. I consider that I am among those people, because I can fall, but I get up. Anyway I think that is one of the biggest things we have to reach a goal: assume with courage and patience the mistakes. Thank you Arash for the question and Allison, thank you for everything that you made. Have a nice day. Adios. -
David Hayes Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 5:44 amIn life there are the kids that quietly and intently sit on the floor with a pile of blocks and create the best towers they can conceive of with the materials at hand. Then there are other kids that without thought or consideration walk by and with a casual side motion of the foot send the towers toppling. Success for me would be to leave this life with one of my towers still standing – strong, defiant and uncompromised.
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Jennygirl Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 6:33 amI think there are many “levels” to success. And I think it requires attention so that one is balancing the levels. Monetary is important…up until one is self sufficient. It feels good also to get accolades for what one is doing. But also personal success, such as in one’s family, is important. I have a close family member who has had MUCH public attention for the work she has done in the community, but she has one adult son now on mental medication, and another daughter who battles a meth problem. I believe the mom focused so much on her public works that her family suffered. This is not success. So there are so many different angles…and everyone who looks at my life would judge my level of success differently. I try to judge it by how balanced it is…attemptly to juggle things successfully…until my kids are up and gone, and then I can have more of the self centered kind of successes, and personal fullfillment. I feel successful right now as I have made a really good cup of froo froo coffee…and it is so tasty!
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viviane Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 6:49 amAllison Hello!
I love knowing that you read our questions! you are the best!
I am also of the opinion that its … Success is to be well with life! and be happy! ^_^XoXo … love!
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Lexie Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 7:07 amI journal constantly and was just writing yesterday about the topic of success!
“My life steadily slips away as I only grow older with each passing day. My uncle Charles once said that after a certain point in a person’s life, potential becomes failure. My first reaction to this was, “What a sad way to view life!” If one does not develop their potential within a given time, they loose their chance at success? What about those parents who, after raising their children, return to college and earn the degree that will land the dream career they’ve worked so hard for. Perhaps it just takes some longer than others to achieve their goals.
On the other hand, I somewhat understand the point Charles was trying to make. Some people wait around their whole lives expecting something that they don’t realize is gone until it’s too late. This is where I never want to find myself. To soak up life in every moment and to find joy in all the unexpected places. That is my idea of success.”
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eli Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 8:00 ammoney is eazy to messure if you actualy have it to use, otherwise, use a job or love to messure it
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Joey Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 8:20 amGood morning Miss Mack,
The topic about success is very interesting and most of all judicious because it can raise a very philosophical answer. What is life ? What is happiness ? Are we able to be successful if we don’t have faith in ourself ? Certainly not. We have to be a light to ourself. We should not try to be the light of another personn, even if we like this personn very much. It would be just an exercise in futility. How a big tree could stand up whitout a good root ? Actually, we have to be a light to ourself simply as a way of being like a mountain strongly based on Earth. And it is all about liberty into our soul. If we have faith in us, we can feel the liberty of the right choice and be successful with our goals. if we can’t have faith in us, we are just like a mountain made of sand that wind destroy. Concerning Tabby’s riddle, i think it is certainly the same scheme. We have to use powerful energies inside of us and most of all we have to update everytime. That’s one of the liberty keys and that’s what it can make the difference ! When you update your soul constantly, you don’t have to feel as the best, you are the best.
Take care of you Miss Mack,
Have a lot of fun,PS : Have a nice day Dear Tabby.
Your friend always,
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Vegas911 Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 10:00 amI think that success is all a state of mind. To some it is money, to others it is love, to some its being content with what you have….that is such a loaded question, to each person being successful means something different. To ME being successful is a state that can only be reached from being well rounded. If you are finacially secure, to were you don’t have to worry day in and day out how you are going to pay for this or that, being surrounded by people that have your best interest at heart, you know people you can trust, and being content within yourself….follow those three things and I feel success could be obtained by everyone!!!
