alone in public
Posted by Allison Mack | Filed under Blog
I just spent the day in New York City alone. I love it! My favorite place to be alone is one where I am never physically alone.
I realize that spending time introspecting right now would be the best thing for me and yet this is also the most challenging. So, like a mother holding her baby’s hands as the baby takes her first steps, I will compassionately carry myself into the depths of me, nurturingly allow the fears of looking inside to fall away.
Alone in public.
OK, so I don’t have enough guts to sit physically alone in silence for a full day, but I can do it when I am in a pool of humanity. I sit in cafes and watch, compare, read, draw, and write. Thinking is in there as well.
Be gentle with ourselves. Enjoy this life time. We don’t know where we go from here. But I am sure I love what I have, I am blessed. So, I will show my gratitude through joy. Or at least I will try.
xo
allison
Tags: alone, compassion, new york city, nurturing, public, travel
65 Responses to “alone in public”
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Lynsey Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 6:22 amIt can be inspiring to spend time alone somewhere like New York, even just watching others can make you question and feel connected – it’s a great place to gain some perspective (I’ve been there and done exactly that) but don’t forget to temper the introspection with spending time with family and friends – they can often show you just as much about yourself as you can learn from being alone xx
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Kris Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 6:28 amAAHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!! I LOVE BEING ‘ALONE IN PUBLIC’ TOO!!!
I’m comfy being alone in a room by myself, also, but it’s so much more refreshing to be alone with no physical boundaries. Half my friends/family think I’m crazy to take a vacation by myself; the other half think I’m brave and adventurous.
I agree that there’s some kind of magic spark to being by yourself in a public setting, especially a big city like NYC. I’ve spent quality time by myself there, as well as Chicago, and couple other big cities. (I highly recommend Chicago if you haven’t spent time there…so much to see and do and the lakeshore is beautiful!)
It’s awesome to be able to observe and react to your surroundings without the pressure of having to interact with a companion. It’s the ultimate freedom, in my opinion. You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to, and there’s no need to look at your watch or check your appointment schedule.
I’m in CT, so I think I may need to hit NYC again soon…
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Michael C Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 6:29 amWow. I’d love to spend a whole day just sitting in New York watching everyone else go by. Unfortunately I’ll have to settle for London which is a bit closer to home but just as good.
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Brittany Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 6:40 amHey Allison! It is fun being alone sometimes even though you are around tons of people. It’s like you’re watching the world around you do their thing but you’re somehow stuck in some kind of daze or time stamp and you can’t move, maybe you don’t want to move. I think being in those random dazes and having a time to reflect is an oppurtinity you don’t want to miss. Very inspiring subject! I hope you enjoyed your day in NYC alone, and it gave you tons of time to reflect upon you!
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David Hayes Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 7:04 amThis makes me curious as to whether you have to disguise yourself to be alone in public.
Personally I have the opposite problem. I am almost always alone even when I am surrounded by family or co-workers. I decided long ago that I would rather be alone when I actually was alone rather than be alone when I was surrounded by people who in some wat were somehow obligated to interact with me … but wouldn’t. Unfortunately, I’m not by nature anti-social, though I would be a lot happier if I didn’t care about being alone. For a while, I would pay people to go out to lunch with me. When that stopped being enough incentive, I started bringing a pad of paper with me and writing about other worlds and other realities — about characters who are out of place and struggling to fit in without compromising their beliefs and moral standards to do so.
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James Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 7:27 amI love being in public it’s where i escape to think and soak in the fresh air and by a lake, river or ocean is the best for me. But the best reward is just watch how things move around you and getting away for a bit.
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Jennifer Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 7:39 amGood morning Allison. Well, maybe Goodnight depending on when you read this.
I use to hate being alone,even for 2 hours but lately having a little alone time has been great. Just going out to the mall or taking a walk to the park being around lots of people. It’s funny…I feel like a stalker sometimes. Watching everyone around me,comparing myself. I tend to wonder one thing that I’ve aways wondered since I was a little kid. Where is everyone going? What are their plains for the day? Being alone lets you sit back and reflect upon yourself.
