Ask3Journey Round 2
Robin asked:
Is art a reflection of the society of it’s day, or inspiration of what it could be?
Allison said:
What an awesome question Robin. I think it is both. I now, it sounds like a bit of a cop out answer doesn’t it? But I feel it is a very similar question to the chicken and the egg. I don’t know if we can ever determine what comes first. However, I do believe it is the responsibility of the artist to understand and recognize the effect the work they produce has on the world.
nkc asked:
Is there anything weird you did as a kid that you still do?
Allison said:
Make up dances, plays, and stories with my best friend Jenny in our living rooms.
Ruthie asked:
What legacy would you like to leave…how do you want to be remembered?
Allison said:
Wow, getting right into it I guess? I want to be remembered as something I feel so far away from currently. I want to be remembered as a woman of love and strength. I want to be remembered as someone who inspired ideas and expression. Someone who was passionate about life and art and friends and family. I want to be remembered for telling epic stories in my own way. Stories that influence and inspire society. I want to be remembered as someone who can be counted on to bring joy to the situations I choose to participate. I want to be a woman of peace and compassion. A woman who means what she says and says what she means. A woman of integrity and depth. I have so much work to do, but I think that is the process of life. Building ourselves to be the ultimate person we can be. Paying attention to the moments we have and filling them with as much of us as possible. Quietly, presently, alive.
Volley! Allison asks everyone:
- What is your Black Swan moment? A Black Swan moment is a moment in time when you knew your life would change forever. When you never knew it was possible to have a swan any other color than white and a black one appears in front of you one day and you entire life is changed.
- If you had a time machine and could go back and say something you wish you had said, but will never have the chance to say, what would it be and to whom?
- What is your favorite childhood memory?
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50 Responses to “Ask3Journey Round 2”
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Keith Says:
June 4th, 2009 at 8:47 am1. My Black Swan moment was the moment when I finally accepted that I couldn’t take the good bits of a person and make that the only thing they were about. There was a person that I felt greatly for, and still do to a small degree, and I let myself tolerate alot of things that I probably shouldn’t have. I did this because I felt if I let go, I’d never be the same again. Slowly things deteriorated anyway, and I finally hit the breaking point. Once it actually happened, not only did I realize that I could move on, I learned that I am much much happier because of it. As good as her best points were, the negatives were enough that they weighed the good, and me, down. I’ll never regret the day I took hold of my life and just let go.
2. If there’s anything I wish I had said, I wish that I had stood up for myself a bit more when I was younger. I was something of an odd duck in school and kept to myself, which led to alot of unkind words said to and about me. I finally stood up for myself in junior high but I have always wondered what would have happened if I had done it so much sooner.
3. My favorite childhood memory is playing with my friends in my old apartment complex. It was really, really big and had a huge tiered area in the middle where we played tetherball, a large hill that we used to ride skateboards and scooters down, and a row of bushes that were sturdy enough to have actually held a clubhouse on top of them at one point. It was an interesting place to live, and I always think about what I got up to there every so often.
I hope you enjoy my answers!
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Ana_Sullivan Says:
June 4th, 2009 at 8:55 am1) There have been many of these moments in my life. The most important was when I discovered my ex-girlfriend (when she was my girlfriend) saying to a girl (which I used to call my friend) that She didn’t love me because she was in love with her. That moment was very dramatic for me, but I changed for the better. And I met wonderful “new” people, now I am stronger and I have great hope in my dreams of being a photographer and a writer. Now I don’t waste my time or effort, with people who aren’t worth it.
2) It’s a very difficult question, but I think that I would try to don’t waste time and I try to explain things to the people that I have lost in the way of my life.
3) Difficult question…But I will say on Sunday that my mother’s uncle and my grandfather took us to the whole family to the forest to eat, good times… this is the truth. After my mother’s uncle died, the family has been separated for years. -
jordan Says:
June 4th, 2009 at 8:59 amif i could go back in time and say something i wanted to i would have told this girl that i liked her i was so afraid to tell her i didnt no what to say or do i had butterflies when ever i was near her it felt like someone grabbed my heart and kept squeezing. but that was a few years ago now. my best childhood memory was playing football (soccer) all the time and playing tag and hide and seek. was great times. but my best memory of my teenage years are my running days i used to run alot and loved it cause i was the fasted in my school. haha. xxxxxxxx
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SrA Reed Says:
June 4th, 2009 at 9:06 am1. When I was very little my dad would take me to the airport and let me watch the F-16s take off. That was when I realized I wanted to grow up and become a military fighter pilot.
2. If I could go back in time to say something to someone I would tell my old Friend John I was sorry for a fight we got into. Shortly after a serious argument we had he was tasked to deploy to Iraq in August 2003 and died in a fire fight against terrorists. I never got the chance to say i’m sorry. That thought still bothers me to this day. Hope your happy in heaven John. Save me a seat.
3. I was 10 at an Air Show with my parents. I was mezmorized by the acrobatics of these pilots and what they could do with their planes. I never knew they could maneuver like that. They seemed to be dancing in the sky.
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jordan Says:
June 4th, 2009 at 9:07 amallison would you ever consider being in a superman movie? who is your favourite superman if you have one? xxxxxxxxx
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Kathrin Schulte ( Germany) Says:
June 4th, 2009 at 9:13 am1. My Swan moment is the day in the last year, on which my only and very lovely sister died. I was very down because she was not only my sister, she was my best friend and I loved her very much. I didn´t know how to go on with my life for a very long time…
2.I think I wouldn´t go back in time because I am a very direkt person and I say always what I think. Sometimes it´s not always the best!!