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Amanda Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 10:33 amI asked Webster to define success and this was the answer: achievement of something intended or desired; attaining wealth, fame, or prosperity.
I gotta say I disagree with the last part of this definition. This may be because I don’t define success in terms of materialistic value. I honestly don’t care what a person has achieved if I can’t be in the same room with them. They may have a different label depending on their tax bracket, but a jerk is a jerk!
So, I guess defining success would depend on your core values. In other words, what do you value most? A home and family that are happy and healthy? Or, climbing the corporate ladder? Or, winning an oscar? All of the above?
Secondly, at what cost are you willing you to sacrifice in order to achieve that goal? Because, lets face it, everything has a cost. People either sacrifice their family for their career or vice versa. If you can balance your career and have a happy family life, that’s success.
On a side note, sometimes we like to get all existential to the point we think ourselves out of common sense. (i.e. anyone remember the famous question in regards to defining the word “is”?) However, I think it’s important that we understand what we value and why. What guides us to make decisions and how do we live with the consequences of these decisions? And, why do we define ourselves by what we do? Just thoughts to ponder. ;o)
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Medina Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 10:56 amSucess is when i can do something
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gaL Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 11:40 amsuccess is when you wake up in the morning and smile because you know you are doing things you love..
success is when you realize that the world revolves around the ones you love..
success is when you do everything with love..Success doesnt have to be of any moneytary value .. it just has to be that little banner in the sky that says.. hey! you did it! .. or a pat on the back from a friend.. or a hug that was long needed ..
be successful. =) start with a smile
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alphakitty Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 12:03 pmi used to think it was being the perfect person; being everything everyone wanted you to be. but now, i feel that success is about being everything YOU want to be and living to your full potential.
either way, not an easy task. living for everyone else means you sacrifice your own happiness, but living for yourself (not selfish, just self-aware), often means that others are disappointed by your decisions.
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kerrieanne Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 12:19 pmi used to think that sucess was impressing my parents and surpassing my siblings in everything that i did. after a while i got sick of pretending that getting the top grades and beating my sister was important. i decided that sucess was me living my life the way i want, chasing down my dreams and trying to make them a reality…not spending my time trying to be accepted my my peers by doing something i never really had my heart set upon….it took a near death experience for me to have the courage to change my studies and future career from law to Crime Scene science. so at this moment i am not successful….but i’m on my way.
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mar1013 Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 12:32 pmHi again Allison,
Success is really difficult to define. For me success is to reach goals, but these goals can be influenciated by many elements.
Some people want to have more than their neighbours, their fellow workers, their relatives,… and this, for them, means success.Every moment in our lives we have differents goals and we have to try to reach them but we don’t have to be obsessed because sometimes we can’t reach them. We have to learn to move on and try to reach the next one because life means to fight for what you want.
Success is related to how you feel; if you are happy with what you have obtained and how you have obtained it, then you have success in your life
Mar
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Brittany Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 1:00 pmHey Allison I think success is what you’ve accomplished within your private goals. My goal is to become an actress and people keep putting me down saying I won’t make it but I’m striving to find my place, find what I am meant to do in this world. I would like to thank Arash for his inquired thoughts on our opinions.
Bye enjoy summer! Britt
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biggins Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 1:00 pmbeing succseful is being who u wanna be second guess wat succsess is takes u further away from being succseful
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Adam Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 1:46 pmI’ll go with the esteemed Robert Zimmerman on this one.
Paraphrased:
“You’re a success if you get up in the morning and go to bed at night, and in between you do what you want to do.”
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David Hayes Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 1:59 pmRiddle me this — for a comedian, is success defined as “living up to your fool potential’ ??
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Jennifer Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 2:26 pmThere are so many good answers to this question.To me it means fulfillment of dreams,doing something you love and doing it well,to be able to do things I want to accomplish,achieving what I really want to do. I don’t believe it means making enough money to buy the very best things in life. Sucess means to be able to believe in yourself.