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william Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 7:39 amHi, allison. I want to vist nyc someday its looks amazing. I’ve done exactly what your talking about, just walking through the mall not really doing anything but looking and thinking. I love it even more if music is playing. Its a interesting enviroment to think. nice to hear from u, please keep up the posting! hope your doing well.
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Lydia Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 7:56 amI’m a bit of a loner, I’m used to being alone, I don’t mind. I enjoy the calmness (with soothing music on the background) or silence to reflect.
I guess it’s harder for me to open up, be surrounded by people and connect than being alone. I’ve started to open up though.:-)
Sometimes when I’m out shopping, i’ll have a drink or sit on a bench in the park…and I’ll look around, read, write and take it all in. Every time, I realize how beautiful life is.
I’m going to New York in October, for the first time. Yay!
I’ve been told it’s a wonderful city, with lots of people:-) I’ll be thinking of this blog entry when I’m strolling down the streets.:-) -
Seth G. Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 7:57 amI am so glad that I’m not the only one who enjoys being alone in public. I love going to the lake to read and watching people enjoy themselves. Any time I travel to a new city, I always take a lengthy stroll around the downtown area by myself. It is so liberating because you don’t have to worry about whether your companion is having a good time… all focus is on you and what YOU want to do.
Any time I sit down at the lake with a good book and a nice breeze, I always think, “This… THIS is what life is all about.” Not work, not college, not even my friends or family… it’s me connecting with nature and the rest of the world around me on an individual level. Of course, life has different meanings for everyone, but this is usually when I am the most happy and in-tune with my inner being.
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Aziza Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 8:20 amI like doing that. Sitting on the large sofa at my favourite coffee place, writing poems while observing the busybodies around me. You’re alone, but not fully alone- it’s like no one sees you really. But I like it that way.
Or just being under the trees, sitting on a bench watching the strollers, the runners, the 0migosh-i’m-late-for-class-speedwalkers, the friends who wave hi and do some sort of signing that the other can decipher – everyone is in a rush from point A to B.
Sit under the trees, just observing nature and people and once in a while let a bug fall on your lap and crawl about a bit. Even this stillness can kind of make you feel alive.But there are times when I’m with people, even people that I enjoy being with and yet I feel alone. Most times it’s not a good feeling. I need to change that.
Anyways, take care Allie!
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Aziza Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 8:25 amLydia, most times I feel that same way too.
But opening up is better.
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Robin Hebert Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 8:32 amAllison…you bless us so much with what you share. I’m from NY originally and it’s ironic how people pass each other and seem so busy and disinterested but if we took the time to discover their lives…it would be facinating. I for one can tend to feel alone more often than not. But what you posted just now really summed up what Ive been learning in life: GRATITUDE!! And JOY. What other choice do we really have? We only have so many days on this earth. Why waste them? You are so fortunate to have such insight at your stage in life. God Bless.
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Teresa K. Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 8:43 amI love being by myself when I’m at home. The quiet and stillness are refreshing. Some nice music in the background, soft music on either the radio or iPod, a nice glass of wine and a good book and I’m set.
On the flip side, one of the oddest things I’ve discovered about myself is that I don’t like to travel alone. I guess I need someone there to have the shared experience with. I went to Las Vegas by myself a few years ago and while I had a good time, I realized I was completely bored with the experience. I didn’t have anyone to reminisce with (“Remember when the salesperson at Burberry stared at us like we were homeless grifters?”, etc.) and I missed that. Thank goodness I’m going to Vegas this summer with a friend!
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Andy Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 8:43 amI love visiting New York. Glad you had such a wonderful time there!