3. Oh, there a many childhood memories, which are unforgettable. But the best is a performance as a dwarf in the nursery school. It´s something I would never do again. I am too shy for performances. That´ s the reason I am very proud of my dwarf performance!! -
Josh in RI Says:
June 4th, 2009 at 9:27 am1.) My black swan moment was 4 years ago. My dad brought me to my doctor/therapy appointment and an hour later when I came out there were 3 cops searching the car. After about 5 minutes of them nearly ignoring me, then finding out I’m his son, they then told me that someone found him keeled over the wheel in the parking lot. By the time he’d gotten to the hospital, he was DOA. He was apparently dead 10 min. before the abulance even got to him.
How this changed my life forever is because my dad and I were starting to fight a lot, and would have soon thrown fists at each other. My dad was a major source of pressure and stress for me. As sad as it is, I do miss him every now and then, but I’m still glad he’s moved on.
2.)If I could say what I wanted to a certain someone, I would have asked this one girl, Tina, out on a date. I’m more of the loner type, so relationships are kinda hit or miss. and I’m the kind of guy that in some ways is “Oblivious to the Obvious.: Someone could like me, and I wouldn’t even know it unless it’s brought to my attention. But even if I could have had it in me to ask her out, I’d probably still be where I am today – sad and alone…
3.)This is the toughest one to answer for me anyway. Had soooo much bad and negative happen growing up… But my happiest childhood moment I would have to say is knowing that I was the world to my grandmother and grandfather. My dad had 2 girls in his previous marraige, and my grandparents were happy. But when my dad and mom had me, I was what everyone tells me “the most important thing in thier lives”. Both of them had passed away when I was 4 due to cancer. To Mary and John Jencks, R.I.P., Always thinking about you…
Hope you like my answers…
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David Hayes Says:
June 4th, 2009 at 9:42 amI will answer question one for now, but I may later wish I had that time machine so I could go back and not post what I’m about to.
When I was very young, I had a Mother who I thought was perfect, a Father who was largely absent (out saving the world), an older brother who only knew I existed when he had some use for me, and a younger sister who felt that I was worthless unless she could control me like a puppet. So, for the most part, by Father and brother were not part of my world. When I didn’t allow my sister to control me and didn’t play the games according to her rules, she spent her time trying to convince me that I was the ugliest, most worthless mistake to ever walk the planet. But that didn’t matter because my Mother always told me that I was a beautiful, perfect little boy. She took me on outings where I amazed her friends at age 4 and 5 with my artwork and sewing/design skills and with my ability to fix simple broken machines. I never backed down from a challenge or failed to say what I believed on any subject because I totally trusted my Mother and her belief in me gave me the strength, confidence and courage to face the world. I was a prince in my small world. My Mom would call the local grocery store a few blocks down the street and, at 5 years old, I would go to the store and pick up her order and bring it home. For me, there was nothing to fear in the world.
Then, when I was seven years old, I told my Mother that the other people in my life that even noticed me called me ugly and stupid and worthless, but that I knew that it wasn’t true becaue she told me otherwise. Then she said something that changed my life. Maybe she would like that time machine to go back and reconsider what she said to me. She said that she only told me that I am beautiful because she is my Mother and that is her job. At that point in my life, what she said invalidated every positive thing she had ever said about me. It was her job to say nice things about me, even if they weren’t true. On the other hand, I couldn’t see any hidden agenda in my sister’s words. I lost my armour. The world changed. I had gone from being a prince to being Quasimoto in the span of a single sentence. That was my Black Swan moment that has pretty much defined my life.
I think, shortly after that, a much older neighbor boy living 2 houses down the street was playing a game with me and some others and, when the others left, he bound me hand and foot so tight that the ropes cut my skin and gagged me and had me in his garage. I don’t remember much except that the ropes hurt, the gag tasted bad and I was crying. He told me that the only way he would let me go was if I promised never to tell what he had done to me. In return, he offered me some old dirty toy with a hole in it as a bribe (that he would give me at a later time). Days later, I asked the boy’s mother about the toy and she said that she had thrown it out. For years I thought I had never told my parents about what happened. But I have never been great at keeping secrets. When I mentioned the incident to my Father when I was an adult, my Father told me that he and Mom had known about it at the time and he had talked to the boy, asking him not to do it again.
I also remember one time when my Mom and I were wading in a mountain stream where the water was shallow, my Mom lost on of her flip-flops (open toed sandal that used to also be called a thong). It was carried down into a deeper part of the stream by a very fast current. We followed by the shore until we saw it get caught in a branch about five feet off shore. My Mom held my hand and had me go out in the water up to my shoulders so I could reach out and retrieve her flip-flop. When I think about that now, the cold water, the fast current … my Mother had me risk my life that day for half of a pair of footwear that at most cost one dollar.
I had a lot of messages about my value in this world, but it only took one brief conversation with my Mother for it to hit home at age seven. It’s been 45 years and that conversation still colors my life.
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Kyle Says:
June 4th, 2009 at 10:45 am1. When I made a career change that helped people. That was pretty big.
2. I would go back about four years ago and tell myself to stay silent. It was for my last girlfriend
3. What is your favorite childhood memory? Camping with my family. We always have a blast together.
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Grayson Says:
June 4th, 2009 at 11:55 am1) I didn’t really have a black swan moment, because I honestly can’t remember a time thinking there was only one way things could be (I’m thankful for my parents, in that regard). The closest I can come to is when we moved from New Jersey to Texas simply because that was the biggest change I would have to take on, and it certainly changed every aspect of my life.