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Kyle Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 4:07 pmI have defined success to how many people I help mentally, materially, emotionally and above all spiritually. A life of self-sacrifice brings true success and joy.
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Michael Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 4:12 pmWho knew that Allison Mack was so insightful in addition to being an excellent actress.
Next thing you know Cloe will be running an advice column.
Seriously, though. Well done.
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paul Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 4:25 pmI admire your honesty in saying that material rewards are important to you, as well as recognition.
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Jesse Cassell Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 6:15 pmHi Allison
I think we all have our own notion of “Success†and for the most part it depends on our own experiences and judgments. I agree with you totally with success being the “living the life I imagine” whether it being spiritual, secular, or as many categories as ones views their success to be. Our imagination allows us to adapt to the changes when new experiences come into play and discover a new path to get to that ultimate goal of success. I also agree with the intervention of something happening first for this success to take place. Whether it being divine intervention or some mechanism from the universe, in my case love, Jesus, Mary, something to help us get there for things to work out and for success to be recognized. Anyway, this may take time, or sometimes it may lead to something better and even greater success that one couldn’t even imagine.
Allison, In all things I hope the goal you seek turns out well and I hope it turns out better than your heart can ever comprehended.
-Jesse
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Taty Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 6:30 pmMy definition of success is my very own life experience. I always put God in the center and everything will come together.
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Dale Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 6:38 pmI think success is measured within. For some, it is a financial and a comfort of living. For me, I measure success in the kind of impact I have on others. I currently have a comfortable enough job where I make enough money to provide for my family, etc., but . . . I don’t feel successful. I don’t feel proud about my job and I enjoy being away from it. I went back to school recently to pursue a degree in early childhood education. I graduated in May, in my mid 30s, and I am excited about the day when I’ll get to work with kids full time. I’ll make a lot less, and my job certainly won’t have prestige, but inside myself, I will be successful because I will be finally doing something I love, where I’ll be at peace with myself, and where I’ll feel like I’m making a difference in other people’s lives.
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Maria Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 6:54 pmGreat question Arash.
Umm success to me is not exactly pleasing everybody with what you do or receiving applause but… the best way i can explain it is like this:
“Some people dream of success
while others wake up and work hard for it.”I read that somewhere once and I have to say I agree. You can’t stand still and dream of what you want to do. You have to work hard for it. Success is finally achieving something you’ve wanted to do and worked hard for, and yet still being yourself and haven’t lost yourself in that process. And also success to me is doing everything that you do while still being yourself.
I hope I explained myself well, lol.
XoXo
Maria
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Maria Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 6:55 pmP.s totally agree with Taty as well.
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Magie Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 7:22 pmI define Success as being able to look back at all you’ve done and what you have accomplished and being pleased, but also wanting to do more and believe you can do more. Because I think that if you ever reach a satisfied point in life where you feel you have nothing left to accomplish then where do you go from there? Success comes from the drive of having goals and completing them.
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Lori Bennett Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 7:31 pmHey Allison, Arash’s question was a good one. Your response was very simliar to how I use to look at success. When your younger and you’re talking with friends saying how when you grow up you’ll be rich and successful as well as famous. As I grew up and a lot of hang ups with fianances I have come awakened that REAL success is overcoming your self doubt in oneself and realizing that your accomplishments and believing in yourself and being happy with those accomplishments is success. Not what others see as success, or think you should have to live up to for them to see you as successful, but what you yourself know and believe to be successful. -Lori B.
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Arash Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 8:57 pmI feel I am a member of ;”Dead Poet Society”
Getting together with you fine people in our little secret place every night. Allison is playing Robin Williams, (for sure she does the indian accent as good
I can picture David Hayes as the guy with the sax. (his riddles are like music to me)
I want to thank every body specially allison, you made me stand on my desk.