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David Hayes Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 9:02 amI don’t know if many people will agree with this, but I feel really isolated a lot of the time becuase I am a man. I am also an artist and, despite how I may sound on this forum, do look for and enjoy the beautiful things in this world. When I was a teenager, my Mom told me that everyone in my High School class was beautiful. I didn’t agree. She told me about the “beauty of youth” — tight skin, free, unencumbered movement … things you lose over time that you don’t appreciate when you have them. Now that I’m older … and not just because of my vision problems, I see what my Mother saw — the beauty of youth. But as a man, I’m not supposed to look. I see a toddler playing and look at the energy and spirit and want to enjoy it. As a woman, I could say to the parents, what a beautiful child you have. As a man, I feel that people would say, “Why are you looking at my child … you SICKO!” I hear about women meeting for the first time and spontaneously hugging. I have to always be sure to keep a zone around me and dare not initiate something like a hug! And who’s to blame a parent from being worried. There ARE a lot of sickos out there. But more and more of them are women … So, women, enjoy your freedom to comment on how good people look and the freedom to initiate personal contact, because those freedoms may be stolen from you by mis-trust as men and women become more equal in the negative areas of life.
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Joy Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 9:09 amThank you so much for writing this. Being “alone” in public opens my eyes to everyone around me. Sometimes it shows the good side of people, other times it reminds me of why I need to be the one with compassion. Either way I get much more thinking, deciding, understanding done when it comes to my life. Hard to explain but it makes me focus on what needs to be sorted out. Those people I watched will never know how much they helped me, so I thank them by showing kindness to others!
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Veronica Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 9:21 amWow I am impressed you can do that, because I could never do that especially somewhere like NYC, lol I am such a chicken when it comes to going somewhere alone I need someone at least my sister or boyfriend haha! I don’t know I wish I could do that you know? It would be amazing to actually have the guts to do it but like you I cannot sit alone all day either so thats another thing I can’t do
I need to do something I cannot sit still all day, & that has been happening to me more & more lately because I go to college online which is fun & easier but it makes you stay home more & more which I dont mind but still. I just feel like I can’t sit still haha. I am like a worm I need to be moving
Thanks for sharing hon & love that you can do that. wish I had the guts & you never know maybe I will do it one day
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Veronica Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 9:23 amI love everything you said David very beautiful
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arash Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 9:30 amI guess we all appriciate a right companion, sometimes it is ourselves.
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so a few years ago I bought this bike named “arashi” I guess it is a japanees brand. arashi was stolen last year.I was lost for the whole year. Yesterday I finally bought another bike, I am so excited about it. I am planing to bike to work every day this summer. Do you guys get excited anymore over little things like we used to as kids? I don’t want to sit around and think a lot this summer but be more active. I want to set a record in something, my personal best!! -
Beth Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 9:32 amI also feel blessed. I’m just completely in love with life right now…
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Jade Ruby Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 9:34 amWell, I’ve never been to NYC, but I’ve experienced that feeling in San Francisco. But I remember one year, my cousin had moved there with her first son, right ahead of her husband who was being relocated there. We were all staying with her mom. Then her mom says to me; “you know, she hasn’t been to the city yet, take her to see the sights.” By the end of the day, her son was like, “Zzzzzz!” and we were carrying him. What a precious memory for me that is.
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MarilyneL Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 10:03 amWhat a nice day it is today! Inspiring weather so I wish you the best and courage to look deep inside and find what you’re looking for!
!Joy!
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Meredith Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 10:03 amHi Allison. I’m visiting NYC for the first time in May, and I’m really looking forward to it. I love the busy solitude of being alone in a crowd. I always try to schedule some time for people-watching and sight-drinking when I visit a new place.
I was wondering if you’ve ever read The Artist’s Way? I’m currently going through the process and it’s done wonders for my creative muscle and introspection. Something about it makes me think you’d really enjoy it and benefit from it–just from what I know of you from this blog. I can’t recommend it more highly.
p.s. Your “out out damned spot” moment on Smallville last night was beautiful and dreadful at once. Your recent arc is really allowing you to spread your wings and I’ve been so blown away by your choices!