2) I had tried to play football at one point (to impress a girl…didn’t work), and it was a lot like Rudy, but without the happy ending, ha ha. I was really short, and not in great shape. Anyway, there was one practice, I could barely move, and I got to the locker room and I remember thinking that I didn’t have to take it anymore if i didn’t want to…so I quit. Sometimes, I look back at that as the moment I quit on myself, just because I was a late bloomer, I gave up before my growth spurt (I’m 6’4″ now). In hindsight, though, it taught me to have patience with the gifts God has in store for me, and that the results that are worth it never happen immediately.
3) My favorite childhood memory would simply be every family vacation we’ve ever taken. My family knew how to kick back and have a good time, and I miss the purity of it. I realize now that even though I had no cares in the world, my parents were still “working” by taking care of us and the responsibilities to provide those vacations. I miss that carefree attitude, that ignorant bliss, of childhood summer vacation.
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Rob Says:
June 4th, 2009 at 12:19 pm1. Black swan moment : Many years ago aged 18 working on a kibbutz, I was cooling down in a swimming pool on my own, holding onto the side in the shallow end (I can’t swim and cannot tread water). I got adventurous, was mucking around , and edged into deeper water, going under and then pushing myself off the bottom back up to the edge – oh the joys of youthful stupidity!!. I suddenly went too deep and didn’t touch the bottom, had moved away from the side and so found underwater unable to get to the surface no matter what I tried. Seemed like an eternity, and I was methodically trying various leg and arm motions to propel myself upwards but to no avail. I then figured I was going to drown as no one else had been there, but heres the thing. There was no life flashing before my eyes, no panic, no fear, just a thought of what the hell if my times up so be it!! Luckily somebody else had come along to the pool seen me struggling and pulled me out in time.
From that moment on I realized I had no fear of dying or what life could throw at me and have continued a happy go lucky life ever since. Oh yes . . . I went straight back into that pool – it was a bloody hot day in the high 30′s !!!2. Time Machine : Surprise surprise it involves a young girl I had a crush on and I would wait until she was with all her friends, walk up to her, and just tell her straight up how cute she was and leave it at that and walk off smiling . . . .
3. Childhood moment: This may sound wierd but its the gods honest truth. I was playing outside my house aged about 7, running along at speed on grass, no obstructions, no holes or bumps when I suddenly collapsed, tumbled over and thought what the hell just happened. I remember bursting into laughter because it was such an adrenaline rush. It felt like for a split second that somehow the signal from my brain to my legs got disconnected and it sort of felt like my legs weren’t there anymore. It was probably no more than a second and I was able to get right back up but it was like some sort of thrill you would get at a fairground. Just a new experience unlike any other I have felt to this day. I spent hours trying to repeat it but to no avail.
Still makes me laugh when I think about it now like some sort of scene out of a tom & jerry cartoon.There you go . . . . . .
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Chelsea Says:
June 4th, 2009 at 2:02 pm1.First was when I finally was able to attend my dream university, Embry-Riddle Aeronautical University. The second was when I found out that I can no longer afford to go back to Embry-Riddle next year, which means I have to completely change my major and pursue and different career path.
2. Hmmmm, I would probably go back to my sophomore year in highschool and tell myself to relax and have some fun. I was so focused on grades and advancing in NJROTC that I stressed myself out way too much. I wish I had of tried out for the softball team and backed off from ROTC a little.
3. My favorite childhood memory was Christmas morning of 1995. I was 7 years old and my mom came into my room early in the morning to tell my sis and I that she had to go out and help my dad get some cows that had gotten out of their pen and that we needed to get up in a few minutes to go out to feed the calves like we did every morning. So I got up about 15 minutes later and went to the barn to play with the kitties before I started my chores. When I walked into the barn I saw my mom holding a video camera pointed towards a pen just inside the door. I asked her what she was doing and rounded the corner in order to look in the direction that she was pointing the camera. What I saw was the best christmas present I had ever received, it was a young brown quarter horse with a black mane and tail. She was so beautiful and it was sooooo unexpected. I had always wanted my own horse but my parents always said that we couldn’t afford one, so I just accepted the fact that I would never have my own horse. So, seeing her standing in the barn that day was just so unbelievable and amazing. It was really one of the best memories that I have of my childhood.
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Ruthie Says:
June 4th, 2009 at 6:29 pmThat was a great question, Robin! I was hoping Allison would answer it
Great answer too Allison! Well said. Thanks for answering mine, too…I had to ask because I knew your answer would be inspired!1. My black swan moment: sitting on the edge of my bed in tears,as a nearly 30-year-old young woman, coming to terms with the fact that my whole worldview was crumbling around me, that I was living in an entirely different universe than I had always believed, and that there was no “us” and “them”…we were all here together making our way through this big beautiful mess. Awakening from my childhood faith changed my life…and opened me up to so much pain and joy. I love this journey.
2. If I could go back, I would say “I was wrong” and “you were my teachers all along.” The number of people I could say this to is so vast I could never name them all, but two people I will never have a chance to say it to are my grandparents, Walter and Betty.