About success, I like a constructive competition. Everybody evolves, every body gains and we all have a common interest working towards the same goal. There is no shame in winning a gold medal in Olympic.
And the people you compete with can remain your best friends for life.
Now there is a second type of success in life that is not as obvious and much harder to achieve.
Mmmm okay I take you to another movie scene.
Remember Al Pachino’s famous talk at the end of; “scent of a woman”;“Now I have come to the cross-roads in my life.
And I always knew what the right path was.
But I never took it.
Why ??
Because it was soooo damnnn haaaard”Alright this is the best way I can explain; The days in my life when I live a soooo damnnn haaard life, I get the best night sleep. And to me success is to sleep well.
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Bouroux Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 9:28 pmHi Allison.
The success is to succeed what is undertaking in a job fair and respectful of human values.
The success is to have full control of his life without needing to stand as alcohol, drugs and specialists from the magical thinking.
The success is to achieve its objectives without having to be manipulated or to manipulate others.I agreed with you when you said “I am somewhere in between success being recognition for what you have chosen to love and do with you life and me just feeling good in my own body.”
As an actress, I think you have a great career in front of you full of succès.You are like Superman, with your power as an actress you can accomplish great things, but you have to be prudent and you wary of people who sell recepice for the success.
I did not understand the last paragraph because you never talk about this goal.
In the Voices blog, you were ready to sacrifice a lot for this goal.
Yet, you had to sign for the season 8.
It would be nice if you shared with us this goal.Thanks to share with us your thoughts.
Bye
Claude.
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taylor nikole Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 9:52 pmaww arash i agree! (i was hoping to see your response to your question up soon)
whenever i see anyones comments on here and read them
they make me smile! (everyone here puts a smile on my face)
or allisons blogs
doesn’t matter how crappy my day is
there is always something to take my mind off of it
I think eventhough it wasn’t my question
i had a mild response like yours…
i was just excited to see one of the posters comments
up and being discussed
thanks for the smiles and postive attitudes everyone <3
they help me get through tough days<3 taylor nikole
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Neil Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 9:59 pmAfter reading this new blog, I think I’d have to say all 3 of your answers are right to a certain point. At a certain intersection in your life you come to realize that your self analysis each step of the way to discovering yourself is the completion of your life’s puzzle. In short, all of those pieces finally come together to form the whole picture. Your got a very bright head on your shoulders. I enjoy your blogs everytime. Love ya!
Neil
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Joey Says:
July 24th, 2008 at 1:40 amGood morning Miss Allison Mack,
I hope you’re fine today. Thank you very much Arash for this topic. I would like to thank David Hayes as well for his reflection. I think that it is very interesting. David is certainly right but maybe should we ask, what is the fool potential as a way of decoding this riddle. How to get such a fool potential ? Returning to my first message, if you can feel fine energies that work through of you everytime, you can feel the liberty of your soul. Then you can make a constant update of yourself. You can be as the big mountain strongly based on Earth without fear of the wind and the storm. That’s what it creates a limitless potential.
Thank you for raising such topics, that’s wonderful.Take care of yourslef Miss Mack,
PS : Hello to Tabby.
Your friend always,
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The Friday Philosopher Says:
July 24th, 2008 at 2:53 am“You’ve got to get up every morning with determination, if you’re going to go to bed with satisfaction!â€
I’ve been thinking a lot about this question, which is unusual because I usually say what I have to say and leave it at that! I found the above quote on the net whilst researching for my own site, I know it doesn’t really mention success but it made me think.
I’ve had some really bad things happen to me through my life and as a result I long ago stopped taking the days for granted. I think this quote best describes my interpretation of success because I wake every morning with determination, I set my goals for that day and only when I’m satisfied do I go to sleep! I would never have made plans or set goals any further than a day or two ahead for fear of not achieving them. Until now that is!
Despite the bad things I’ve experienced I can honestly say that the good times out way them ten-to-one. I try to be kind and courteous to everyone I meet, but I’m picky when choosing my friends. I prefer to find friends that have their own opinion and don’t agree with everything I say! Not that I’ve met many people like that!