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John Alvarez Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 10:10 amI guess everyone from one time to another need some alone time even if we spend it not completely by ourselves. I’m the same way when it comes to that, isolating myself in an empty room would drive me utterly insane, but I rather spend my time thinking at a bookstore doing pretty much the same stuff as you would. All that while feeding off the energy from the people surrounding me. I think that way, you have a sort of reference point to compare how you fit within humanity itself.
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Netra Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 10:15 amAllison, sometimes I can be in a room full of people and feel completely alone….I am the type of person that can sit in a resturant alone and eat dinner, all by myself. My friends think it’s a little weird, but it’s time for me to think and be by myself….I am at a crossroad in my life at this exact moment….I want so badley to break out of this box that I have built myself into….I have had opportunities to get out there and do something different…but I am so terrified of change……with your life you are always doing something different, and going outside of your comfort zone…..got any advice for a sister on how to take on that fear of the unknown, and punch it in the gutt and keep truckin????
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Karen Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 10:43 amYou’re right. There’s a certain serenity that comes from being alone in public. In a way it’s like standing next to the ocean, but instead seeing the waves of people come and go by.
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Avitable Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 10:51 amWhen are you going to join Twitter, btw?
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Joe Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 10:53 amah.. I just went through an intense introspection this past 6 months too..The “why” question is very useful once you learn how to ask it
I also find it’s in accepting, witnessing & appreciating what was too difficult to face/think abt, and reconciling & synergizing different conflicting parts of myself.. that I come to really know myself- and at each stage it’s as if a whole new world opens up to me..simply amazing..anyways – have fun ^^ it really is fun..enjoy your adventure within..
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J Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 11:18 amI know exactly what you mean about being alone in a crowd. There is a huge difference between being “alone” and being “lonely”. NYC is my favorite place to wander and do just that. I think if more people spent time some time alone, figuring out who they are and what they enjoy in life, the world would be a better place in general. Your blogs lately have been very inspiring. Thank you for sharing.
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Amanda N. Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 11:42 amHa NYC is the perfect place to spend a day by yourself,but never truly be alone.There is just so much to observe there,it is an amazing environment.It is where I was born,though I have not been back since then,I’d love to spend a day contemplating all the world’s thoughts.I hope you had a wonderful time there being alone in a crowd of masses.I really love this topic,I can so relate.I’m looking forward to the next one.You really are a very interesting,complex,and unique individual Allison,I always love hearing your thoughts on various topics.
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Conduit0 Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 11:59 amI think this is part of the reason why I enjoy going to the movies (besides the movies’ inherent awesomeness). I typically go alone and never really talk to anybody except the folks serving you behind the counters, yet it is a communal experience. I find you can soak up more out of the experience by being in this dark crowded room of strangers who tend to respond out loud on their instinctive levels. It’s a great place to pick up on the vibe of a mass of people.
[obligatory praise]
Just saw last night’s Smallville where Lois pretends to be Stilletto. I’m starting to feel more empathy towards Erica’s character, but not on the level as poor Chloe usually evokes. That girl is just plain lost. I hope the shows’ writers don’t have her character sent off to prison for accessory to murder. -
Eric Gebhardt Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 12:23 pmHi Allison, nice piece. I was caught a little off guard by your remark that it takes a certain measure of constitution, a.k.a. guts, to spend a day with yourself in true solitude. I’m the Jekyll to your Hyde in that respect. I live in Alaska, and find that time spent alone in the great expanses of wilderness up here make me feel liberated and even empowered to a degree. There is no fear for me there, my mind, body and soul feel as vibrant and limitless as the landscape. I’m kind of rambling now, but if you ever feel bolstered enough to hit that solo session, approach it as an adventure instead of a trial. The other parts of you might have some neat things to say.