3. Hmmnn…my favorite childhood memory? I’d probably have to say being up my favorite tree and cracking open Tennyson for the first time as a pre-teen. Thank you L.M. Montgomery for introducing me, through Anne, to Tennyson…The Lady of Shalott, Enoch Arden and others. In that tree, Lord Alfred and I were joined by Wordsworth, Byron, Keats, Dickinson and the Brownings, among others. Maybe that’s why I feel so kin to trees…we shared poetry
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Eduardo Says:
June 4th, 2009 at 6:39 pm1 if i understand what a black swan moment is I think it would be when i chose to study biology but now when i started to check about some other carrers now im thinking about architecture but im not sure
2if i had a time machine i would go back 1 day before my grampa died and go to his room to see him (i didnt enter originaly cause the nurse told me that because i was a kid i could get some sickness in the hospital so i got scared ) i would tell that nurse that i dont care about that
3 and maybe my happiest memory of my childhood is my first trip to disney land it was realy magical and special
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Eduardo Says:
June 4th, 2009 at 6:46 pmand which are yours allison ? your responses matter a lot to me !
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Aziza Says:
June 4th, 2009 at 8:39 pm1. Black swan moment. Being betrayed by someone I trusted and not once blaming myself over it. That’s when I realised I can’t control situations but my reactions to them. But I’m still in that process.
2. The time machine – I think I would leave that machine alone. It would be dangerous in my hands.
3. My favourite childhood moment – sighh. Sorry, I was the brains in the family. I had a stack of books taller than me when I was 7, lol. Kidding. I like my adulthood better. But I liked pretending as a kid – one way was by writing stories- okay, essay writing was my favourite in school but I get to make up stuff. haha. And another part of it was pretending my bedroom was anything I wanted it to be, a ship, a castle, a fortress- hmm, under my grandmother’s dining table was a fortress. And I liked swings. My neighbour had these iron chair swings and we used to stand on top of the narrow backrests and they would flip horizontally and we would just swing away – not very high.
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Aziza Says:
June 4th, 2009 at 8:43 pmRuthie’s comment made me think of Scout in To Kill a Mockingbird.
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Susana Says:
June 4th, 2009 at 9:08 pm1. My Black Swan Moment, I think would have to be when I had to get surgery because of how badly I treated my stomach it just opened up my eyes to see that it was my fault because I was the one that stopped eating & everything changed from then
2. ooh tough question, I think I would go back to when I was in 4th grade even though I was little & everything but I wish I could go back & tell the girls that were bullying me to stop & actually defend myself. & feel good self esteem at that age because that messed me up so I wish I had the machine so I can actually face them even now would be great because I can actually fight & defend my own battles now haha
3. I think when me & my sister just hung around singing & dancing & making up dumb little dances to our favorite songs. Now I feel like that is all gone because we both have grown up & grown apart too she’s 20 so now shes off doing her own stuff so I wish sometimes I could go back to those memories when I was little.
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Robin Says:
June 5th, 2009 at 12:47 amThanks for taking the time in answering my question Allison, three interesting questions and three great answers, cheers for the comments Ruthie.
Ok, time for my own answers…
1. My Black Swan moment, well i’ve had several, but I (and family) do remember years ago visiting my Aunt in a hospital of physically disabled patients once a month…of talking and observing wards of patients in so many difficult conditions and having the sobering feeling of just how cruel life can be for some people and how damn lucky we are to have the chance in living life to the full. Of getting caught up self pity over trivial things, of not having this or that, of getting frustrated and angry about so many unimportant things that I came away ashamed of my own actions and thoughts, and to view each day as a such an amazing gift!
2.The time machine question…either saying goodbye to my springer spaniel Nougat who I never got to “say” goodbye to, or to selfishly stop myself from saying and behaving in such a hurtful manner which played a part in destroying a very dear friendship which I no longer have with someone.
Lifes full of crossroads and what ifs…
3. I’ve been so lucky to have so many, summer holidays with my brother when we used to love drawing and creating our own board games and characters and creating comic books together!
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Silvia Says:
June 5th, 2009 at 1:50 am1.
I’ve had several such moments. I guess the most dramatic was when I nearly died a few years ago. Had I not have had this spontaneous recovery, I wouldn’t be here anymore. “What does not kill you, makes you stronger”… and it has made me stronger and I can already see the next swan at the horizon.2.
I once had a friend, Cathy. She had a congenital heart defect. She loved life, she loved to talk and she loved playing her oboe. I always met her in the tram every second day. When I met her for the last time she told me that she was going to have an open-heart surgery. She had some other operations before, but this, the last time she was so scared. The last operation she had before went wrong. The surgeon implanted the new heart valve the wrong way round. They had to correct this…. she didn’t survive her last surgery… and I missed the chance to say goodbye… it’s not the same to bid farewell at the grave…3.
My favourite childhood memory… my first kiss when I was only four years old… No, I’m only joking I just remember this as really wet. Ok, now seriously… my favourite childhood memory is me drinking my mother’s coffee (white coffee) when she had a phone call during breakfast. -
Jonathan Vargas Says:
June 5th, 2009 at 1:16 pmTo all my people go through a Black Swan moment. Since I was a kid raised my three younger brothers and since then one is more responsible and realize that you have the unconditional support of the family and not fail to see the people you want. Great Greeting Allison Mack is that when the time comes will be an Exemplary Mother. And good luck in the future.
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Jonathan Vargas Says:
June 5th, 2009 at 1:38 pmA memory from my childhood was not very nice because I was playing with my father to hide inside the house, behind a door and the wall behind me When suddenly you hear and see what opens the door and treatment grasp of the moment is in a step to the side and I would grasp it when I hit the front with the edge of the wall, of course it scared me and my parents took me to hospital worried I had 4 stitches to sew the front, that was when I was like 6 or 7 years old and now I have 25 years of age and when my friends ask me why is that you remind me that scar when he was playing with my father. Greetings
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Jonathan Vargas Says:
June 5th, 2009 at 1:48 pmI am happy and content with everything in my life if I pass something bad happened in the past, if I will now try to solve it already, and if in the future try to learn from my mistakes of the past, now and no commit in the future.