It’s because of this trait in me that I constantly return to this site every day. In fact I only have three or four web addresses saved in my favourites! If I’m honest, I don’t really know any of you, yet every day I log in, eager to see what the response might be to the given subject. I also like the way that Arash described the site as “The Dead Poets Society.†I don’t really care if this sounds corny but I actually feel part of something special! I mean, I don’t know any other famous people that would give this level of attention to their fans. Talking of which! I really enjoy reading the responses as well as the blog itself. There are many intelligent people that comment on this site; Arash for one, Taylor Nikole. Who I believe is only fifteen, but never the less a very intelligent young woman, and David Hayes. I apologise if I haven’t mentioned your name but I mean for this message to refer to you all!
I know I’ve ranted on for a bit, but through a number of factors, this site being one of them, I’ve changed the way I live my life, I still live my life to the full but I don’t live it in fear of something that might never happen!
Thanks for putting up with my tirade!
Friday
P.S. Talking of David Hayes! If you haven’t already done so, I recommend checking out his site. (www.daybow.com) it’s straight up Rum without the Coke but there are some very good drawings and stories on there; and if you’ve got the time, give him some feed back also! Thanks again.
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taylor nikole Says:
July 24th, 2008 at 3:58 amwow friday I absolutely loved your last reply and insight … yet another reason to make me smile.
also not only for my mention but for everyone elses
I was kind suprised…. I will admit but thank you for the ‘compliment’.. or I hope it was.(cant find the coma on the keyboard on my phone at the moment hmphhh)
I’ve been having trouble sleping lately so I went to check my phone and saw this response from you
anywayssss
I really think you hit the nail on the head about allison and her blog and everyone here.
its kinda funny because I wonder if im even a ‘fan’ anymore. I will come on just to see what crazy event she wants us to do or read what’s going on or what’s interesting…
I think its for my own personal enjoyment in responding to her insight on a topic rather than responding because shes… well ehh her
its weird because if I watch smallville sometimes I go “wait… I forget that’s her”
and I think I like it better that way
but I do appreciate what she does and I guess the attention
although I’ve always been drawn to people who are opinionated and creative…
anyways end rant..
I actually think im sleepy now
thanks again! and good morning<3 taylor nikole
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itua Says:
July 24th, 2008 at 6:15 amwot u achieve in your everyday life?
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David Hayes Says:
July 24th, 2008 at 6:54 amThis Blog has reached a new high. It has even managed to put a positive spin on having A Rash.
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The Friday Philosopher Says:
July 24th, 2008 at 7:18 amYou’re very welcome Taylor. Just to confirm, it certainly was meant as a compliment to you all. I too am drawn to opinionated people, I find there’s nothing worse than a one sided conversation!
With regards to the not sleeping, I too know what that’s like. I used to have a lot of thoughts run through my head right at the quietest moment of my day. I tried doctors and everything they would prescribe, but for a few months I would get no more than a few hours a night if I were lucky.
I don’t know if this is the same for you but I started to write down my thoughts every night, now I sleep like a baby!
Maybe you should try this, see if it will help you!Friday
P.S. Good morning to you also! ;O)
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Arash Says:
July 24th, 2008 at 8:18 amlol, David you are the best…
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Misty G Says:
July 24th, 2008 at 8:36 amThe success question…. this is an invaluable question for everyone to truly consider…
For myself, I have walked through various definitions of success as well. First, there was achieving financial independence, being full fledged on top career girl, then came the success of noble wife and mom. Somewhere in the middle of all these “success roles”, I realized that identity would never be enough to saturate my thirst for “success” or truly fulfillment was the right term. After much searching, over the last several years I have finally come to realize that a life with Jesus Christ is the only thing that offers 100% fulfillment. Don’t get me wrong, there are rich blessings in all of the other roles as well, but life with Christ is the one thing that doesn’t just “feel good”, but it provides the standard that says you must love others, you must help others and ultimately we are blessed beyond imagination when we choose to live this way and “success” is more than we ever thought possible in our own mind! Have a wonderful day all who are out there!!!