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Paul V. Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 12:25 pmIf you like that kind of ‘alone’, you’d love San Francisco. Less crime here but it makes the cops more apathetic.
I understand how getting your alone time is tougher for a celebrity. But, on the flip side of that, not a lot of us average joes make the money celebrities make. I am currently one of the over 600,000 unemployed in California right now. Watching my budget several times over makes me more alone than I really want to be. As the unemployment money dwindles down, the panic settles in.
I would enjoy life more if I had the ability to relax like I used to.
I’m mad at the political system not you. You deserve your happiness. -
arash Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 12:47 pmAlone in Public;
put those single lonely voices together and this is what you get;
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Us-TVg40ExM -
Steven Kirk Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 1:19 pmAh, for a quiet moment!
There are constant, relentless, crashing waves or responsibility that never relent.
The only true “Fortress of Solitude” is the quiet space within yourself, and it’s a great place to escape to, even when surrounded by humanity.
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Maria Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 1:40 pmThis is so weird, my best friend and me were JUST talking about this today! Some other friends of ours say that we’re anti-social simply because we like to go be by ourselves sometimes. And me and my friend were saying that it’s not that we’re anti-social it’s just that we like to be alone, you know. Just be alone and think. It’s an awesome way to figure out things, really! I love it! My favorite place to go is Borders. I’ll just go to a table grab a book and just read the day away. I don’t care if they call me anti-social , I like being alone sometimes it’s so… refreshing!
Xo
Maria
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Gnome Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 1:57 pmI wish I could do the same…be alone for some moment…. How is it like?
I’m a total imcompetent on that. People use to don’t leave me alone even if I beg or run away…
Someone always find a way to find me.
Gnome is kinda people magnetic. Doesn’t matter collor, etny, sex, religious, if they are beggars,kids, crazy people, normal people, funny people, even weird animals… They always find me…
So be alone is kinda utopy for me….
And don’t think I don’t try….
I use to go to theater, shopping, travelling, all by myself.
Maybe Im not meant to be alone…. so I think is better if I won’t fight my fate …
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Tim McGee Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 3:01 pmLet me know when you’re in Philly, Miss Mack. I can show you around the area and treat you to a Phillies game
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Maxx Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 3:05 pmYea, I like the feeling of sitting back (when I’ve earnt it) and watching the world work as I do my own thing, whatever that may be at the time
I miss New York. It was just my kind of town. lol
Alone… words strikes a few nerves doesn’t it?<3 Maxx
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Kim Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 3:28 pmHey Allison,
I too love being alone. I am my own best company. I sometimes get in this mood where i have to do stuff alone in order to catch up with myself. I love walking up and down Downtown brooklyn. Thinking and observing.
have a great weekend!
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Vanessa (spain) Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 4:01 pmIt was very funny in last night´s episode when Lois was pretending to be Stiletto in front of Clark
And it´s very sad to see how Chloe and Clark seem to be falling apart…
I loved your acting in this episode Allison. The emotions are so real, every time Chloe is sad it makes me want to cry too!
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viviane Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 5:22 pmHello Allison! spend some time alone the good… to reflect! while in NY to be alone is difficult, NY only know the TV, but it must be wonderful … kisses! take care …
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Jimmy Valentime Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 6:02 pmI live in nyc
Its going to be great this weekend
;;;sheepishly offers to buy you a cookie;;
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WhitneyC Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 6:21 pmI love that you refuse to allow yourself to become jaded by life the way many of us so often do before we’re even 40, or 30 for that matter! Wish I held such an outlook.
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Rita Gabriela Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 6:52 pmI love enjoy my life… stay closer of people that i love, my friends, my family… stay in places that i can be myself, like a party, or a beach…. perfect!!
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Rita Gabriela Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 6:57 pmOh, i agree with ¨Vanessa (Spain) ¨ said :
I really loved your acting in this episode Allison. The emotions are so real, every time Chloe is sad it makes me want to cry too! You are amazing! Congratulations! Xo
Rita
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Paul Y Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 7:18 pmYou were in NYC? You should’ve looked your NYC fans up. I know you wanted to be spending time alone and it’s fun. Spending time alone can be very healthy as it allows for introspection, carthartic emotional analysis, and wonderful self-realization.