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Amanda N. Says:
June 5th, 2009 at 2:23 pm1.I think my Black Swan Moment would have to be when my half brother Glen visited my family a few weeks back.When he came it really changed my outlook on something that had been bothering me for awhile.He stayed with us and was so kind to me.He was a good guy that I could look up to.My dad isn’t always the greatest at times.And sometimes I think he doesn’t try hard enough.I have never had a real male role model in my life.Most of the older men that I know have a lot of problems in their lives.Glen is a really great brother to me.He loves coming down to texas to visit us,he’s from New York City.He is also pretty smart and I like being around him,he treats me really good.I guess it was a life changing moment because it showed me to always have hope.There are a lot of times when I think that somethings will never change.But now I know they can.You just have to have faith that good things will come.My brother is thinking about moving down here with his family.I’m not sure if he will,but I really hope he decides to.
2.If I had a time machine I would go back to fifth grade when we were having a boys versus girls fight on the spark park.It was all in good fun.We started off just throwing things like leaves and other soft things.But then we ran out of amo,so we picked up rocks and started throwing them.When I look back on it now I think that was so foolish,because someone could of gotten hurt.Actually somebody did get hurt a boy in our class named Christian.And it was all my fault.I hadn’t meant to hurt anyone.But it hit him in the head and he began to bleed.The worst part is I didn’t take the blame for it.A good friend of mine did.I had began to cry thinking I was in serious trouble.So chastity told the principal it was her who did it.If I could go back in time I would tell Christian that I was so sorry I hurt him.I would also tell Chastity that she was an amazing friend,but it wasn’t her problem to take on.Most of all I would tell the principal that I had done it.I wish I could have told the truth,but I was too much of a little punk to do so.I was so afraid of getting in trouble.I had never done anything bad in school before and didn’t want to get suspended.I did learn from that situation though.I learned to be more cautious and careful.And also realize that no matter how bad something seems to be,it’s always the best thing to be truthful.
3.My favorite childhood memory would be making makeshift clubhouses at my house or my cousins home.We would get these great big sheets and tack them to the wall and build our own little houses.Melanie who was my cousins cousin,but someone we consider family, was the builder.When we were done making them we would put all our toys and other stuff and hang out in there.We had a little living room and kitchen part.It was so cute and so much fun.The best times of my childhood would be hanging out with my sisters and cousins.
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Rainer Says:
June 6th, 2009 at 12:56 am1.A year ago i played a lot of computer games, all my time went on that, but it was during Last Christmas when i realized what i had done and that was pointless. So that was my Black Swan moment when i stopped those silly computer games and started hanging more with my friends, that changed my personality a lot and friends also say it’s more fun to be with me than before.
2.If i’d have the chance to go back in time, i woundn’t change anything beacause its not even possible and by correcting some mistake in the past i can make more mistakes in the future. Theres always a consequence.
3.My fauvorite childshood memory : Hmmm.. i have no idea
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Jenny Says:
June 7th, 2009 at 6:34 am1.Black Swan Moment: I have had several so It’s hard to pick one.
2.I would go back in time to the last night I saw my grandpa and tell him I loved him one last time because the next day he had a heart attack and passed away.
3.What is your favorite childhood memory? When my grandpa use to pick me up under my arms and swing me back and fourth every night when he came over for dinner after my grandmother’s passing. (same grandpa as above)
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#rnell@ $@nt¡ll¡ Says:
June 7th, 2009 at 11:18 amI don’t understand a black swam moment is a good event or a bad one? I’m confused.
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Ruthie Says:
June 7th, 2009 at 3:54 pmI think a black swan moment can be either…just life-changing. As Allison said, “A Black Swan moment is a moment in time when you knew your life would change forever. When you never knew it was possible to have a swan any other color than white and a black one appears in front of you one day and you entire life is changed.”
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Jade Ruby Says:
June 7th, 2009 at 4:49 pm1) The evening that I opened my eyes to see that the universe is more than what most modern ideas explained It to be, then later finding out that it’s been true for centuries.
2) While in the midst of rebellion, I should’ve still told my mom that I loved her.
3) If I had to choose *one* for right now? One day when I the first to make tracks in fresh snow.
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Lorraine Says:
June 7th, 2009 at 7:36 pmMy Swan moment was unfortunately negative, in the vein of a broken family. If I had a time my machine, I’d tell my younger self not to be such a worry wort or too serious and never let opportunities that were knocking at my door then to pass. Lastly, my favorite childhood memory was being a part of the Christmas church presentation.
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djwarcr Says:
June 8th, 2009 at 3:14 pmsorry for getting off topic here.
1 question for Allison, what are the odds for someone like me who lives in Costa Rica, having a true, respectful friendship with the real Allison Mack. ??
To answer 1 of the questions,
My fav childhood memory were the moments i spent with my father, now he rest in peace -
Ornella Sant¡ll¡ Says:
June 9th, 2009 at 3:44 pmThanks Ruthie!!!
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Ornella Sant¡ll¡ Says:
June 9th, 2009 at 4:01 pm1- My black swam moment was when I got my degree as an English Teacher and started to work at schools. That changed my life and mind completely! I’m a relaxed and funny person now and people around me have noticed that.