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taylor nikole Says:
July 24th, 2008 at 11:41 amfriday,
Its more thoughts of my year…
its hard to explain without sounding like a complete sob story
(well to me… and personally i hate sob stories
)
I still have nightmares about some of the things
my parents have put me through this year…
and not regular teen/parent drama… if thats what it sounds like
although i did end up telling my biological father i don’t respect him, that hes only my father by genes, and i flipped him off as he left me at a friends party in tears. (I don’t live with him.. never have)
and my mother….
well shes aware of what she did, but she doesn’t remember any of it :-/
I’m actually aware of the fact that it might be good for me
to see a therapist (been recomended)
but then i feel completely crazy…and like i should be able to brush off some of the thoughts and
pain…
ive some people this and appparently im not crazy, because its okay to feel this way
after ‘what ive gone through’ this past year
bahh… (sympathy makes me feel awkward)
and like i should be able to brush off some of the thoughts and
pain…
I’m way too stubborn for my own well being :-/
but yes, i have a journal that i carry around and write in whenever
i think about something.
I think maybe eventually i’ll grow out of the thoughts…
or i wont?
not surebut thank you for the advice
(and about one sided conversations… thats why i always love a good debate especially politics… speaking of widely debated subjects)<3 taylor nikole
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Carol UK Says:
July 24th, 2008 at 4:04 pmWow! I miss coming here for a day and suddenly here are all these deep thoughts on such profound topics as success and enlightenment. I think I can only manage to respond to one today as it’s already midnight here in England.
For me success is defined by contentment – the sort of contentment that is entirely independent of circumstances. That doesn’t mean that there aren’t any other goals to strive for or things that you would like to do etc. but that they don’t really matter in the scheme of things; they aren’t necessary for your peace and happiness.
I also agree with Taty.
It’s so great to be made to think like this – somehow I never seem to have these philosophical discussions in ‘real life’! Thanks Allison and Arash – great topic.
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jonny Says:
July 25th, 2008 at 2:42 amsuccess in my life is acheiving what id hoped for. a life lived to the full.
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Kate Says:
July 25th, 2008 at 10:01 amHere is a quote about success. I rather like it, although it is just another opinion to add to the mix.
“To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and to endure the betrayal of false friends. To appreciate beauty; to find the best in others; to leave the world a bit better whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition; to know that even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.” by Ralph Waldo Emerson -
jonny Says:
July 25th, 2008 at 2:50 pmoops my computer like hibernated in mid-message but anyway. we all have different opinions of what success is but for most its fulfilling their dreams. some acheive and some dont. but enjoy the ride is what i say. ive been shot like twice but im still here. and ive enjoyed my life and i hope to be around much longer. if not well i have succeeded so yh. if you read this comment and for some reason you wanna talk about my comment or your opinion or if anyone just wants to talk about life then send me an email on kingvegeta08@hotmail.co.uk
great topic.
i wont bore you anymore. and if you think i was shot in some chavvy gang then bugger off i was helping people.
ciao
jonny.
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TravelPro Says:
July 25th, 2008 at 5:54 pmThanks for this post!
I’ve recently had many people try to tell me what level my success “should beâ€, be it money, position in my company, or what business I should be in.
Fact of the matter is…I’m happy and I enjoy the here and now.
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Kris Says:
July 27th, 2008 at 10:30 pmFor me, success is just knowing I left the world a little better than it was a moment, an hour, a day, or a lifetime ago. If I can grant every moment the full attention it deserves and never consider little expressions of care to be a waste of time, I can gauge whether I’m on the right track pretty easily.
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