Still… we would’ve loved to show you around and let you have the time of your life in the capital of the world… aka NYC.
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Brittany Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 8:27 pmVanessa, I completely agree with you. I just watched Stiletto, today, cause I don’t have the CW station, JOY TV 11 is my saviour for Smallville watching! Chloe and Clark are falling apart. I hope Chloe reveals the whole Davis in her basement secret to him! I had a smile on my face throughout the conversation between Lois Lane in the telephone booth, and Clark on the other line as the red, blue blurr. At first I thought it was Oliver cause of the deep voice! Very inspiring acting Allison, you’re a natural on camera! I hope you have a very awesome weekend!
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Jessica M Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 10:20 pmI like spending time by myself thinking!!
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Ron St.Amant Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 10:29 pmI always enjoy going to the movie theatre very early, and often get a chance to sit in a quite massive room alone with my thoughts. Once I went and was by myself for 30 minutes while the theatre played Vivaldi over its luscious sound system…that was like heaven in a comfy chair.
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Robin Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 11:48 pmI’ve only visited New York once, but it is an amazing city, be it sitting alone in a cafe, sitting on the steps of the New York Public Library between Patience and Fortitude, walking through Central Park, waiting to meet some one at Grand Cental Station …all great places to watch the World pass by.
Whenever I sit alone and watch the events pass around me I can’t help but imagine what unique stories each person has, where have they just been and where are they going?
I guess sometimes by we don’t see our true selves by merely looking in a mirror, only a distorted reflection, sometimes we have to look at how others around us act and reconise the same similarities that we all share to help understand our own actions and feelings.
What makes each of us act the way we do? A frown here,a smile there, a shrug of the shoulders, just as we might relate the actions of characters in stories be it positive and negative, regardless of the specific events or setting, so we reconise and hopefully understand the behaviours in others and hopefully better understand ourselves…Anyway sometimes it’s just nice to sit in a cafe having a cup of tea or a late while eating a blueberry muffin or a choclate eclair and and let ourselves just be!
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Dream_Walker Says:
April 25th, 2009 at 12:38 amHeh, i love being alone sometimes, i find being massed by other people most times aint so great cause most people are like grey mass going along they usual days never looking back or around them. I sometimes enjoy just sitting back and watching others go about theyre business it seems so futile yet it is what keeps us going
We humans are one odd bunch ^_^ P.S i prefer sitting at backyard watching stars at clear sky in the night to the rush of downtown w00t, Peace DW
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Soniclore Says:
April 25th, 2009 at 7:02 amIf you are comfortable with yourself, you are never really alone.
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Ranma-chan Says:
April 25th, 2009 at 3:18 pmI also know this feeling, to be alone in public. I think people needs also a space for ownselves, to go to wherever I want, to see whatever I want, to know people, to choose every decision you want..etc.
3 years ago I was like that because I decided to leave for university and start a new life, so I become to be alone in public walking in Barcelona city (I’m from Spain ^_^) and was really really good and necessary for me, for look for a space and time to think about my life.
Was very important in my life, and now I want to feel like this again to have a breake now (very stress now XD).
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Jesse Says:
April 26th, 2009 at 9:17 amHi Allison
You were in New York…. I hope you had a great time, so many places to see, me being a native. There is nothing more compassionate then a “mother holding her baby’s hand” or a perfect parental love, that will lift you up when you are feeling fearful or uncertain. Wow, I know you will make a great mother someday. It’s funny but I always have a sense of being alone even when I am with my friends or a large group of people. I guess if you are with the right person you wouldn’t feel alone anymore, I don’t know; sometimes I think if you are with the right person it can fill the room. Allison again I hope you went some place nice in the city haa and the experience was enlightening looking into depths of your heart. Ummm
-Jesse
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thomas Says:
April 26th, 2009 at 9:59 amMay your love grow. Bless you.