2- I wouldn’t go back on time because I always say what I have to say and do not regret about it. But I always think twice about the way how to tell something!
3-My favourite childhood memory is when Gina, my little sister was born! I realized that I would never be alone!
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Mat Says:
June 9th, 2009 at 8:52 pm1. My Black Swan moment happened right at the end of high school. I hurt someone without meaning to. That was when I realized that bad things can be caused by inaction. As long as we don’t know something, we have to guess…that is why communication is so important. Because guesses are so inaccurate.
2. I would go back and tell I very special girl that I love her. Back then I thought that I wasn’t good enough for her, but now I know that I would have found a way to be. She was very simple and modest, but I had a lot of admiration for her great qualities and had more respect for her than anyone else. We have not spoken since her wedding.
3. Playing soccer with friends. That state of well-being we were in, just running outside without a care in the world. When we get older physical activity is seen as a luxury by some and a worry by others, which is why these gatherings are now sparse and depleted by the sacrifice of fair-play. Fortunately, some people still think it’s fun to exercise and know how to win or lose gracefully. We just have to find ‘em and stick by ‘em.
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thejazzking Says:
June 11th, 2009 at 4:31 pm1. I genuinely don’t think I’ve ever had a Black Swan moment
2. When on a university open day I met a lovely girl from Ireland and we got on really well – just chatting about things we had in common. We were supposed to meet later that day but for reasons unknown it didn’t happen. I wish I had asked for an address, email anything to keep in contact. Live and learn…
3. A simple British holiday in Anglesey, Wales with my whole family. Just a wonderful time when we were all together. It’s not often we have such large family gatherings now, however thinking about this has spurred me to try and arrange one
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Beth Says:
June 14th, 2009 at 12:21 pm1) When I finally met the guy I knew I could have a real relationship with as oppose to that highschool crap we all have to suffer through first. It was one of those amazing moments when you know you’ve made an unspoken connection with another human being. It was awesome.
2) When about a year ago one of my friends told me he loved me and
I was too scared to say anything back. I had never been in that situation
before and I just completely froze up and I also didnt actually know if I wanted to say it back to him or not. Another factor was that one of his friends was with us at the time so it wouldn’t have been the most private conversation. Looking back on it now, I wish I could have given him some kind of definitive answer which obviously I didnt have at the time. We’re still friends now but he lives in another country and it wouldnt be a great convo to
have on facebook. I seriously doubt we could’ve gotten that moment back.
3) For some reason it took me a while to come up with this answer. As soon as I started thinking about it I realised I had
a lot of trouble remembering some parts of my childhood which I think is a little sad but anyway…I was on holiday with family friends and I was with my sisters in our friend’s unit one night hanging out with the rest of the kids. My best friend at the time was with us and she had just been given this new computer game for christmas so after watching her and her sister kick each other asses with it I begged her for a turn and she handed over her control. I had never been that good at video games so I just wanted to see if this time would be any different and to my surprise and everyone else’s, I totally kicked ass and won the game. We were all really high on soft drink and lollies and I was really hyper and excited because I just won and I was surrounded by other kids who had been watching me and cheering me on. We all ended up getting yelled at because it was actually after one am which I hadnt even realised
but it was totally worth it because I had such a good time. Then this really
good song came on the radio and my sister, best friend and I jumped up onto one of the beds in the room and just started dancing like crazy to it. Actually,
now that its all coming back to me I remember that to this day if I hear that
song or see a video clip of it on tv I just have to laugh because it brings the
whole night back. It was a pretty awesome experience. I’m not entirely sure about this but I think it may have actually been New Years Eve too. -
apocalypselate Says:
June 16th, 2009 at 6:23 pm1. My Black Swan moment…I would say when I met my highschool friends. They’re the most amazing people i ever met. I never thought it could exist such concentration of good people inside one only classroom. They changed the way I used to see the world, they changed my world and they changed me at the deepest level.
2. “I love you” I wish I would have said it more to my grandparents with whom I and my mom lived until they passed away.
3. I can’t really recall much of my childhood….so…this gonna sound weird lol. My grandmother’s brother funeral. The room had red velvet on the walls and at the center, near the coffin. I was around 4-5 years old and I had full understanding of what was happening. I knew what death was, that I would never see him again and that it was sad for all of the people there. Nevertheless, I was fascinated to a ridiculous extent by that red velvet. I stared and stared while getting this feeling of…..transcendence. It was really weird but amazing. -
Brittany Says:
June 20th, 2009 at 11:53 pm1) Hmm… probably when I entered high school. It made me feel grown up but incredibly scared at the same time.
2) I’d go up to these girls whom bullied me when I was in the 3rd grade and say: “Fuck Off!”
.3) Probably playing with my cousins.
I really like these questions thing! Great idea!!!
BrittanyXOXOXO
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shdrk Says:
June 21st, 2009 at 7:09 pmDear MS Allison I a big fan of smallville i was wondering if you are going too be in season eight and if your are what type of new things would you been doing? Also would you be working with the meteor kids again From shdrk aka isaiah xoxoxoxo
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suicide1995 Says:
June 30th, 2009 at 11:10 pm1. Black swan moment? I guess I’ve had a few in my life. One of the most important was when I was about 8 years old. I was listening to two sets of conversatations taking place between my friends on both sides of me. One in purticular on my left said that he wasn’t scared to fight someone of my right. He said it in joking. At the time I just wanted to see his his reaction so I told the guy on my right what lefty (not his real name) said. Well righty(not his real name either”S”) didnt like it so much. They started argueing before clas started and they circled each other like each one was ready to throw a punch. I remember being all excited because they were going to fight. I could see everyone gathering in a circle around them, but the teacher came and broke it up. Well, I get to class and I’m still on this huge high from the fight. Our teacher found out about, Ms. Buck was her name, she gave the whole class a lecture about how bad it is to fight. She was disgusted when we circled the two and cheer the fight on. She said… “All because one person couldn’t keep quite about what they heard.” Then it dawned on me that she wasn’t lecturing the class… she was lecturing me.
I felt so small that day. So dumb. You have no idea how many fights Ive walked away from just because it brings back the feeling. Even when I fight with my brothers(like all brothers do) every time afterwards I feel so rotten.
2. Wish you could say something to someone in the past and who?
I always wish I could have told Walt Disney something nice. To just meet him would have been an honor. To me, he just seems like a truely desent man. It was always my loss for never meeting him or talking to him. I would say something to him, or Charles Dickens if I ever got a chance.
3. Best childhood memory…
I went to a sort of small high school when I was young. maybe 110 people in the senior year. I knew everyone’s name and they all knew mine. In middle school there were two people that were acquaintances, J.J. Castro and Abigail Nunes. We would say hi to each other when we passed the halls but we never had anything in common to talk about… or so we thought. While on summer vacation in our 7th grade, we three got throw on a field trip sponsored by our church. Which was a surprise to me cause I nnever seen them in church. But J.J. went to a brother church, and Aby went to one in another town. Well since we were all in the same grade we sat close to each other to talk to someone our own age. I’ll be damn if I didn’t have the most fun talking to these two. It was about a 2 and half hour trip to sea world and the time must have flown by. I had more fun on the bus trip then at the water park. Needless to say, we became good friends after that and in high school J.J. asked Aby to be his girlfriend. Today they are married with three beautiful kids. My two best friends. -
RenFaireWiz Says:
July 1st, 2009 at 8:43 am1) No such moment.
2) I’d go back to the last time I saw my father alive and tell him that I love him.
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Ivy Icetree Says:
July 8th, 2009 at 3:27 am1) When I finally signed a contract with a small time publisher. I guess it could be counted as a Black Swan moment, considering how small and unimportant I seem in comparison to such a big world. That contract is as big as big could ever get… Though I’m only still in High School and have many more years ahead of me. Maybe things would change by then.
2) I’d go a year back, to Literature class, where I knew the answers but never raised my hand to recite…where I had questions and comments but was too much of a coward to voice them out…where I had a teacher who asked all these amazing questions that made me think and come up with unique answers. We only appreciate and see the value of things once they’ve gone… Kind of like Emily Dickenson’s “Water is taught by thirst.”
3) Hiking with my dad in the mountains/forests. We took another route towards a creek, found a group of hikers and joined them in a more difficult route. I fell a couple of times, got tiny hair-like thorns in my hands, and found some snake’s skin. I may have gone out of there in a mess, but it gave me a sense of self-fulfillment to know I passed—I conquered the forest and it repaid me by making me stronger. -
Ben Says:
July 9th, 2009 at 11:27 amHey Ms.Mack,
1) Well my black swan moment is right now, Im stepping in to high school and I have a gut feeling my life WILL change forever. And also all my church friends some of them are in high school and they all say ” Dude Ruben good luck in high school but everything is gonna change” and there examples were your definetly make new friends and you will meet teachers that are mean or nice or who dont even care. Well that made feel better about high school …….. not. Ok question #2
2) Well If I had time machine I would go back in time tell a girl I’ve had crush since 6th grade. But she dating someone.
3) My favorite childhood memory is when me and my friend Talyor started drawing and drew so many pictures and one a librarian came and said ” how would like to draw for kids while there in the library so they color” so we said yeah why not. Then our friend Aayush ( I-yoosh) came along and said can I join you that made us happy. The next day in the library there were kids all over our drawings and they said thanks now the library is actually fun, what felt good about it was the smile on the kids face made us happy. We thought if the kids are happy then were happy. It actually felt like an acheivement, a success, a happiness through kids. That was my favorite childhood memory. )
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tabby76 Says:
July 12th, 2009 at 2:34 amMy swan moment was when I woke up one morning and realized i was an unofficial mom.I know that sounds weird I’m a girl how could I not know.I was raising my neice and didn’t notice because taking care of her was and still is the most natural and loving presence in my life. 2.I would go back to high school and say the right words and do the the right actions to save my two best friends in the world.They took their lives when we were all sixteen and I never even had a clue they were hurting.I would love to see where we all be right now in our lives and not a day goes by that I don’t think of them and smile through my tears. 3.My favorite childhood memory is road trips to Seattle, WA.We live about an hour away but my father knows everything thing and place in Seattle he is a personal tour guide.We would start with breakfast at 410 cafe our favorite restaurant and still is. We just spend the whole day driving around and he has a new story about where we are that I have never heard.Those trips are still my favorite thing to do.P.S.IF YOU GET A CHANCE TO VISIT SEATTLE YOU HAVE TO EAT AT DICK’S DRIVE IN BEST FOOD IN THE CITY.
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mmichaelc Says:
July 24th, 2009 at 5:34 am1. What is your Black Swan moment? A Black Swan moment is a moment in time when you knew your life would change forever. When you never knew it was possible to have a swan any other color than white and a black one appears in front of you one day and you entire life is changed.
This is hard. I think mine is when I went to university and I was in this new world where I could do whatever I wanted because no one knew me and I didn’t know anyone else.