Try praying for everyone you see you and will find joy everlasting.
As I walk down the street in Brooklyn I pray for everyone I see and watch as the Lord brings smiles to the faces, peace to their souls and joy in their hearts. Bless the Lord.
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Allie Says:
April 26th, 2009 at 4:19 pmwow, I am SO jealous of you right now! i would give anything to be in NYC again, and be alone in public. It’s seriously the best ever isn’t it?
Instead I’m in a flurry of final papers, group projects, final scenes, and studying, with entirely too many people to see and too much to do, lol.
Sigh. Oh well, life is made up of seasons right?
Anyways, hope that you are having a wonderful time, and hope that you get some good introspection time as well!
(You should check out Cafe Lalo, if you haven’t been there already, it’s on the west side, I think 83rd street, it’s THE BEST CAFE. Seriously amazing there. It was featured in the movie “You’ve got Mail” as well…and that’s always a plus, lol)
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Mark Says:
April 26th, 2009 at 8:33 pmThat’s awesome and at times it’s great when you have some alone time to yourself and you think that you can do thsi forever. But after a while it gets kinda boring and don’t some company until they annoy or you just need some more me time. I haven’t been to NYC yet but I’m looking forward to the day when I go there for a visit.
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Elena Says:
April 26th, 2009 at 8:50 pmThis is my absolute favorite thing to do as a writer.
Sitting at a table or couch with a luke hot cup of tea. Watching. Observing. Reading. Listening. Taking in all of the sights and sounds around you, without absorbing peoples energy. I’ve never been to NYC before. I would really love to be in a cafe or bookstore, seeing and listening to all that is around me.
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Silvia Says:
April 27th, 2009 at 12:19 amAlone in Public… I love it! It’s a nice thing, but also strange. I mean, how can anybody be lonely surrounded by so many people. Hence, as long as you are in public you are as less lonely as you are in company. That’s why a lot of people who love to be alone in public are scared to be all alone in an empty place. However, it’s fantastic for doing things such as writing, studying and so on.
PS
quote: “But I am sure I love what I have, I am blessed.”…the less reason you have to get flustered.
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clay Says:
April 27th, 2009 at 1:36 amCan’t say that I’ve ever tried to be alone in public…sounds interesting though. My most introspective moments have always been in the fall. There’s just something about walking through downtown at 3am with the leaves rustling along the streets and sidewalks that gives you the impression of being the only person left on earth…..it’s an eerie yet inspiring feeling. I look forward to seeing what you learned
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Ruthie Says:
April 27th, 2009 at 3:17 pmStill, as a mother of four young children, I find one of my favorite things to do in my rarely found free time is to wonder somewhat aimlessly by the river at a nearbly park, sit under the lovely footbridge, lounge on the backsteps of a log cabin that’s over a century old, and just BE. I love that.
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Rafael Ribeiro Says:
June 27th, 2009 at 4:29 pmHi Allison.
I’m loving reading your blog.
You always write important things, and if
everyone pretice doing something good
every day, everything would be better;
let’s enjoy every second, and do what we
should to.twitter.com/rafaelrn
rafaasthoughts.blogspot.comGod blees you, always loving you.
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inspirit Says:
April 25th, 2010 at 4:06 pmHi Allison,
One of my favorite authors is Dr. Wayne Dyer. There’s a line from one of his books that reads “The wilderness is therapy. Even if you live in a big city, just walking on the grass bare feet will make you feel better”. I love that because I actually live in NYC, but I find that by just taking the time to spend alone and with nature is very peaceful and relaxing. Great blog. P.S. I think I saw you by the way! Were you walking on W 3rd St (btw MacDougal-6 Ave) at around 3pm last Thursday?
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