2. If you had a time machine and could go back and say something you wish you had said, but will never have the chance to say, what would it be and to whom?
I probably would have told a few people to f**k off.
3. What is your favorite childhood memory?
Watching free willy for the first time… Nah, that’s not number one.
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Firefly390 Says:
August 30th, 2009 at 1:26 amThe answers to your (ALLISON I HOPE) questions are as follows:
1.If you think about it,life is full of such moments.These moments make up your entire life, so how could you name one?
Simply put , that was a difficult question MISS ALLIS2.The time machine eh .Life is good the way it is, it is flowing in one direction for a purpose.
But the time machine could come in handy if it provided me the opportunity to meet you when you were young, and be your friend forever.(Jesus is on the list to, alongside you).3.The memory would be when i was WRITTEN OFF as an intelligent child of the family for having B’s Instead of A’s and i proved them wrong by scoring an A and being among the Top 10 when more then 50,000 people competed.
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Your devoted fan forever, -
joe clark Says:
September 15th, 2009 at 6:13 pm1.would you ever date a younger guy? 2.are you on facebook? 3.of clark’s powers witch one would you like to have? 4.is there any way to talk to you 1 on 1?
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Jeanmarie Says:
January 6th, 2010 at 9:53 pmAllison asks everyone:
1. What is your Black Swan moment? A Black Swan moment is a moment in time when you knew your life would change forever. When you never knew it was possible to have a swan any other color than white and a black one appears in front of you one day and you entire life is changed.
My black swan moment was that when I got a call that my husband, best friend, and father of my children had been struck by a hit and run drunk driver-left for dead. He is now left with traumatic brain damage and other non life threatening ailments, but is not the “same” person I married and shared life long goals and dreams with. I now am his loving, yet empty, care giver rather then his lover and companion.
2. If you had a time machine and could go back and say something you wish you had said, but will never have the chance to say, what would it be and to whom?
I have no regrets of words left unsaid, but would love to hug my dad and tell him i love him and that I earned a college degree.
3. What is your favorite childhood memory?
Of the many, Perhaps one that did not occur only once but often–when my mom’s brother’s and sister & families would come for dinner and the time spent on Sunday afternoons and evenings with cousins were never ending fun and laughter.
Thank you for being my match up on facebook leading me to your home page. I love the “Cookie Lady” video and story. You have inspired me and I will be thinking of a way to put this information to good use.
You’ve gotten me hooked =). -
CowboyUp316 Says:
February 18th, 2010 at 11:46 am1. What is your Black Swan moment? A Black Swan moment is a moment in time when you knew your life would change forever. When you never knew it was possible to have a swan any other color than white and a black one appears in front of you one day and you entire life is changed.
Well the only thing I can think of to be my Black Swan I would say would have to be this moment in time. In the past couple of weeks I have had a hard time. My grandpa passed away 1 Feb. I am stationed in Georgia and didn’t get a chance to tell him “I love u”. My family and I knew he was in a bad condition and was going to pass. I was going to leave the Saturday after he passed to go see him in the Hospice but he was ready to go. It was hard for my mom to see him in the condition he was before he died. He couldn’t eat and as a result he got extremely skinny (skin and bones). The last day he was alive all of my family went up to see him (besides me) and his throat was caved in and he couldn’t talk. He tried so hard to tell his daughters three words “I love you” and just could not speak to get those last words out. He was having hard time breathing and my family knew this was the last time they would see him. As he was trying to say those words my mom told him “I know you love us and we love you to”. I can just feel how heartbroken my grandpa was to not be able to tell his daughter he loved them. When my mom and aunt were about to leave he could only shed a tear as they kissed him on his forehead. 15 minutes after they left they got a call that he had died. When my mom called me and told me it was hard to believe that I will never see my grandpa again. I left Georgia to go home to Mississippi the next day. Well that is not entirely my Black Swan moment. I also just got the news that my mom has Breast Cancer. She was getting results when my grandpa was still alive and I believe that is one reason he lived as long as he did. My mom just got the news that it is 100% cancer and that she is in the beginning stage (T1? I think). My mom is not very health and well I am concerned for her. She is getting more tests done to know if the cancer is in her blood cells. All of this is new to me and the information could get crossed. I asked my mom if she would tell the doctor to call me. Hopefully she calls. I have a lot of things going wrong in my life now and trying my best to stay strong and positive. I believe I am doing a good job, but maybe because I have not took it into reality that all of this is happening.
2. If you had a time machine and could go back and say something you wish you had said, but will never have the chance to say, what would it be and to whom?
I wish I could have told my grandpa that I love him. For the most part I try not to go through life with regrets. I also sometimes go by the saying “shit happens”.
3. What is your favorite childhood memory?
My favorite childhood memory I believe is……. When me and my friends backyard wrestled. We use to beat the crap out of each other on the trampoline. We always taped our matches. It was crazy and fun. I still have a tape I made of it (clips/scenes from different matches. Kind of like the beginning of Smallville). We are grown now and doing our own separate things, but we can always go back in time to the fun memories we all had. I wish I could live those years over and over again.
If anyone knows anything about cancer that maybe could be helpful or just info then you can e-mail me at Cowboy2theCore316@yahoo.com. Take Care and God Bless!
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SmallvilleGirl Says:
March 31st, 2010 at 9:15 pm1. When I was receiving my report and it was disappointing, my mom pray for me and I feel GOD helps me and change my life.
2. I would go back and say that I love my family
3. I don’t have any favorite childhood moment, I think…
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